From Tess Marstaller

Peace Corps Volunteer, Cameroon

Asinge, Friends!

At a few degrees above the equator, my Cameroonian village in West Africa can at least depend on one thing arriving with consistency – nightfall at 6:30.  Water in the public taps, phone network, electricity, the long promised road repairs, teachers for the new school year, cross your fingers but don’t hold your breath.  Electricity has been out for almost a week now.

Today I traveled to charge my computer, only to find that riding over broken roads on motorcycles, or jungle humidity, or maybe lizard droppings, have gotten the best of my keyboard.  So many letters don’t work, what I’ve typed looks like code!  I’m typing by candlelight and have put out buckets to collect rain for my bath and dishes.

My alarm clock will be the bustle of early morning village life: chickens, babies, wood-chopping, open-fire cooking, neighbors yelling greetings to those trekking to their cocoa farms or hauling water.

It’s all part of my roller coaster ride as I try to integrate into my community as a Peace Corps health volunteer, the first foreigner to have a presence here in 20 years.  The learning curve has been more like free fall as I get used to hearing “WHITEMAN” yelled as I pass by villagers still taken aback by my presence, and keep my front door open despite my desire for privacy to respect the culture of openness.

My job, helping this community identify and address their health development needs, has been the most rewarding, exasperating, and eye-opening experience I’ve ever been thrown head first into.

Perhaps most moving has been teaching reproductive health to young women who are going through adolescence and womanhood without even basic information.  The school curriculum includes no sexual education, though premature pregnancy and STD’s are major problems among youth.  The first time I held a seminar for 7th – 9th grade aged girls I put out a “Question Box” for their confidential matters and could not hand out slips of paper fast enough for their outpouring of uncertainties.  I cried reading them later, realizing I’d hit a nerve of serious need that I could actually respond to.

Helping them navigate pregnancy, child-rearing concerns, introducing the benefits of family planning, and sending the message that they can positively influence their own lives is a role I love.  Doing so in the context of rampant need and the social and cultural complications I’ve been learning about for years is a dream come true.

Still, the going is slow.  The heat, harassment and endless house malfunctions can make crawling out of bed utterly overwhelming.  Yet, the headaches of trying to function where basic functioning often seems out of reach are made immediately worth it by the thrilling moments.  Yesterday a nurse and I hosted the first session of a support group we are trying to launch for HIV+ women.  It has taken months to find even a few women willing to share their status with others.  Talking about the free treatment available to these women, who have never had autonomy over so much as a dollar, let alone their own health, was powerful.

Kids have been the golden ticket to feeling at home here.  Their adoring greetings (“Auntie Tasse, Auntie TASSE!”) and laughter as we draw and play cards on my porch always brighten my day.  I can’t wait until they return from their relatives’ holiday care so I can distribute the equipment and supplies you sent through the Women’s Society.  What an amazing outpouring of childhood goodies that these kids have never known.  My heartfelt thanks to you all.  For pictures of my recent summer camp, check out my blog at tessincameroon.blogspot.com.  For questions or more dialogue, email me at tmarstaller@gmail.com Thanks for your prayers of support!

An Invitation from the Parsonage

Creativity is a gift of the Spirit!  And what is it that inspires us to create?  The beauty of God’s creation; the love between us; a light heart; something funny or tender or even tragic … here is the sacred in our ordinary lives.  Let us give voice to this, or capture it with your camera, your palette and your brush.

George Fox asked: “And what cans’t thou say?” and so does your Newsletter Committee.

Daphne Clement

September Newsletter

Dear Durham Meeting Friends,

In August we will not meet for Monthly Meeting and Woman’s Society enjoys an “Eat Out” together, so their report will be short.  Because we will have an unusual amount of free space in the September newsletter, the Pastor and Newsletter Committee invite you, young and not so, member or not, to submit your original creations: works of art, photos, poems, short prose, lyrics that express faith or beauty, i.e. appreciation of the natural world, Spirit in your lives.  Here is an opportunity; please join us in Durham Friends Creative Newsletter Issue.  Artwork and photos need to be in jpeg format, high resolution would be best.  For written content, it is lovely if it can come in some version of Word.  Instead of either above, we can scan anything flat up to 8½”X11” but no slides.  Dropping art or written work into an envelope works.  The bottom line is to get it to us any way you can.  We’ll take care of the rest and will return your treasure to you.  Please submit your creative piece to arrive by Sunday, August 21st to:

In person: Jo-an Jacobus or Daphne Clement,

Via mail: Jo-an, 65 Preble Rd #18, Bowdoinham 04008; or Daphne, 848 Pinkham Brook Rd, Durham 043222

Or via email: mjo.anjacobus@gmail.com; or clement.daphne@gmail.com.

Just can’t wait to see what you’ll be sending in.

The Newsletter Committee

 

Durham Monthly Meeting Minutes, July 17, 2011

July 17, 2011

 

Durham Monthly Meeting of Friends convened on Sunday, July 17, 2011, at 12:15 pm with 16 people present.  Co-Clerk Edwin Hinshaw read a quote from Thomas Kelly: “Social concern is the dynamic life of God at work in the world.”

1. Theresa Oleksiw and Leslie Manning reported for Ministry and Counsel.

a) Ministry and Counsel recommends that the new sound system be provided by Confield Associates.  This system means there will be hand held microphones so that everyone will be able to hear.  (It was determined that the hanging mics would not work in our meeting room.)  It will cost between $1900 -$2100.  Woman’s Society has $2000 earmarked for this.  Finance Committee is asked to suggest how any cost over $2000 should be met.  This recommendation was approved.

b) Because of child safety concerns for child care in the meetinghouse, M&C recommends having half windows installed in the nursery room doors for both of the access doors.  Finance Committee is asked to look into how the costs for this would be met.  This was approved.

c) The telephone tree is now available and will be distributed to all who are on the tree with extra copies available on the table in the library.

d) A questionnaire to assist in the annual evaluation of the Pastor will be done by forms that will be made available in the August newsletter as well as on the table in the library.  Daphne Clement will also be filling out an evaluation.  There will be a place on the form where members and attenders can say what they would like in the way of program offerings and when they might be available to attend such programs.  M&C will bring a report of the evaluation and a recommendation coming from it to Monthly Meeting in November.

2. The Treasurer’s Report (attached) was distributed by Katherine Hildebrandt and was accepted with great thanks.  Income for June was $2,936.03 and Expenses for June were $6,523.41.  The significantly lower amount in contributions in June reflects seasonal differences.

a) It was noted that we budgeted $42,000 for contributions for 2011 and at the half-way point of the year, we have brought in $20,690, so we are very close to the budgeted projection.  However our income for the first 6 months of 2011 is $4980 short of our expenses in the same period.

b) The Rise Up Singing benefit concert of the youth group brought in $1650.  $650 went to pay the musicians.  $250 has gone to sponsor a child at the Kakamega USFW Orphan Project.  The youth group is still deciding how to allocate the rest of the money.

c) Finance Committee is still working on developing the method of making electronic transfers for people who want to make their contributions through automatic bank transfers.

d) $1261.26 is available as part of the compensation package for Daphne Clement to go to conferences.  We approved allocating $500 of that to assist Daphne with her costs for going to New England Yearly Meeting sessions.

3. Susan Rice and Leslie Manning reported for Peace and Social Concerns.

a) They wish to hold a second benefit dinner for Lisbon Area Christian Outreach (LACO) food pantry on Saturday, October 1.  It would be a “Harvest Dinner and Pies” event.  Shiloh and Church of the Brethren would be asked to carry this event with us.  This recommendation was approved.  Daphne Clement is offering to be the liaison for Durham’s connections to LACO for fundraising.  This was quickly approved

b) On Saturday November 12th, Peace and Social Concerns is recommending that we hold a Kenya Crafts Sale and Tea.  The crafts would be brought back from Kenya by Susan and the sale of them will directly benefit the Orphan Project.  At a particular point in the day, there would be a “Kenyan Tea (and biscuits)” and a reporting from those who were part of the trip this summer.  This was heartily approved.

c) On Sunday, January 29, 2012 (the 5th Sunday of the month) Peace and Social Concerns would like to invite Brunswick and Lewiston Friends for worship and a pot luck with a program on how war spending has affected our job economy.

4) Dorothy Hinshaw reported for Christian Education Committee:

a) The special offering taken on Children’s Day (for the Children and Youth projects of United Society of Friends Women [USFW]) was $215.  Durham’s Woman’s society has contributed further funds to make it a total of $500.

b) Rally Day will be on September 11.  Plans for the year will be reviewed at that time.

c) At the end of August there will be a training workshop called Our Whole Life (OWL) Training, for middle school and high school curriculum.  Daphne Clement’s conference fees are already covered in her compensation package.  The Meeting approved funding for Wendy Schlotterbeck and Katharine Hildebrandt through the Christian Education budget and Conference funds.

5) Daphne Clement gave the pastors’ report.

a) She attended Friends General Conference Summer Gathering in July where she co-led a “Spiritual Journey and Writing” workshop that was very well received.  Nearly 1000 Friends from all over the world were in attendance and she appreciated living for a week in a “village of Friends.”

b) Pastoral visits continue.  She gives special thanks to Bill Curtis who does an exceptional job on our lawns.  The community garden is coming along very well.

c)  Jim Douglas will be bringing the message on August 7.

d) The sign is a work in progress.  It was decided that the sign will have the website on it instead of the telephone number.

5) The Meeting decided to give $1200 (a 10% tithe from our Charity Fund) to the Brunswick Unitarian Universalist Church to help the rebuilding of their church following the fire.

6) It was approved that Elizabeth Muench will serve as our Ministry and Counsel representation to NEYM until or unless another person is appointed to undertake this responsibility

7) Monthly Meeting will not be held in August.

8) The minutes of the Monthly Meeting were approved during the meeting.

9) The Meeting adjourned, continuing in the spirit of worship, at 1:40 P.M.

 

Susan Rice, Recording Clerk

Kakamega Update: July 2011

By Sukie Rice

I will be leaving for Kenya July 27, and am excited about this year’s trip.  We have a great group of 14 adults and youth going, all ready for adventure.  We’re carrying 30 storage bins of children’s clothing, gifts, art supplies sports equipment, sheets and towels.  I am excited that this year we are bringing 258 fleece jackets and all the children will have a jacket now to keep them warm, thanks to all the sponsors,

Although the project was begun with a focus on the Care Centre, the High School portion of the Care Centre has steadily grown from three students in the first year to 58 this year.  Please read the report and know that, without sponsorships, the boys would be in despair as to what to do with themselves and the girls would be pregnant by 16, with or without a young man to take care of them and their baby.

Woman’s Society July 18, 2011

By Nancy Marstaller

We met on a perfect summer evening at Helen Clarkson’s lovely home with its fantastic view.  Margaret Wentworth led us in devotions and the program – taking highlights from the last two programs from our Blueprints lessons book.  One was based on the story of Jesus healing the man who had been crippled for 38 years.  Jesus asked if he wanted to be healed.

We pondered how sometimes we cling to old ways of life, even if new ways of being open to us.  The known feels safer, even if we know the new way will be better for others and ourselves.  We wondered how we might need to change our Woman’s Society so that we continue to be a group that meets women’s spiritual needs.

We talked about the past split in New England Yearly Meeting of Friends, and what might have happened if we had lived up to our ideals and the split never occurred.  It’s sometimes hard to remember that we are looking for God’s will in our lives, not our own will’s desires.

In the business meeting, we sent “thinking of you” cards to several.  Our treasurer reported a balance of $3540.93, of which $2000 is earmarked for the meeting sound system.

We decided to donate to several of the USFWI projects: $150 each to Keys to the Kingdom, Four Funds, Peace and Christian Social Concerns, and the Christian Service Fund and $100 to the Thanks Offering.  Locally, we approved donating $100 each to Opportunity Farm, the Sexual Assault Support Services of Midcoast Maine, and Tedford Housing.

We are asked to pray for those attending the Friends United Meeting Triennial, especially visitors from Kenya, many of whom have been denied visas by our government so won’t be able to attend.  We pray for our policy makers, that their hearts be opened.

Our nominating committee reported that most positions have been filled for the coming year.  They still have a couple more people to ask.  We are so grateful to all who are willing to share in the roles needed to keep our society working.  Jo-an volunteered to produce an updated contact list.

The Tedford meal in July was vegetarian and hot dog macaroni and cheese, coleslaw, green salad, watermelon, and cookies.

If you don’t already receive the NE USFW newsletter and would like to, let Clarabel Marstaller know.  You may receive it by email or post.

Our August meeting will be our annual eat out on August 15 at 6 PM.  We agreed we would like to go back to the Lion’s Pride.  Theresa will check out making arrangements.

We polished off our evening with Helen’s delicious raspberry and cherry pies, and other goodies, after that we continued to enjoy each other’s company before heading into the warm summer night.

DFM Sonds Aid to Brunswick UU Church

At the July Monthly Meeting we decided to send $1,200 to the Brunswick Unitarian Universalist Church to help the rebuilding of their church following the fire on June 6th that destroyed the entire rear of the sanctuary.  We also discussed that Friends be invited to contribute to that endeavor.  If you are so  moved, donations may be mailed to:

Unitarian Universalist Association,

Northern New England District,

Brunswick Fire Fund,

10 Ferry Street #318,

Concord, NH 03301.

To donate online, http://uuworld.org/news/articles/184523.shtml

For more information, please see:

http://www.nned.uua.org/

From Wayne

As we can see from Tess Marstaller’s article, she is doing marvelous work in Africa.  The package we sent was well received and my understanding is that we will probably try to send another.  Please speak to Nancy Marstaller concerning future needs.

Rally Day: Sunday, September 11

By Wendy Schlotterbeck

Rally Day marks the beginning of the new year for Children and Youth activities at Durham.  Activities start early on Rally Sunday with the kid-chefs cooking up breakfast for the meeting.  Come join us right from the start of our new year.

Breakfast creation 8:45 AM – kids who like to cook, come help!!

Breakfast 9:30 AM Open to all

Program 10:00 Come learn what’s happening in Christian Education

Meeting for Worship 10:25 – Inter-generational, kid friendly service – no Sunday School.

Schedule 2011 – 2012:

This year we will have three age groups meeting on different Sundays.

As usual, childcare will be provided for babies and toddlers.

Elementary Grades (preschool age through grade five) meet 1st and 3rd Sundays beginning at 10:25 AM.  We will be using the Godly Play curriculum.

The middle school age group (grades six – eight or nine) will meet 2nd and 4th Sundays beginning at 10:25am.  The curriculum will be announced shortly.

Passages, the high school group, will meet 1st and 3rd Sundays, beginning at 10:15 AM.

After September 11th, the regular Sunday School schedule begins:

September 18: Godly Play and Passages

September 25: Middle School

Events and Newsletter Delivery

By Jo-an Jacobus, Editor

As editor of our newsletter, some things have become clear to me as I work with Wayne to get the newsletter to you in a timely manner.

The most obvious to me is I can’t guarantee you will receive the information about events happening during the first week of the month before they occur.  The turn-around time after monthly meeting is just too short.  It is a virtual certainty that the paper copies will not have arrived until late in the first week of the month.  It is tight in some months for the email version as well.

The most important area of clarity involves a positive step that can be taken by those submitting articles concerning upcoming events.  Tell us in advance.  Put an October event into September’s newsletter.  Even if your event is in late October, September is better.  Send it to us early, at least a month early.  Get the news in a month early to be sure Friends can attend your event.

Another positive step for those submitting articles is not new but bears repeating.  Please get your articles to me by 5 P.M. on the Wednesday following monthly meeting.  If I don’t have it by then, it won’t go in.

My last thoughts on hearing about upcoming events in a timely manner I have said before but it does make a difference.  If you want to receive your newsletter in time to see notices about events occurring in the first week of the month, email is the way to go.  This might not be an issue for you.  If it is, I’m doing everything I can to get it to you on time.  Once the newsletter is in final copy, that’s the end for the email edition but only the beginning for a paper version.  It must be copied, collated, prepared for mailing, and go through the US Mail.

I spoke with a Durham (F)friend this week who was very upset with the quality of the photographs in the paper copy of the newsletter.  This friend felt the photos weren’t worth printing, although having seen them once online thought those were terrific.  This friend is adding email delivery to paper delivery, wanting to see the lovely photos but still wanting to have a copy to hold.  A “twofer” that works for one friend: early news with great photos and paper to hold.