From our Pastor, Daphne Clement

“The Meeting for Worship is, however, not all silence. The silence is preparation. One listens before one speaks. There is a quickening power in the living silence… Where the temperature and atmosphere of the group are right, the one who prays or speaks is not just a solitary individual saying words. One becomes in some real sense a voice for the cooperating group. There is more in the words than we consciously know or explicitly think out.” Rufus Jones

There has been some wonderful vocal ministry rising out of the waiting silence in the past six weeks or so. And though, from time to time, there are those amongst us who are especially gifted and offer messages full of Spirit… we are ALL ministers… and each of us, no matter how shy we may feel… are, from time to time, called to rise and say a few words.

During Worship on the last Sunday of February, your pastor sensed that there was a message trying to rise, and yet there must have been some hesitation for there was no vocal ministry… and that hesitation did seem to change the quality of the silence in which we were waiting.

I remember well the fear that I felt the first time I rose to offer ministry in Meeting for Worship… because we do have such a strong sense of God’s presence there with us, it is an awesome thing to rise and say a few words. And, it so easy to forget that even the ordinary events of life, when held up into the Light are sacred; and that the most meaning full ministry is neither fancy nor polished, it is heart felt.

In the Atlanta Meeting there was a large Burundi refugee population, and from time to time someone would rise and offer vocal ministry in Burundi; words which most Friends could not understand yet often someone would comment later that those Burundi words had indeed “spoken to their condition.” This reminds me of the quote from John Woolman’s Journal about his ministry while traveling amongst the Delaware Indians:

“On the evening of the 18th I was at their meeting, where pure gospel love was felt, to the tendering of some of our hearts. The interpreters endeavored to acquaint the people with what I said, in short sentences, but found some difficulty, as none of them were quite perfect in English and Delaware tongues, so they helped one another, and we labored along, Divine love attending. Afterwards, feeling my mind covered with the spirit of prayer, I told the interpreters that I found it in my heart to pray to God, and believed, if I prayed aright, he would hear me; and I expressed my willingness for them to omit interpreting; so our meeting ended with a degree of Divine love. Before the people went out, I observed Papunehang (the man who had been zealous in laboring for a reformation in that town, being then very tender) speaking to one of the interpreters, and I was afterwards told that he said in substance as follows: “I love to feel where words come from.”

So, let us when we feel called to offer a few words of vocal ministry take courage and rise… let us, also, make it our practice to listen to the vocal ministry in our meeting in the same deep way that Papunehang listened to John Woolman… and then, let us, trust in the Divine love that attends us in our waiting Worship.

State of the Society, 2010

Prepared by Ministry and Counsel, approved at Monthly Meeting
March 20,2011

“Let us cherish the seed of God in ourselves and in others, that we may be open to new revelations of truth. Let us look to our meetings to guide and stimulate our spiritual growth.” Advices on Spiritual Life, F and P, NEYM, 1985

How have we been open to truth and how has our meeting guided and stimulated us? At the end of the first decade of the twenty-first century after the birth of Jesus, what do we offer to our families, our community and our world that speaks to “that of God” in each of us?

Our spiritual community has been deeply enriched by the work and messages from our interim pastor, Andrew Grannell. Our Pastoral Search Committee worked diligently and deliberately to call the best qualified Friend to our midst, Daphne Clement. Our Youth Minister and her able assistants provide a rich array of resources and opportunities to our beloved youth. They made a field trip to Philadelphia, worshipped with our Shaker neighbors and visited the Heifer Project. Attendance at Sunday School, Youth Passages and adult religious education has been consistent and strong.

The Woman’s Society has been active, raising more money in their annual yard sale than ever, and thus has more to give away. Our worship time is enlivened by the gifts of music, ministry and silent waiting. We offered Quaker Quest to our neighbors to let them know that they are welcome among Friends.

We have been ably led by our co-clerks, and the faithful stewards of all our gifts, spiritual, financial and material. We have completed extensive work on our buildings, making them more energy efficient, welcoming and as well ordered as resources allowed. We welcomed new attenders and mourned the passing of several of our members who were inspiring in their lives of grace and faithfulness. We grow older and bolder, but take time to offer each other fellowship and support in times of illness and duress. We know the power of love and tenderness and have heard repeatedly the calls to forgiveness.

We need to take the love and concern we experience in our meeting and pour it out in the rest of our lives. We have benefited from the ministry of traveling Friends, from our deepening connections with our Quarter through Quaker Quest. We are distressed to find ourselves without unity in matters that speak directly to our testimonies and pray that unity with all Friends, everywhere, may be found. We rejoice in our connections to Kakamega, Cuba, Kaimosi and Ramallah. We wish to offer more to the needy in our own neighborhoods, to feed the hungry, shelter the homeless and clothe those in need. We pray for peace.

We have found comfort in the metaphor of the potluck. Each of us brings what we are able, and we gather joyfully to share the bounty. It does not matter if we have little or nothing to bring, there is always enough. And being with each other, in light and laughter while giving thanks, is our deepest blessing. We are grateful.

Durham Monthly Meeting Minutes, March 20, 2011

March 20, 2011

Durham Monthly Meeting of Friends convened on Sunday, March 20, 2011, at 12:20 P.M., with 17 people present.   Clerk Edwin Hinshaw read a selection from Faith and Practice on: “Proceed in the Wisdom of God” by E. Burrough (pg 114) and “All Are Co-workers” from Pendle Hill (p. 115).

1. In the absence of a Recording Clerk, Susan Rice served as Recording Clerk for the day.

2.  Katharine Hildebrandt, Treasurer, presented the report for February.  Income for February was $3,734.77; expenses were $5,389.56.    The report was accepted with thanks. [Report attached]

3. It was approved that anyone can bring a request to Monthly Meeting for money to be used from the Charity Account, but that the decision regarding this request should be held to the following month.

Durham Monthly Meeting of Friends

4. Finance Committee reported:

A. Eileen Babcock is clerk for the committee.

B. Joe Godleski presented his audit reports for 2009 for both the Cemetery Funds and the Finance Committee Funds.  The books for both funds got glowing approval from the auditor. Those audits were accepted by the Meeting with appreciation and are attached.

5.  A concern was brought that the NEYM funds are being invested through the management of Bank of America, which has business practices contrary to Friends values.  It was agreed that a letter to the Board of Managers of Investments and Permanent Funds for NEYM be written with this concern.  Leslie Manning and Betsy Muench will work on this letter together.

6. It was agreed that if a fund is restricted by the donor it should be noted in the fund’s name so as to make it clear to everyone in the future.

7.  Markus Schlotterbeck requested a Travel Minute for the purpose of introduction to meetings in the Philadelphia area where he is moving to soon.   This was approved with love and joy.

8.  Leslie Manning reported for Ministry and Counsel.

A. Leslie is clerk of M&C and Nancy Marstaller is recording clerk.

B.  The State of Society Report for 2010 was presented and was approved as amended.

C.  Bids for a new Sound System are coming in for us to consider next month

D. The FUM Chain of Prayer day is Easter Sunday, April 24th.

E. M&C has received responses from the survey on un-programmed worship, which showed wide interest for un-programmed worship on the 5th Sundays.  It was proposed that these Sundays will be fully un-programmed.  It was agreed that there will still be an offering and announcements at the end of those meetings.  M&C will decide how to let people coming in be aware of what an un-programmed meeting is and a way for welcoming newcomers.

F. Adult Sunday School has agreed to meet in the Sunday School room which makes it possible for Friends to enter at an earlier time into the meeting room and begin quiet worship.

G. There will be a sunrise service on Easter Sunday at the Simpson Cemetery off the River Road.

H. Following the deep listening the Meeting did on the Personnel Policy of FUM, Ministry and Counsel presented the following:

In regard to the NEYM withholding policy:  “We cherish our relationship with FUM and urge full financial support for all of their endeavors.  Equally dear to us are Friends who, as a matter of         conscience, are unable to unite with us in this support.”

M&C also recommends that FUM remove the current Personnel Policy and replace it with the following:    “If the applicant is a member of the Society of Friends:

The applicant asks for Clearness Committee within the Monthly Meeting where membership resides.

The Monthly Meeting provides a letter of recommendation following the Clearness process, if appropriate.

The letter of recommendation goes to the Yearly Meeting, which provides a letter of recommendation to FUM, if approved.

Friends United Meeting makes final decision in conjunction with Applicant.”

It was approved that we hold this in our heart and let it season for one month.   In the meantime, anyone who wishes to speak with a M&C member in its regard should do so.  And it will come to Monthly Meeting in April.

I. On the fourth Sunday of each month, the pastor, if she wishes, will have a special event or focus after meeting for worship.   Committees should check with her if they want to schedule something on the fourth Sundays.

9.  Daphne Clement presented the Pastor’s Report, which included many visits and committee work.  She noted that work on the website is making major strides forward.   Pastor’s Support Committee members are:  Sue Wood, Phyllis Wetherell, Macy Whitehead, Betsy Stivers and Margaret Wentworth.  Daphne’s report is attached.

10.  Wendy Schlotterbeck gave the Youth Minister’s report.  First, she thanked everyone who helped out with the Rise Up Singing concert.  The young people were thrilled with the concert, which was very well attended and brought in $1000!    Attendance at Godly Play is growing.   Passages is focusing on conscientious objection.  Upcoming events include the Playing in the Light workshop (April 15-17) at the meetinghouse.  Michael Gibson, this workshop leader, will be bringing the message on Palm Sunday, April 17.

Big appreciation was given to Wendy for her leadership and all her work on the concert.

11. Susan Rice reported for Peace and Social Concerns.  The two primary areas that they would like to focus on are LACO and how the military budget effects human needs.   For LACO:

A. They would like to have the meeting fill-to-overflowing the box for LACO each month with recommended items.   The items for April are peanut butter and tuna fish.   People are encouraged to bring in items through April so that the box will be overflowing by Easter Sunday.

B.  A fundraising dinner will take place on Saturday, June 25.  There will be a strong effort to invite people who live in the local area.

12.  Jo-an Jacobus reported for the newsletter committee.   The website is coming along handsomely and an initial version of it is already on line.  A lot more is being developed for it.   After Markus Schlotterbeck leaves Maine, it will be Jo-an who continues with up-dating it.

13.  Dorothy DeLoach presented the Meeting’s Annual Statistical Report being prepared for NEYM and suggestions were made to her.  She will get further direction from NEYM for what they want and will bring that back next month.

14. The minutes of the Monthly Meeting were approved during the meeting.

15. The Meeting adjourned, continuing in the spirit of worship, at 2:45 P.M.

Susan Rice, Recording Clerk for the Day

Playing in the Light Training Workshop

By Wendy Schlotterbeck

We are delighted to be the host for a “Playing in the Light” workshop April 15, 16, and 17. Michael Gibson from Friends General Conference will be the lead trainer. Because our Sunday School is growing, we need more teachers and would like to offer another class for the middle school age Friends next year.  Please consider if you would like to grow into this wonderful way of helping children understand God.  Please contact Wendy Schlotterbeck for more information about this exciting event.

Easter Pie Sale

By Angie Reed

Orders are currently being taken for pies of all types to be distributed Easter Sunday morning.  Pies will be sold for a suggested donation of $15.00. To order please contact Theresa Oleksiw at either 449-0700, or 865-6495. Types of pies available for order include Pecan, Apple-berry, Chocolate Cream, Banana Cream, or Blueberry. Other types of pie may be available upon request.  This is a Woman’s Society fundraiser, and a portion of these funds will be earmarked for the Adopt-a-Nurse program.

Please save this date:

May 28 – Yard Sale!

By Angie Reed

The Annual Woman’s Society Yard Sale will be Saturday, May 28.  This is Memorial Day weekend, please plan to share some time with us that weekend.  Please start now saving your “yard sale” items.  They can be dropped off at the meetinghouse no earlier than Sunday, May15.  Plants can be dropped off up to the morning of the sale.  Plant pots are available in the horse shed.  Unsold donated items larger than a small microwave are the responsibility of the donator and must be removed if unsold.  Volunteer sign-up sheets will be coming soon.  Keep your eyes open for volunteer opportunities.

Woman’s Society Report for March

By Angie Reed

The Woman’s Society met on March 21 at the Meeting House.  Twelve individuals gathered a few minutes early on that snowy night for a Silent Auction, and meeting.  Angie Reed presented the Devotions on letting God’s plan for you reveal itself over time and read a story about a Salt Doll and the Sea.  Nancy Marstaller presented the program from Blueprints and discussed how we can learn to forgive others and, with more difficulty, ourselves.  Those who attended shared experiences related to both topics.

In Business, prayers were asked for Libya, Japan and for Getry Agizah who is coordinator of Friends Peace Teams in Kenya and is currently traveling in the US.  The Tedford Meal for March was chicken and gravy, squash, rice, a veggie or salad dish, garlic bread and a desert.  We approved a request from a member to gather toiletry items for Japan.  We discussed the need for more juice glasses for the Meeting House.  The date of May 28th was set for the Yard Sale.  Kitsie ended the meeting with inspirational kitchen quotes.  Phyllis Wetherell prepared gingerbread and other goodies. The next meeting will be on April 18 at Clarabel Marstaller’s home. All are welcome to attend.

Please do not t forget to order your pies!

Easter Breakfast

will be brought to you by the men of the Meeting.
They will be serving: pancakes, eggs, potatoes, bacon, sausage, juice, smoothies, etc.
They will be serving from 8-9
Suggested donation:
Adults – $5,
Age 6-18 – $3:50
Under 6 – free
To volunteer, see / call David Marstaller, 751-1339

Chain of Prayer

Easter Sunday, April 24, is our day on the Chain of Prayer.  If you would like to sign up for an hour – or more – the sign up sheet is on the bulletin board by the pass-through.

Readers Wanted

By Angie Reed

Monthly meeting has approved Sunday, May 22 as the date for a potluck and intergenerational book discussion at the Meeting House. Please read any of Greg Mortensen’s books and join us to share your thoughts on your reading. These books are available on Woman’s Society shelves, and at your local library or bookstore. The book titles are: Three Cups of Tea, in adult and junior versions, Stones into Schools, and Listen to the Wind, in picture book format.

These books are part of this year’s United Society of Friends Women International (USFWI) reading program.  Woman’s Society participates in this program.  If anyone has any extra copies of these books they would like to share with others at the meeting, please let Angie Reed know or just put your name in the book and place it on the Women’s Society Reading program shelf.       Happy Reading!

Sorting of Meeting Documents Begins

Margaret Wentworth

Work has begun to sort and organize the documents that have been stored at the meetinghouse. Those of historical value for research will be deposited in the Maine Historical Society in Portland. Some records need to be kept as part of the records of the meeting. The library of the meeting will be storing the documents that have current historical value to the meeting.

Donations for Japan

By Angie Reed

Woman’s Society is coordinating efforts with Ann Ruthsdottir to send one or more packages of toiletry items to Japan. We will be collecting toiletries such as combs, tooth- and hairbrushes, toothpaste, soaps, shampoos, hand sanitizers, razors, and other basic items for men, women, and children. Please look for the labeled box at the meetinghouse. Items will be collected until Easter (April 24).

Easter Morning Sunrise

Join Durham Friends for a Sunrise Service on Easter morning at 5:30am at Simpson Cemetery, on River Road Brunswick.  The men of DFM will serve breakfast from 8 to 9.  After breakfast the Special Events committee will offer craft projects for the children and our traditional Easter Egg Hunt for the youngest ones.  Be sure you don’t leave for home without the pies you ordered for Easter dinner.

All Maine Gathering

Margaret Wentworth

The All Maine Gathering is Saturday, April 30 at Friends Camp. This is a chance to visit with Friends from all over Maine and look at the Camp. Gathering begins at 9 and it ends at about 3:30. The schedule includes music, worship, art and spirituality, lunch (provided by Camp), Quarterly meetings for business and closings circle. There will be programs for children and youth. Pay on a sliding scale. (Camp charges $18). Please call Margaret Wentworth before April 26 if you plan to go so you can eat. For more information, call Margaret at 725.6935.

After Meeting Refreshments Schedule

April 2011 THROUGH July 2011

April

3          Glenice Hutchins & Al Anderson
10        Macy Whitehead, Sukie Rice
17        (Palm Sunday) Patty Carton & John Newlin
24        (Easter) Jeannie Baker Stinson & family, Theresa Oleksiw & Abby Fortune

May

1          Sue Wood, Dorothy Curtis
8          Nancy Marstaller, Clarabel Marstaller
15        Betsy Stivers & family
22        David & Kathy Brown
29        Sarah Sprogell, Leslie Manning
June

4          Linda Muller & Jim McCarthy
12        Bee Douglas, Nancy Marstaller, Jo-an Jacobus
19        Helen Clarkson, Julie Krejsa
26        Margaret Wentworth, Phyllis Wetherell

July

3          Kitsie Hildebrandt, Clarabel Marstaller
10        Glenice Hutchins & Al Anderson
17        Brenda Masse, Wayne Hollingworth
24        Dotty DeLoach, Don Goodrich
31        Sukie Rice, Susan Wood

Monthly Meeting Wish List

This is a repeat request.  If anyone has a basic laptop they could donate to the Meeting, it would be gratefully received.  It would be used for the Treasurer to keep the Meeting’s accounts, using Quicken.  There would be no need for an Internet connection.  This would also enable the Treasurer to bring the computer to Monthly Meeting, allowing immediate access to the Meeting’s financial information.  Please contact Kitsie Hildebrandt if you can help in this matter.

Fill the LACO box for April

Sukie Rice
People asking Lisbon Area Christian Outreach (LACO) asking Food Pantry for help has doubled this year. At the same time, sources of food donations are harder to find.  Durham Meeting’s Peace and Social Concerns Committee is taking on this need as one of its high priorities.  We hope each month to fill a box to overflowing with food for to LACO, concentrating on a couple of items.  The items for April are tuna fish, peanut butter and pasta. Our goal is to fill our box to overflowing by Easter Sunday.  Please bring in your donations to help us meet our goal.  A big “Thank You” to the Meeting for reaching our goal in February with a huge amount of flour and sugar.
Thank You!

Sunday Schedule

Adult Sunday School is 9:30 to 10:20 AM.

Children’s Sunday School is 1st and 3rd Sundays beginning in Meeting for Worship, then going to the Christian Education rooms after the Children’s Story.

Meeting for Worship starting at 10:25AM with a hymn sing until 10:35AM.

A Newsletter Delivery Request

Jo-an Jacobus

At this time about one half of Durham Friends’ newsletters delivered go in hard copy, on paper, the rest via email.  The impact on the meeting of sending out so many hard copies is more significant.  Over the year, it is a major cost in paper, copier wear and tear, and postage.  In this time of increasingly significant financial shortfalls this is something meeting has asked all members to address in as many ways as they are able.

With these things in mind, the newsletter committee asks that anyone who has email but has been receiving the newsletter in hard copy consider switching to email.  If you decide you’d like to help the meeting in this way, please drop us a note at the return address on the newsletter, call 207.666.3213 or email jacobusj@gwi.net to let us know you’d like to switch.  The meeting would appreciate your help.