“Returning to the Land” Webinars from Toward Right Relationship

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UPDATE: Peace and Social Concerns is asking that Friends meet at the Meetinghouse to view these webinars together (and to do the readings suggested beforehand). .

The Peace & Social Concerns Committee at Durham Friends Meeting Invite you to a Webinar Series, January-February 2024:

“Returning to the Land” by Nia To Go There (Cree) 

Nia To Go There, PhD will offer a series of four webinars that are co-sponsored by Toward Right Relationship with Native Peoples and Decolonizing Quakers (both national Quaker organizations). Nia will recommend short readings for each program. 

January 13, 3:30-5 pm: “Returning to the Land: Cultural Perspectives.” Readings for this first session are AT THIS LINK.

January 27, 3:30-5 pm: “Returning to the Land: Seeing with a Native Eye.” Readings for this second session are AT THIS LINK.

February 10, 3:30-5 pm: “Returning to the Land: Colonization.” Readings for this third session are AT THIS LINK.

February 24, 3:30-5 pm: “Returning to the Land: Decolonization.”

Durham Friends look forward to some collective thinking about how we bring the important messages from these sessions home to Maine.

We hope to see you for all or some of these sessions at our Meetinghouse, 532 Quaker Meetinghouse Rd, Durham ME 04222.

Please contact Ingrid Chalufour at ichalufour@gmail.com with questions or to ask to have recommended readings forwarded to you.

Agenda and Materials for Durham Friends Business Meeting, July 21, 2024

Materials for the July 21, 2024 Meeting for Worship for Business can be found HERE (to be posted by Friday evening).

AGENDA FOR THE CONDUCT OF BUSINESS FOR DURHAM FRIENDS MONTHLY MEETING

1) Approval needed for Tess Hartford to Clerk the Monthly Meeting for July through September

    Tess will offer an opening prayer/reading for Worship

    2) Approve June 16, 2024 Business Meeting Minutes. Any additions, questions or corrections?    

    3) Report from Ministry and Counsel

    4) Report from Trustees

    5) Finance committee and Peace and Social Concerns do not have reports this month

    6) Other business

    7) Close with waiting worship

    Woman’s Society Minutes, June 17, 2024

    Durham Friends Woman’s Society Meeting Minutes 6.17.’24

    We gathered at the Meeting House and Dorothy Hinshaw joined us on Zoom.

    Present: Dorothy Curtis, President, Susan Gilbert, Secretary, Kim Bolshaw, Dorothy Hinshaw.

    Cards: For Friends.

    Program and Devotions: Kim read for Blueprints “Giving Thanks for Love Unexpected” by Nellie Malloy. Scripture Ephesians 3:20, John 14:1, Isaiah 65:24a, Jeremiah 29.11. Song: More Love to Thee, and Make Me a Blessing. Nelly is a member of Cascade Quaker Meeting, a small meeting high in the northern Blue Mountains of Jamaica. Experiencing deep grief at the loss her husband and son to cancer, Nellie found comfort in God’s love. When faced by a possible cancer diagnosis herself, panic and fear were soothed as she studied her Bible and asked her meeting and family for prayers. Further tests did not reveal cancer. Through her life’s challenges, Nellie’s love and gratitude for God has deepened.

    Minutes: Susan read the 6.20.’24 minutes, written by Nancy Marstaller.

    Treasurer’s Report: The Woman’s Society account gained $942. from the plant sale, plus $45. in donations. Balance $1012.96.

    Prayer’s: For Friends.

    Tedford Meal: Prepared by Kim’s Team A, the meal was Mac and cheese, with or without ham, bananas, clementines and apples, little carrots and salad dressing, with ice cream for dessert. The July 1st meal will be brought by Team B. Volunteer contributions of food or donations are welcome. 

    Other Business: We discussed having another silent auction this year, to be planned at our next meeting in September. We will not meet in July, and on August 19th we will have our annual Woman’s Society dinner, all Friends and friends welcome.

    Dorothy closed the meeting with a reading of  Thomas à Kempis:

    “Have confidence in God’s mercy, for when you think He is far from you, He is…near.”

    Respectfully Submitted, Susan Gilbert

    Meet Mary Rowlandson, July 19, 2024, 7pm

    Meet Mary Rowlandson, presented by Quaker storyteller Katie Green

    Friday, July 19 at 7 PM, Durham Friends Meeting

    Based on her own account, Mary speaks of her capture by Native people during Metacom’s Rebellion, aka King Phillip’s War, in 1670’s Massachusetts. 

    This challenging narrative will be followed by discussion on issues that remain important today- racism, theocracy and right relationship with Indigenous neighbors.

    It will also be made available by Zoom; please email durham@neym.org for details.

    NEYM Annual Sessions, August 2-7, 2024

    We look forward to seeing you at Sessions 2024!

    The theme for this year’s Sessions is Let us faithfully tend the seed. Rich with imagery, our theme both calls us to act in the world in ways that give voice to the Inner Light and also to let go of our individual truth and listen for the voice of God in others. 

    This Year’s Sessions at a Glance:

    Dates: Friday, August 2 through Wednesday, August 7
    Location: Vermont State University (formerly Castleton University) in Castleton, VT
    Sunday Plenary: Lloyd Lee Wilson, Friendship Friends Meeting, North Carolina (Conservative)
    Bible Half Hours: Genna Ulrich, Portland Friends Meeting (ME)
    Monday Night Plenary: Toussaint the Liberator, Stone of Hope Drumming (MA)

    More information about sessions is available here.

    Two hands holding an apple shaped block of text that says: Let us faithfully tend the seed.

    Passing of Lyn Clarke

    Our long-time attender Lyn Clarke passed recently.

    Her friend Barb Simon, who faithfully drove her to Durham Friends over many years, shared this with us:

    Lyn died 6/27/2024 (Thursday).

    Lyn was not brought up in the Quaker faith but she loved the Durham Friends community, and the values the Quakers embraced.

    She started losing her sight in about 1995 and she was sad when she could no longer drive. So when I offered to bring her to meeting she jumped at the opportunity to return. 

    She loved the garden, the Sunday Meeting messages, the people who she met at meeting.

    We stopped coming when Lyn’s hearing gave out and she could no longer recognize people who spoke to her.

    She missed coming to meeting.

    Lyn died a week ago in the wee hours of June 27th at the age of 88.

    Please hold Lyn’s family in the light.

    “Integrity, Journey and Courage,” by Martha Hinshaw Sheldon

    Message given at Durham Friends Meeting, July 7, 2024

    My working theme for this message has been integrity, journey and courage.  This past month my thoughts have been on national voting impacted by Brexit, a day of remembrance for those killed in the troubles, a weekend seminar on Borderlands. 

    Following the result of the Brexit referendum, Corrymeela produced biblical resources to enable Christian faith communities to talk about the nature of borders and belongings and the difficulties thrown up by Brexit. These resources have been used for catalysing conversation about all manner of borders we make between ourselves.

    One such resource is that of Borderlands which met for a residential a few weeks ago.  I was able to attend part of the sessions.  

    Outside of the residential Borderlands is a monthly gathering in Belfast of those who are exploring the edges of faith, the borderland of faith and our society using stories, poetry readings, music, songs, courageous conversations on faith, doubt, questions, meaning outside of traditional church, for people to come together to explore faith on the edge, at the borders of where faith stands – in a bar.   Borderlands creates a brave and bold space for people to explore difficult – often life-changing – moments from their personal lives to help others find solidarity and healing, to be agents of peace and change in the world.   To be a safe space and also a courageous space for those who ‘don’t sit comfortably in or feel excluded from the traditional spaces of faith.  Space for meaningful encounter, sacred stories, using scripture to open and extend courageous conversations rather than close them.”

    Borders.  Edges. Frames with edges.  If you move the frame you are looking through the picture changes. What you see and understand changes. Borders. That which makes us stop and go no further. To declare this is us and there is you, the other.   Where we encounter our perceived limits, walls, frames. 

    Each time we come to the edge or borders we can choose to go beyond or to stand and ponder, to figure out what this edge means, how it defines and defined us and what is beyond.  Can we go beyond?  Do we want to go beyond?  Why? Why not? 

    At our borders we can choose to move beyond us-them divisions to ‘we’.  Many of you in this room are doing just that in the courageous conversations, seminars, writings, facilitation of different groups and more.

    The Borderlands gatherings provide a space for courageous conversations along with safe places.  

    Quakers were and are often on the edge.  They pushed borders, boundaries, pushed the limits of society and established churches throughout history. 

    So also with the Beatitudes.  These new words and invitations were and are challenges and inspiration from Jesus to expand our understanding of others and ourselves in our struggles and poverty.  An invitation to shift our understanding of God’s love for all and  enter into courageous conversations and relationships rather than close them with walls and borders.  The Beatitudes were presented to the crowds, blessings that were on the edge.  A reading from ‘First Nations Version. An Indigenous Translation of the New Testament.  I was inspired to purchase the book after a visit from one of the authors of the book The Gatherings.

    A new road, beyond the borders of the writings of the Old Testament.  ‘You have heard that it was said, an eye for an eye …  but I tell you …If some one strikes you on the cheek, or if someone wants to take your tunic give it away along with your cloak.  If someone forces you to go one mile, go two miles.   MT 5:38

    We are called to go beyond the expected.  Go beyond our physical, social and psychological borders.  To be courageous.  To share the love of Spirit, God, Jesus to all.  ‘A new command I give you: Love one another.  As I have loved you, so you must love one another.’  MT 13:34  This is illustrated further in the parable of the Good Samaritan. 

    ‘I am giving you a new road to walk’ he said.  In the same way I have loved you, you are to love each other. ‘  First Nations version.

    My personal borders.

    Talking to another who has a different opinion than my own.  Where our passions contradict each other.  At least at first then we see our commonalities.  We share our truths.  Not in anger but in sharing our experiences of love of those who are a part of our stories and experiences. 

    There are 2 woman who sit in the Coleraine town square.  On the ground.  I assume they do not have a home or much money.  My personal borders are raised high when I pass by.   What keeps me from doing anything?  What might I do to help?  How might I best love my neighbour?  What walls and borders keep me from acting, reaching out?

    My sense of belonging where I live now.  Struggled for many years to come to terms with a desire and a need.  Limited in my frame which indicated my picture was only to be in the states but now see that the frame can be moved to include the US and where I live now.  As a good friend once said – when you know where your home is then home is everywhere.

    My discomfort with the borders of the zoom frame which limits my ability to fully engage and connect with others in worship. 

    It takes courage to look though the walls, to break them down, to build windows in them, to look beyond the edge of our personal borders. 

    What truth is yours?  What truths are yours?  What borders do you come to in living your truth?  Borders of standing still and waiting for more insight or borders of courageous conversations?

    I offer this final reading from John Lampen, who, along with his wife Diana, was the Director of Quaker House in Belfast during the Troubles.  A house where people from both sides of the walls and borders came together for courageous conversations.

    An old Greek priest, a refugee, dreams that a small bird perches in front of him on a branch, singing so beautifully that all he wants is to catch it. As he tiptoes towards it, it flies away to another branch, still singing.  He follows it: and again it flies a little way off.  The dream lengthens out to days, to years, to the length of his life, and still it is out of reach, captivating him with its song.  Jesus, brother, enchant us too with your singing.  Stay beyond our grasp, do not let us put you in a cage.  Lead us forward.  John Lampen, 1985 [From Quaker Life and Practice: A Book of the Christian Experience of the Religious Society of Friends in Ireland, 1.110].

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    More about Corrymeela here.

    Available on the Corrymeela website is Exploring Brexit Through the Lens of Ruth

    Durham Friends Meeting Minutes, June 16, 2024

    Durham Monthly Meeting of Friends met for the conduct of business on Sunday, June 16, 2024, with 9 people in attendance at the Meetinghouse and one attending by Zoom. Sarah Sprogell clerked the meeting.

    1.     Meeting Opening: Gathering, Centering and Opening Reading

    Clerk opened the meeting by reading a portion of an obituary of a life-long member of Durham Friends Meeting, Ercil Perreault, (joined 12/19/1951), who passed away in 2020. The following lovely text was authored by her husband.

    “Ercil L. Perreault passed away on Saturday, April 4, 2020, at Brentwood Nursing Home… Born at Mrs Smart’s Nursing Home on Longfellow Avenue, Brunswick, to Ira d. White and Marie E. (Shea) White on Sept. 14, 1938, premature and ready to make life better for other people. Although short (4 feet 11 inches) Ercil stood tall in life with a heart of gold, loving all of God’s creations; humans, animals and birds. Ercil never hated nor spoke ill-will of anyone. A lifelong member of the Durham Friends Meeting House, she was always appreciative of her very strong religious and parental upbringings…. Ercil applied and was accepted as Secretary of Brunswick High School Athletic Director, a job she truly loved so she could be of help to all BHS athletes, and especially those with financial needs. She retired after 20 years in the job…. She was a true outdoor person. Ercil was brought up to learn to accept what is presented in life and to make the best of it, and keep going. Ercil is survived by her husband, William R. “Bill” Perreault [whom] she married in 1957; her sons, Stephen M., Dale W. and john M. Perreault…. Ercil’s final desire was to be cremated with her remains spread at her most loved deep woods camp in Jackman and also in her parent burial plot at the Lunt Cemetery on the Lunt Road in Brunswick… Ercil was a very shy, warm, caring, loving person who in a positive way ad a strong influence in other people’s lives. A very unique person walked on the face of the earth.”

    2.     Approval of Minutes of May 2024 — Ellen Bennett

            Recommended clarifying addition to item 7.

                   With the addition, Meeting approved the minutes.

    3.     Ministry and Counsel — Renee Cote, Tess Hartford

            M&C proposed cancelling meeting for business in August.

                   Meeting approved not holding meeting for business in August.

            Discussed reserving space for people who wish to separate and wear masks while in Meeting.

    Meeting approved removing signs for designated area, and remaining alert to any changes which may prompt us to return to signage.

            Discussed the use of Zoom during meeting. Suggest not using the projector during June and July, e.g., turn off projector after first hymn, and turn it back on for joys and concerns. Threshing session scheduled for September 22. Please see report.

    Meeting approved experimenting with turning off the projector for a portion of the Meeting, as well as the possibility of setting up a TV monitor to both cancel projector noise and cast a smaller image. For July 14 and 21, the projector will be turned off at a time M&C suggests. M&C will come up with a schedule and proposal for experimentation for August.

    FWCC has announced an outreach-oriented Quaker Connect Program, with the possibility of grants to participating meetings. To provide a basis for further discussion of this possibility, a web address for the project information will be included in the next newsletter, on the website, and in the weekly “This Week at…”

    4.     Peace and Social Concerns — Ingrid Chalufour

    The committee highlighted this summer’s primary activity, which is the work involved in establishing an ad hoc committee of the Town Council of Brunswick. The overall purpose of this new committee is to lift up the history and culture of the Wabanaki in various ways, such as in the naming of parks. A preliminary gathering will take place on 7/17, the purpose of which is to generate a draft of a mission statement and discuss the process the ad hoc committee will use to do its work. The actual ad hoc committee will be formed after the meeting. There has been a tremendous amount of interest and many have indicated that they wish to attend this first meeting. Please see report.

    5      Trustees Report — Sarah Sprogell

            Please see report. Update only.

    6.     Other

    Maine Immigrant and Refugee Services (MEIRS) has extended an invitation to Durham Meeting to attend their gala celebration, and they’ve indicated that meeting members may attend as their guests. On July 12.

    There is an opening for care of worship on June 30.

    Please consider the emotional, as well as the technical aspects of Zoom during meeting.

    7.     Closing Worship

    Respectfully submitted, Ellen Bennett, Recording Clerk

    Attachments:

    AFSC Briefing, June 29, 3:30pm, Friends School Portland

    Invitation:

    A conversation with Joyce Ajlouny, General Secretary, American Friends Service Committee, and

    Keith Harvey, Director, AFSC Northeast Region

    Saturday, June 29, 2024, 3:30 p.m., Friends School of Portland, 11 US-1, Cumberland Foreside, ME

    Learn about AFSC’s life-saving aid in Gaza, support for immigrant rights, and ongoing commitment to confront injustice and promote healing among the Wabanaki communities in Maine.

    (Click here for driving directions listed on the school’s website.)

    Please RSVP by June 21

    This is a rare opportunity to hear first hand about some crucial and desperately needed work bringing our Quaker witness to life in the world.

    Keith Harvey, AFSC’s Regional Director, will update us on AFSC’s work in the Northeast, especially its advocacy on immigration and the rights of indigenous peoples in Maine. Joyce Ajlouny, AFSC’s General Secretary, will speak about AFSC’s work globally,  including an update on the work our Meeting has been supporting in Gaza. 

    Please help us in spreading the word, and RSVP’ing at this link: https://secure.afsc.org/a/conversation-afscs-joyce-ajlouny 

    Also, we welcome some help! We could really use 2 set-up helpers, 2 break-down helpers, and those of you who feel led to hold this very important AFSC mission and presentation in the light, to do so in person. If you can be one of those helpers, please contact Becky (steelebecky@gmail.com) or Doug (douglas_mccown@yahoo.com).

    FWCC’s Quaker Connect Program

    Durham Friends is considering applying to participate in FWCC’s Quaker Connect Program. (FWCC is Friends World Committee for Consultation, the organization that links Friends across the globe.)

    Members of Durham Friends are encouraged to read these materials and participate in discussions around whether the Meeting should consider seeking to participate.

    The three paragraphs below give a brief overview of the program. More information can be found on the Quaker Connect website.

    Quaker Connect helps Friends meetings and churches to try new experiments and learn from each other how to connect the depths of our Quaker tradition and the breadth of our Quaker community with the living reality of our local context under the guidance of the Holy Spirit.

    Quaker Connect will be a structured network of Quaker meetings across the branches of Friends
    in the Americas. Each participating local meeting will nominate one to three Friends to join a cohort
    of other energized Friends in virtual workshops over a two year period. At the heart of the program,
    each meeting will choose one signpost of renewal that is lacking in their meeting, one Quaker,
    Christian, or FWCC practice to address the need, and take three months to try the experiment, and then initiate further experiments. Robust evaluation and communication processes are essential parts of the program. Quaker Connect is designed to adapt and seed the continuing revitalization of the Religious Society of Friends.

    In the United States, the project is being funded through Lilly Endowment’s Thriving Congregations
    Initiative. An additional $200,000 grant from the Thomas H. and Mary Williams Shoemaker Fund
    will extend the program to Friends outside of the United States—from Canada to Bolivia—and
    enhance collaboration among Quaker organizations to support the growth and vitality of the
    Society of Friends.

    MEIRS Gala Invitation, July 12, 6:00 to 9:00 pm

    Maine Immigrant & Refugee Services (MEIRS) is holding its 2nd Annual gala, themed “Connecting Cultures, Creating Community,” on Saturday, July 12, from 6:00 to 9:00 pmin Lewiston at the Agrora Grand Event Center.

    Bopnnie Lewis (MEIRS) wrote Wendy Schlotterbeck, “Here is the Gala information for your crew! Let me know if they are interested. I think everyone would have a wonderful time and they would get to meet some incredible people who are new Mainers!  Along with the fabulous food there will be dancing and music!!!! We would ask you to come as our guest!”

    Thopse interested in attending should contact Wendy. More information on MEIRS available here and also below.

    Agenda and Materials for Durham Friends Business Meeting, June 16, 2024

    The agenda and materials for the June 16, 2024 business meeting for Durham Friends can be found here.

    AGENDA, June 16, 2024, Monthly Meeting for Business

    Gather and Center

    Opening Reading

    Approval of Minutes for May Monthly Meeting for Business

    Ministry and Counsel – Renee Cote

    Peace and Social Concerns – Ingrid Chalufour

    Trustees – Sarah Sprogell

    Other

    Close, and wishing everyone a happy Father’s Day

    “An Indigenous Quaker’s Relationship with Christianity,” by  Gail Melix/Greenwater (Sandwich Monthly Meeting)

    “An Indigenous Quaker’s Relationship with Christianity,” by  Gail Melix/Greenwater

    Message to Durham Friends Meeting, June 2, 2024.

    Wunee keesuq -good day- friends. Nutus8ees – I am- Gail Melix. My Native name is Greenwater. Nutomas – I am from… the Herring Pond Wampanoag Tribe of Plymouth, the tribe that met the Pilgrims. Plymouth was originally called Patuxet, a Wampanoag name meaning The Place of Little Waterfalls. I am just beginning to learn my Wopanaak language. There is great joy in this. 

    My father was Wampanoag and German. He is deceased. My mother’s people, from England, came over on the Mayflower, and were Puritans who became convinced Quakers. Many generations ago someone in my family tree decided to marry other than a Quaker, so they were no longer members. In 1980 I attended my first Quaker Meeting, the first in my family to return, brought in hand by a friend who told me, “You are a Quaker, you just don’t know it yet.” From that very first meeting for worship I knew this is where I belonged and had been seeking it for many years. 

    I am a member of Sandwich Monthly Meeting, and I attend East Sandwich Preparative Meeting, which is located on ancestral homeland of the Mashpee Wampanoag Tribe. The Wampanoag of Massachusetts and Eastern RI have lived in these areas for more than 12,000 years.

    It is delightful to be here. Thank you for the invitation. The plans were to come in person but I fractured my fibula where it meets up with the ankle, making it difficult to travel. I’m here to share part of my journey as an Indigenous Quaker. 

    When preparing for today I felt led to begin my message to you with an Indigenous translation of the Lord’s prayer. [Creator-Sets-Free is the Indigenous name given Jesus in the First Nations version of The New Testament)]

    “Our Father” (First Nations Version), Matthew 6: 9-13

    Creator sets free, Jesus, said: 

    “When you send your voice to the Great Spirit, here is how you should pray:

    O Great Spirit, our Father from above, we honor your name as sacred and holy.

    Bring your good road to us, where the beauty of your ways in the spirit world above is reflected in the earth below.

    Provide for us day by day—the elk, the buffalo, and the salmon.

    The corn, the squash, and the wild rice.  All the things we need for each day.

    Release us from the things we have done wrong, in the same way we release others for the things done wrong to us.

    Guide us away from the things that tempt us to stray from your good road, and set us free from the evil one and his worthless ways.

    Aho!  May it be so!”    

    This prayer can be found in the book, First Nations Version, an Indigenous Translation of the New Testament. This publication of the bible really resonates with me and other Indigenous peoples that I share it with. “It connects, in a culturally relevant way, to the traditional heart languages of over 6 million English speaking First Nations People of North America” as stated by the Indigenous authors. It follows the tradition of storytellers of our oral cultures. I find the language profoundly beautiful, as did the Indigenous who wrote this translation, which included Native Americans from over 25 tribes. More information about how this bible came to be, the method of translation and a list of the tribes that were involved in the writing of it can be found in the introduction of the book.

    Great Spirit, Creator, Great Mystery, Maker of Life, Giver of Breath, One Above us All, and Most Holy One are a few of the names for God you will find in this translation. 

    I have had several opportunities to share the First Nations Version of the New Testament with my Indigenous friends and there has been a lot of interest in it. I met 7 Indigenous Grandmothers who led a recent retreat at Woolman Hill and represented many different tribes. There was interest in knowing more about the First Nation’s version of the New Testament and plans to order it.  

     I belong to a group of Indigenous Quakers from across North America and a few from Canada who meet regularly on Zoom to share our stories and our concerns. We discuss the ways in which we are addressing Indigenous rights. We’re asked this question, what draws you to the Quaker faith? What does it add to your Indigenous ways? The number one answer is…. We are Quakers because of the worship.  Other factors: Because of the peace testimony, because of social justice work, because it is a living faith, because of the connection to Creator that is possible from silence. Indigenous Quakers also attend the Decolonizing Quakers steering committee meetings. It’s a good example of how right relationship can blossom when Indigenous and Quakers spend time together.     

    I’d also like to share what it means to me to be an Indigenous Quaker.  Choosing Indigenous or Quaker is not a choice for me. What I know is that together they make me whole. The mix adds a tenderness and warmth to my sometimes-rough edges. Worship from a deep well of silence with expectant waiting is one of my favorite places. I don’t see it as just a place of waiting.  Sometimes it becomes a place of mystery for contemplation and discovery. Sometimes I bring a hawk or a favorite tree into expectant waiting with me and I can feel God’s smile. God loves when we witness and acknowledge the beauty of his creations. I love that Our Living Quaker faith is always in the here and now, any moment the possibility of revelation, of incarnation… And Jesus connects me more deeply with a God that I can’t fully conceive of or imagine a face for. When I am despairing it is Jesus who weeps with me and comforts me. He teaches me how to better Love God, myself, and others.  He knows me. 

    The named Christianity that came to this country during colonization, fueled by The Doctrine of Discovery, allowed Christian explorers in the name of their sovereign, to claim and seize land if it was not owned by a Christian. There were over 1,000 treaties that were never recognized or honored. The named Christianity that came to this country ran boarding schools for over 150 years that stripped Indigenous children of their identities, cultural values, and traditions, abused them and separated them from their families and caused intergenerational trauma. Genocide. This is not Christianity in any form. There is nothing of Jesus’ teachings here. When my Indigenous friends question me about the effect of Christianity on Native people during colonization this is what I tell them, this was not Christianity being practiced.

    I believe that Quakers had good intentions. Education is important to Quakers and some worried that if children did not learn English and the ways of a changing world it would be to their detriment.  That may be true but how come they could not see that of God in Native people? That’s such a basic tenet of Quakers. How could Quaker Indigenous Boarding Schools go on for over 100 years and no one see the harm being done? It’s unbelievable to me. No one had an inkling that their sense of privilege and superiority was destroying a culture? So I struggle with this part of our Quaker history.  I opened myself up to grieving all that was lost, all the harm done, and the great suffering that resulted. I did this alone and in worship with others. This is ongoing.

    My father raised me with traditional values and cultural practices.  There was respect and gratitude for the natural world. We were taught to be thankful. We were taught to be kind and help others. To share what we have. He was a quiet and gentle man, spoke sparingly and only when something needed to be said. You take care of the land and the land will take care of you Gail. He walked softly and when he was outdoors his eyes were everywhere, taking notice of everything. He loved animals and trees and gardening and fishing.  He would say with a smile, “Nature is my church.” He was very kind and rarely raised his voice. He was the one who took splinters out of us. Even though my mother was a nurse. He liked peaceful spaces and harmony. Dad was outdoors whenever he could be. In part, prayer worked best for him outdoors. He could communicate better with his ancestors in the natural world. 

    I am thankful for my mixed heritage and my two faith communities which connect me so deeply to my Creator and the Lord. I see and feel the many similarities, including core values that both faiths share. Building relationships between Indigenous and Quakers will take time but I see many places where this is already happening. I look forward to serving in this way, as led by the Divine, doing what is mine to do. 

    Lakota prayer: 

    The Elders tell us the greatest gift we can seek is peace of mind; to walk in balance, to respect all things. For us to do this, we must have peace within ourselves and peace within ourselves cannot come unless we are walking the path the Creator would have us walk. Sometimes the tests on this path are difficult, but we know that each test makes us stronger.

    Oh Great Spirit, I ask You to whisper your wisdom in my heart. You are the only one that knows the secret to peaceful living and the mystery of harmony. Teach me of Your peace, understanding and balance, and guide me onto your good path.

    Aho /Amen

    Thank you, friends, at Durham Friends Meeting for your invite. I want to thank my elders who have been holding all of us and this meeting space in prayer: Leslie Manning and Ken Jacobsen.

    Durham Friends Meeting Minutes, May 19, 2024 DRAFT

    Durham Monthly Meeting of Friends met for the conduct of business on Sunday, May 19, 2024, with 12 people in attendance at the Meetinghouse and one attending by Zoom. Sarah Sprogell clerked the meeting.

    1. Meeting Opening

    Clerk began the meeting reading fromthe 1985 NEYM Faith and Practice, page 113, part of the section on Meeting Leadership, entitled All Are Co-Workers:

    “The membership of Friends Meeting, or the Society of Friends, is made up of persons with varying gifts or abilities.  Each gift or each type of ability may be a form of ministry, and hence of leadership, and each member is a part of “the body” or the whole.  Each member in the exercise of such a gift or gifts of ministry is a nurturing, functioning part of the body….

    Some members have gifts of teaching and counseling, or of organization and administration, or of vocal ministry or public speaking, or other similar gifts which identify them as leaders.  Members with other gifts are not simply passive followers, but all are co-workers in the care and nurture of the body and its members.  And all are co-workers in witness to our faith and in the service of love and justice in the world.”  – from a Pendle Hill workshop report on Friends as Leaders, 1979

    2. Approval of Minutes of April 2023 — Ellen Bennett

    A correction was requested in agenda item #4 Trustees’ Report: “Reports from Maine Home” should read “Maine House”.

    With this correction, Meeting approved the minutes.

    3. Finance Committee — Nancy Marstaller

    The Quarterly Report was presented. Contributions are on track for the first quarter. Operating expenses are less than revenue at this time due to second quarter payment of contributions to sister/quaker organizations. 

    Meeting accepted the Quarterly Report, with gratitude.

    It was recommended that we resume regular passing of the offering plate. This topic will be taken up at Ministry and Counsel.

    We canceled our employee compensation insurance as the Meeting currently has no employees, only independent contractors. Robb Spivey and Marion Dalton, conducting a financial review of Durham Meeting’s accounts, recommended consolidating some accounts to both simplify record-keeping as well as to take advantage of higher interest rates. We approved closing the Bernice Douglas Savings account (just over $12,000) and taking that money as well as $30,000 from checking and $28,000 from the capital account and moving it to our NEYM of Friends Pooled Fund account.

    The estimated budget for travelers to Cuba are approximately $3,300 per traveler. Right now, $4,000 from the Meeting is available in the Sister Meeting account. Contributions from Portland Friends Meeting have brought that balance up to $13,000. Finance recommends making an additional $4,000 contribution to cover travel expenses for both Meeting members who hope to travel to Cuba next February. Overall expenses for the trip to Cuba will be brought forward at the June Meeting for Business for discussion and decision. 

    5. Ministry and Counsel — Renee Cote

    Please see attached reports. 

    M&C discussed the use of Zoom during Meeting for worship. In response to requests for less technology during worship, beginning in January 2024, Meeting for worship is Zoom-free on 4th and 5th Sundays. Requests for less technology continue to be made. In response, two recommendations were made: 1. try a Zoom-free September, and 2. turn off the projector after the first hymn and turn it on again for joys and concerns. 

    There was no unity around this issue. Clerk recommended a listening session, including evaluating the current Zoom/no Zoom Sundays each month. 

    Craig Freshley’s letter regarding Zoom during Meeting for worship will be posted and available through the website. 

    6. Peace and Social Concerns — Ingrid Chalufour

    Please see attached report. 

    The project to rename the park in Brunswick in recognition of the Wabanaki who first inhabited this region has gained momentum. We are working to form a town committee with the mission to expand from simple renaming to lifting up the history of the Wabanaki people. Two Town Counselors are guiding the process. A proposal will be going to the Brunswick Town Council in the Fall.

    Friends had several suggestions for ways to get the word out about the very successful Social Justice Book Project publications, and the great work of this initiative via social media and at Quarterly and Yearly meetings.

    The Meeting expressed its deep gratitude for the extraordinary work of Peace and Social 

    Concerns with this project. 

    7. Second consideration of divestment letter to MEPERS

    Meeting approved having Clerk sign the letter on behalf of the Meeting. 

    8. Other Business

    Update on LACO: Town has asked LACO to leave its current location because of the state of the building in which it is currently housed. While they have not yet done so, the Town is required to give LACO thirty-days’ notice in advance of a move-out date.  The LACO Board is setting up a working group to explore options. The Local Baptist Church may have room for LACO. It was suggested that the Meeting write a letter in support of LACO and the importance of finding housing for the vital work it does This is a situation in flux. Note: Leslie continues as a second representative to LACO for the time being, until another Meeting member agrees to step into this role.

    Doug Bennett reviewed how to view and use the Meeting calendar. 

    9. Closing Worship 

    Respectfully submitted, Ellen Bennett, Recording Clerk

    Attachments

    Falmouth Quarterly Meeting & Potluck Dinner, June 8, 2024

    Falmouth Quarterly Meeting will hold a community gathering on Saturday, June 8, 2024 at 3pm at the Durham Friends Meetinghouse. All are welcome. We will plan family fun, some worship, purposeful connection time and singing.

    Potluck- Quaker Feast at 5:30.

    Please come for any or all of the day on Saturday- “Sing and rejoice, ye Children of the Day and of the Light” (G Fox)

    Gathering for Friends with a Concern for Gospel Ministry

    June 8, 2024, 10:00 a.m. to mid-afternoon

    Location, Durham Friends Meeting

    Brian Drayton (Souhegan) and Noah Merrill (Putney), following a concern, invite Friends active in gospel ministry to gather for worship and conversation at the Durham (Maine) Friends Meetinghouse from 10 a.m. to mid-afternoon, June 8th, 2024.

    You may travel in ministry, or your service in speaking as led in worship may be primarily in your own meeting. If you contribute to the vocal ministry under a sustained sense of duty and concern, you are invited to join us.

    If you hope to attend, or have questions, please email Brian and Noah.

    Woman’s Society Minutes, June 15, 2024

    Present: guest Getry Agizah (from Kenya), Dorothy Curtis, Kim Bolshaw, Sarah Sprogell, Dot Hinshaw, Dorothy Grannell, Paula Rossvell, Nancy Marstaller, Susan Gilbert, Leslie Manning, Marian Baker, Madeleine Vache (8 in meetinghouse, 4 on Zoom)

    1. As Susan Gilbert was attending by Zoom, Nancy took minutes.
    • We wrote cards for Friends.
    • Getry Agizah shared about her work for Friends United Meeting with Friends Peace Teams and the Girl Child Education program, which is based in the Turkana and Samburu regions of Kenya where education for girls is not considered important. Girls did not often go on to high school because of cultural norms and the expense of school fees (one year of high school costs $500 tuition). Women are important because they bring a dowery to a marriage, but are less valued than men in the culture. The culture is patriarchal; men believe their wives have to be under their husbands. Getry described how Kenyan woman were concerned about this and Eden Grace helped set up this program. Eden was able to convince people who might have been hesitant because she was a white Western woman who came from where other respected missionaries had come.

    So far 652 women have benefited from this program. Some girls are rescued from early marriages and/or female genital mutilation. They receive mentoring as well as education. They often marry after school, and their lives and their family lives are improved by having this education.

    Many young girls still get pregnant as men take advantage of them sexually, but these men don’t necessarily want to marry and support the children. Parents do not always teach their children about sex education. Sometimes young mothers are married off to older men, as a 2nd or even 3rd wife.

    Getting sanitary supplies is an issue for many families, as they are expensive. Some American and Kenyan women are now making re-usable sanitary pads to give to those who need. Marian will send us a pattern in case we want to make any.

    The climate has also exacerbated some problems with violence. Turkana had a drought for 5 years and now is having severe rains which cause flooding. Many people in this area are nomads, raising cattle. Cattle are used to pay the dowery for a marriage. When the drought made that harder, cattle rustling increased.  Sometimes young boys are also kidnapped while watching cattle to join bandit “militias”, even boys as young as 6 years old. These boys don’t go to school and are just trained as warriors and to be loyal only to one group or tribe, ready to use violence against those from other tribes. The hope is to get more boys into school where they can meet those from other tribes and learn more skills and ways to relate to others, so they can learn life is not just about guns.

    • The treasurer’s report was read and accepted. The April offering was $40. Our current balance is $125.96.
    • We agreed to split the proceeds from the plant sale with half going to the Root Cellar and half to the USFWI Children and Youth projects. Of the USFWI projects, half will go to Girls Secondary Education support in Turkana and Samburu and the other half to the other 3 projects.
    • Inspired by Getry’s report, we agreed to donate $100 to Friends United Meeting for the Girl Child Education project.
    • There was no report for the May Tedford Shelter meal. Team A will provide the June meal.
    • Dorothy Curtis has presented 2 baby quilts since our last meeting: one for Gabriel, Ezra and Laura Smith’s baby, and one for Doug and Ellen Bennett’s new granddaughter.

    Dorothy closed the meeting with this quote:

    “Within each of us, just waiting to blossom, is the wonderful promise of all we can be.”
    (Anonymous writer)

    Nancy Marstaller, secretary pro tem

    Diana White Memorial Service, June 22, 11am to 2pm

    The Memorial Service and Potluck for our member Diana White will be held Saturday, June 22 from 11-2 at Durham ME Friends Meeting (durhamfriendsmeeting.org) and available on Zoom. 

    The memorial service will be from 11:00 to 12:15, with the potluck lunch to follow.

    Diana, formerly of Farmington and Portland Meetings, was also a clerk of Friends Committee on Maine Public Policy and active in New England Yearly Meeting in several leadership roles.  She was the first woman to serve as Treasurer of the Yearly Meeting.

    To learn more about her, please read her recent First Day message postyed on this website, “What I Bring to the Spiritual Potluck.

    And join us on the 22nd to celebrate her life and spirit.  All are welcome.

    Craig Freshley, “Screen-Free Thoughts,” March 10, 2024

    Durham Friends Meeting is currently discussing whether and how it wants to continue providing access to our Sunday morning worship via Zoom. Currently we are providing Zoom access on the 1st, 2nd and 3d Sundays of each month, and no Zoom on 4th and 5th (if there is one) Sundays. (The 1st, 2nd and 3d Sundays are the ones on which we have scheduled, prepared messages as part of worship.)

    What is below is an idea from member Craig Freshley regarding this matter that he sent to the Committee on Ministry and Counsel in March. Likely Ministry and Counsel will host a threshing session in the near future to hear that hopes and thoughts of all who worship at Durham Friends on this matter.

    Agenda and Materials for Durham Friends Business Meeting, May 19, 2024

    Durham Monthly Meeting of Friends Meeting for Business, May 19, 2024, noon

    Materials for the May 19, 2024 Business Meeting can be found HERE.

    AGENDA

                            Gather and Centering

                            Opening

                            Approval of Minutes from April Business Meeting

                            Finance – Nancy Marstaller

                                                    First quarter report, attached

                            M&C – Renee Cote

                            P&SC – Ingrid Chalufour

                                                    Report attached

                            Second consideration of divestment letter to MEPERS

                            Other

                            Close

    AFSC Save the Date, June 29, 2024, 3:30 pm

    Save the date!

    A conversation with 

    Joyce Ajlouny General Secretary, AFSC

    Keith Harvey, Director, AFSC Northeast Region

    Saturday, June 29, 2024, 3:30 p.m.

    Friends School of Portland

    11 US-1, Cumberland Foreside, ME

    Learn about AFSC’s life-saving aid in Gaza, support for immigrant rights, and ongoing commitment to confront injustice and promote healing among the Wabanaki communities in Maine.

    Stay tuned for more details

    Getry Agizah at Durham Friends on Sunday, May 19 and again on Monday, May 20

    Getry Agizah will bring the prepared message to Durham Friend’s semi-programmed worship this Sunday at 10:25 

    and

    visit with Woman’s Society Monday evening at 7 PM.  Both events are available by Zoom or at the Meetinghouse, durhamfriendsmeeting.org.  FMI contact durham@neym.org

    Getry is the Programme Coordinator for FUM’s Africa Ministries Office in Kisumu. She coordinates the work of the Friends Church Peace Team, as well as overseeing the Girl Child Education Programme, and guiding the formation of the new Shepherd Boy Scholarship program. She also manages FUM’s relationships with Turkana Friends Mission and Samburu Friends Mission.  Her ministry has been financially supported by the Falmouth QUarter for many years.

    Getry’s will and heart are in peace work. She has spent the past fifteen years working for peace, both in and outside Kenya in countries like Rwanda, Burundi, the Democratic Republic of Congo, Southern Sudan, Tanzania, Uganda, China, South Africa, Guatemala, and Ireland. She has also traveled within the U.S.A. to raise support for Friends Church Peace Teams, visiting Quaker churches and Meetings in many of the States. Her hobbies are traveling, doing reconciliation work, and helping her society to know real peace.

    Annual Family Campout, June 8-9, 2024, Now Cancelled

    UPDATE June 2, 2024:

    Due to a major broken water pump at Betsy’s cottage in Georgetown, we need to cancel the Family Campout scheduled for next weekend- June 8-9. Instead, we invite Friends to gather at Durham Friends meetinghouse on Saturday only (no planned events on Sunday)

    For those interested- come at 10am Gathering for Friends with a Concern for Gospel Ministry with Brian Drayton and Noah Merrill

    At 3pm all are welcome to a FQM Quaker Community Gathering at Durham Friends Meetinghouse. We will plan family fun, some worship, purposeful connection time and singing.

    Potluck- Quaker Feast at 5:30.

    Please come for any or all of the day on Saturday- “Sing and rejoice, ye Children of the Day and of the Light” (G Fox)

    Also Falmouth Quarterly Meeting gathering.

    Meetinghouse Clean Up Day, June 1, 9am to 3pm

    The Meeting Trustees (Sarah Sprogell, Dan Henton, Kim Bolshaw, Doug Bennett) would like to invite one and all to a Meetinghouse clean up day on Saturday June 1, 9am to 3pm. Come when you can, leave when you must.

    We expect we’ll have things to do inside and outside. Bring a lunch with you. We’ll have fun! and a cleaner meetinghouse, too.