The 1943 Booker Quilt Returns to Durham Friends Meeting

For many years — more than I know — members of Durham Friends Meeting have made quilts to be given away. In recent years, the quilts have been given to the parents and grandparents of newly-born babies associated with the Meeting. They have also been made and gifted for other reasons. One of those quilts recently made it’s way back to Durham Friends, a gift in return of Faye Passow, an artist in Minnesota. (You can learn more about Faye here and here.) The quilt had originally been made for and given to her grandparents. We are very grateful to Faye Passow for this gift.

“I am the daughter of Lydia Passow (Booker), who was the daughter of Harold and Jennie Booker, who were members of the Durham Friends Meeting. When my mother a teenager their house burned down and they went to live with an aunt, whose house also burned down. During that time this quilt was created for them by members of the community. I believe but am not sure many were members of the Meetinghouse.

“I currently have this quilt and have no descendants to pass it to and am thinking that it might be of interest to either the Meetinghouse or a local historical society. I am writing to you first as I think you may know many of these names or their relations and might suggest the proper place for this quilt.

“…  The quilt was put together in 1943. The names on the quilt are:

Please forgive any spelling errors. The names are stitched in and not always readable.”

Here is the quilt, being shown in the Meetinghouse. Two of our quilters, Dorothy Henton Curtis and Angie Henton Reed are holding it.

In a further message, Faye Passow provided a photo of her Booker family.

“I’m sending a photo of the Booker family. Harold, upper left, would be my grandfather. Jennie Booker sits below him. Mabel Russell was my great aunt, married to Fred Russell. Mary Tarr is most likely the Mary Booker of the quilt square. She is my great aunt also, sister of Harold. She was married in 1944, so after the quilt was created. She died in 1994. The unknown men in the photo are probably Harold’s brothers: Ralph Howard Booker and Raymond Phillips Booker. Harriet Booker was married to Ralph.

“My grandfather’s parents were Eugene Loring Booker and Sarah (Sadie) Rowena (Cox) Booker. She is likely the Sadie you refer to. Born 1868, died 1928.

“Barbara (Russell) Weldon and Doris (Russell) Dupal are the only close relatives remaining that I know of in Maine. One of Doris’ children is married to a Reed, which I believe there is a firewood business in Durham related to the Reed family.

“Also – Ella M Brown, another name on the quilt, was my grandmother Jennie’s mother. 

“Minnie Winn was probably Margaret (Brown) Winn, daughter of my grandmother’s brother Hugh. He worked at Worumbo for 50 years and apparently was known affectionately as “Jumbo” for his large size. My grandfather was an electrician at Worumbo.

“Mildred Winn was probably the wife of Carl, son of my grandmother’s brother Hugh.

“There is also an Aunt Jennie on the quilt who may be Jennie Lind (Brown) Douglas, aunt to my grandfather.

“My mother was prolific at searching out family genealogy and wrote a book on Booker and Brown ancestors. She was a member of the DAR, Colonial Dames and the Mayflower Society. She also as a side, was interested in Shiloh as a phenomenon and I have a couple of books on that subject.”

A Gift from Rachel Carey-Harper and How We Have Used It

Rachel Carey-Harper, a Quaker in New England Yearly Meeting, recently made a gift to Durham Friends.  (At the same time she made similar gifts to other Meetings in NEYM.)  She asked us to re-donate this money to causes of importance to us.  Here is what we have done. 

From the February 2025 Meeting Minutes:  The Meeting received a $2,000 gift from Rachel Carey-Harper.  She expressed a desire that the money support people who are affected by the ways in which our government is no longer funding organizations, e.g., immigrants and refugees, LGBTQ+, Women’s shelters, etc. The money may be given to more than one organization. The suggestion was made that a portion of the funds go to domestic violence survivors. Several people spoke in support of giving to Maine Immigrant and Refugee Services (MEIRS) today, the need being immediate. Clerk proposed giving $1,000 to MEIRS today, and return next month to discuss allocation of the remainder.  Meeting approved this proposal.

From the March 2025 Meeting Minutes:  “On the use of Rachel Carey-Harper’s Donation — Linda Muller.   After conducting some research, Linda Muller and Sarah Sprogell recommend the Meeting donate the remaining $1,000 (out of the original $2,000 gift) to Safe Voices, a domestic violence direct service organization working in Androscoggin, Oxford and Franklin Counties. This is a geographic area of greater risk, many towns without standing police departments. Over 2,700 women were served last year.  Meeting heartily approved this contribution.”

Rachel Carey-Harper has asked us to look at and give feedback to Healing Reflections, a new website launched with support, collaboration, and guidance from Barnstable Friends Preparative Meeting and approval of Mattapoisett Monthly Meeting. The website focuses on grounding ourselves in what connects us, healing that which separates us from each other, and ways we can move forward in love. They would like to know if you think there is anything being presented that is contrary to basic Friends faith and principles. We are encouraged to contribute to the “From the Orchestra” section which includes messages or reflections sharing our sense of Spirit.

You can learn more about the family business, Eden Hand Arts, which Rachel Carey-Harper now owns, HERE.

Maker Session and Cafe, Thursday, February 20, 5:30 to 9:00 pm

ABOUT the Maker Cafe at Durham Friends Meeting

Thursday, February 20, 2025:

**Mend Clothes with Emily Bell-Hoerth

**Live Music by Craig Freshley and Frederik Schuele

5:30-7:00 Learn How to Make a Shashiko Embroidered Patch with Emily Bell-Hoerth

All supplies provided ($7-$14 donation collected on site). Bring your clothes to mend! And sewing tools you may have. Mending helpers will be on site to assist with all mending projects.

Advance sign up required. Email Craig@Freshley.com to reserve your spot.

6:30-9:00 Maker Cafe

Live Music by Craig Freshley and Frederik Schuele

Hot drinks, snacks, and light supper available. All ages, genders, and beliefs welcome. No Charge for thr Maker Cafe, donations welcome

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Please bring a project of your own to work on. Some knitting? Mending? Painting? Sculpting? Crafting? Carving? And if you don’t bring a project, that’s okay too.

Please don’t bring your phone or other screen-based devices. This is an offline place where we try to connect with what we’re doing and who we’re with.

Maker Session and Cafe, Thursday, January 23, 5:30 to 9:00 pm

ABOUT the Maker Cafe at Durham Friends Meeting

MAKER SESSION: Learn How to Make Prayer Flags with Nancy Marstaller, 5:30 – 7:30 pm on Thursday January 23, 2025

Advance sign up required. Email Craig@Freshley.com to reserve your spot.

For this session, $5-$10 to be collected on site.

Nancy will provide all materials and instructions. You will be able to take home prayer flags that you made yourself. The Prayer Flags Maker Session will go from 5:30pm until about 7:00pm when the Cafe starts.

CAFE: 7:00 – 9:00 pm on Thursday January 23, 2025

Hot drinks, snacks, and light supper available. All ages, genders, and beliefs welcome. No Charge, donations welcome

Please bring a project of your own to work on. Some knitting? Mending? Painting? Sculpting? Crafting? Carving? And if you don’t bring a project, that’s okay too.

Please don’t bring your phone or other screen-based devices. This is an offline place where we try to connect with what we’re doing and who we’re with.

Live music by The Peterson String Band!

Pastoral Care Notes, November 23, 2024

[UPDATE, December 2]

From Leslie Manning, Meeting Care Co-ordinator:

Sue Reilly reports her heart procedure went well and she has been released to her home, with her sister there and support from her son and others. She requests ongoing prayers for a good recovery.

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Update: Operation successful, Gene is at home, feeling much better.

Gene Boyington is in the ICU at Midcoast awaiting a pacemaker.  Please hold him and Theresa in the Light, as well as Betsy Muench, who relies on him for so much help and support.

Gene is in Room 405 of Med/Surg aka ICU at Midcoast on the second floor and visitors are encouraged for short visits.  His pacemaker procedure is scheduled for Monday at 1 PM.  Please keep his doctor in prayer, as he is on call this weekend.

A complication for post-op; Theresa has round trip tix to Philly to see Abby and her family leaving Monday for next week.  Her anxiety is best served if she goes, but they are asking that we try to visit Gene once he is released home, since he will be alone.  They do have neighbors, but I suggested that they might want to speak to a social worker and see if they can get him somewhere like rehab for a couple of days post-op.

Anyway, his spirits are good; I will be back tomorrow late AM and again on Sunday afternoon.

Gene is being monitored and well cared for.

Pastoral Care Notes, October 28, 2024

Margaret de Rivera: After being hospitalized for back issues, Margaret is supposed to go home today to recuperate. Her daughter Alice Haines sent us Margaret’s address in case anyone wants to send a card. Sarah sent an email to a few of us, including Ellen, last Tuesday with the details.How should this go out to our wider community—a Friends Note or just an email to our regulars?

Her address is Margaret de Rivera/. 200 Stetson Rd.  Studio 208/. Auburn, ME 04210

Ann Ruthsdottir: Ann is to be released home tomorrow (Tuesday, October 29) with home care being provided.  

Diana White Memorial Service, June 22, 11am to 2pm

The Memorial Service and Potluck for our member Diana White will be held Saturday, June 22 from 11-2 at Durham ME Friends Meeting (durhamfriendsmeeting.org) and available on Zoom. 

The memorial service will be from 11:00 to 12:15, with the potluck lunch to follow.

Diana, formerly of Farmington and Portland Meetings, was also a clerk of Friends Committee on Maine Public Policy and active in New England Yearly Meeting in several leadership roles.  She was the first woman to serve as Treasurer of the Yearly Meeting.

To learn more about her, please read her recent First Day message postyed on this website, “What I Bring to the Spiritual Potluck.

And join us on the 22nd to celebrate her life and spirit.  All are welcome.

Meal Train for Ezra, Laura and Gabriel Smith

Gabriel was born to Ezra and Laura Smith on March 28, and is going to need an extended stay in the hospital.  Please hold them all in your prayers and thoughts. 

Ezra writes: “Thank you so much for holding us all in your prayers and keeping meeting members informed. My co-worker set up a meal train for us which will start in several weeks. It would be great if you can also pass around the link for people who are interested. The link is here: https://mealtrain.com/0m7ll4

Folks can drop stuff at our house, or at my school. There is also a section for donations. 

And thank you again for your prayers, 

Ezra Smith

Meetinghouse Use Guidelines, 2024

Durham Friends Meeting continues to monitor the health risks associated with COVID and other infectious diseases, and adjusts these guidelines for Meetinghouse use from time to time. 

We hold worship services at our Meetinghouse every Sunday.  On the 1st, 2nd and 3d Sundays (First Days) of each month, we also provide the opportunity to participate via ZOOM. 

We use air purifiers  in the worship room. Please use them for all meetings and events. You may temporarily move an air purifier from the worship room to another room that you are using for a smaller meeting. Please return it to the Meeting room after your event.  We also ask that you turn on overhead fans when using the worship room

Masks are no longer required in the Meetinghouse. For the safety of those choosing to continue wearing a mask, there is a section of the Meeting room where we ask that no one without a mask should sit. We have a supply of masks available at the entrances to the meetinghouse.

We ask that those who feel If you feel even the slightest bit unwell, please stay home and join us on Zoom.  If you come down with Covid within 3 days of attending a meeting at the meetinghouse, please contact us so that we may let others know. 

Fellowship before and after meetings is encouraged. We are continuing to be cautious about serving food, but coffee and tea are available after Meeting for Worship. 

COMMITTEE AND OTHER MEETINGS

Meetings and events should be scheduled on the Durham Friends Meeting calendar. Committee clerks can schedule meetings; others need to contact our Trustees for scheduling events. At present the trustee to contact is Sarah Sprogell. There is a link to the calendar on the Durham Monthly Meeting of Friends website. Note if it is a Zoom meeting, in person, or hybrid.

These guidelines apply to all members and attenders, as well as families or any group seeking to hold memorial services or similar events.

Time of Remembrance for Kitsie Hildebrandt, July 30, 1 to 4pm, Orr’s Island

From Kitsie’s family, posted on her Caring Bridge site:

Hello Family and Friends, 

We will be hosting a time to gather and remember Kitsie on Sunday, July 30th from 1pm to 4pm at the Orr’s Island Schoolhouse. 

You all are invited to stop by anytime between 1pm and 4pm on July 30th to share memories of Kitsie and celebrate her life. This will not be a formal service, so please, come as you are at a time that works for you. 

We will have lots of pictures of Kitsie through the years, some of her artwork, and lemonade to share. 

Thank you all for your love and support, we feel it and it helps, 

Sarah, Bill, Willis, Lori, and Matt

Orr’s Island Schoolhouse info: 1594 Harpswell Islands Rd., Orr’s Island, ME 

Notes: When parking, please be sure not to block the Fire Station, which is right next door. Car pooling is encouraged because parking is limited.

Community Care Notes

3.21.2018 The Meeting has received the startling and sad news that long-time member, Eileen Babcock passed away yesterday afternoon – Tuesday, March 20 – at Midcoast Hospital in Brunswick.  Please join us in holding her partner, Tom Frye, and her family in prayer.  More information will be sent out as plans unfold.

Tom Frye has requested that visitors not call on him at this time.  He is surrounded by family members who are supporting him.  Cards would be welcome at 17 Linwood Road, Freeport, Maine 04032.  Continued prayers would also be appreciated.

3.18.2018 Please hold Daniel and Donna Ross in the Light.  Donna just posted on the DFM Facebook page:  “Please, hold Daniel in the Light. He is back in the hospital. The ablation didn’t take and he went back into a-fib early this morning. This time the cardio vert caused damage to the muscle and they are considering pacemaker.”

3.17.2018   Please continue to hold Mike Rivera and Karen Marston in the Light.  Mike’s surgery went well; they were able to do all they intended.  Unfortunately, they also determined that Mike needs a heart bypass this time.  It will be happening early this week, again at Maine Medical Center.

All your support has been most welcome, Karen reports and she sends thanks.  Again, Mike will not be allowed visitors.  Karen requests that she not receive phone calls.  Cards, emails, and IMs are fine, just know you may… or may not receive a reply.  Prayers are welcome, too.