Contemplative Prayer group will be meeting in the meetinghouse on Tuesdays beginning at 7 p.m. through May. The group will then take the summer off.
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From Glenice Hutchins:
On April 20 I will be one-third into my radiation treatments. So far I feel well but tire quickly. All your support and prayers have been such a blessing. The healing service sustains me as I lie under the mask. Thanks to all.
Peace, Glenice
Copier Paper Storage and Copier Functioning
By Jo-an Jacobus
I’m sure you’ve heard it before: “Be sure to take the copier paper you didn’t use out of the machine and put it in the ream wrapper in the case box and close the box.”
Annoying process isn’t it? And slow, when you are in a hurry. I mean, what can it really hurt? It worked fine without any hassles. What’s the big deal?
For whatever reason, the copier is very sensitive to the moisture level in the paper, even though we buy paper that is for use with machines that have paper-jamming difficulties. If the lid of the case box is not all the way down, if the ream wrap has been ripped off so it can’t be wrapped around again, even if those things happen at the beginning of a ream, it may be enough to jam the copier.
Then you could be the person on the other end of that conversation, “Who left the paper in the machine? It has jammed 6 (12, ___ ) times! I can’t get it to run through! I need this for Monthly Meeting ( ______ Committee), now!”
The meeting needs for all of us who use the copier to slow down and treat the paper the way it needs to be treated to keep the copier running smoothly. The copier repair person comes as needed to set it to rights again but often the paper is the issue. For us to find that out costs a minimum of $40. We can each do our part by being kind to the copier and in using less paper that will go straight into the recycle bin.
New, and hopefully easier and more effective, ways of storing the paper are being set up and will be in place before long. Until then, please take the paper out of the copier, put it back in the box and put the lid firmly on the box.
LACO Benefit Dinner May 19
By Margaret Wentworth
Holy Trinity Parish of Lisbon Falls is holding a spaghetti / lasagna dinner to benefit the Food Pantry run by Lisbon Area Christian Outreach. It will be held Saturday, May 19, from 5 p.m. to 7 p.m. at the church, 67 Frost Hill Ave., Lisbon Falls. The tickets are $6 for adults and $3 for young people. If you are unable to attend but would like to support LACO, buy a ticket in advance but let LACO keep it to pass along to a client of the Food Pantry.
$6 = 31 pounds of food from Good Shepherd Food Bank, but it could also mean … $6 = an evening out and nice dinner for a LACO client.
Durham is to provide desserts for this benefit dinner. As we go to print the details on this part of the plan are not yet available. Listen for announcements at Meeting or contact Margaret Wentworth or Daphne Clement for more information.
Yard Sale May 26 8-1
From our Pastor
The Transition Movement
The last weekend in February 2012, Steve Chase and his partner, Katy Locke, brought to Durham Meeting a daylong seminar on gathering Transition Communities. Steve Chase was the Plenary Speaker at New England Yearly Meeting sessions in 2011. The theme of the 2011 Yearly Meeting was “Called to Heal a Broken Earth.” The DFM event was well attended by both Durham Friends and visitors from nearby communities. Below are excerpts from a paper Steve has written:
“Blessed Are the Organized
Why Quakers Should Consider Joining the Transition Movement”
by Steve Chase “Our lives are caught in a system/culture/society that exploits people and the planet, and leaves us spiritually wanting.”
In his paper Steve Chase quotes a Statement from a 2011 Young Adult Friends Gathering held at Mt. Toby Friends Meeting: “Back in the mid-1600s, Quaker founder George Fox called on the emerging Quaker Movement to help transform the world. The early Friends called this effort the “Lamb’s War,” a term to evoke the nonviolent revolutionary ministry of Jesus … Early Friends clearly felt that it was their responsibility to raise up a new spiritual and community renewal movement …” He suggests in his paper that “there is a strong ethical common ground between” the Religious Society of Friends and the Transition Movement, noting: “Like Quakers, the broader Transition Movement is committed to:
“Earthcare: recognizing that the earth is the source of all life, that the Earth is our only home and that we are a part of the Earth’s web of life, not separate from it.
“Peoplecare: supporting and helping each other to live in a way that is not harmful to ourselves or the planet, and to promote just and healthy societies.
“Fairshare: ensuring that the Earth’s limited resources are utilized in ways that are equitable and wise for both the present and the future wellbeing of the human family and the entire biosphere. … [&] the Transition Movement is visionary, upbeat, and invitational.”
An Invitation
So, how can we at Durham Friends Meeting join the Transition Movement? Well, in many small ways, by the choices we make regarding our personal use of natural resources. And you can come and help with creating the Durham Friends Community Garden. If you are hearty there are plenty of jobs to be done; if not, please bring a plant (tomato, herb or other vegetable) and plant it in one of the raised beds. Stop by from time to time and pull a weed or three. And when it’s harvest time come and gather in the harvest. God’s miracle of creation: from a single seed comes plenty. And lastly, if in the past year there have been physical challenges for you, just come and enjoy the beauty of creation while sitting on the soon to be created bench beneath the new (soon to be created) trellis where our grapes will grow. And there will, I hope, be plenty of flowers. Pick a few, take them home or share them with a friend.
At the end of the summer all of our surplus produce will be donated to the LACO Food Bank. We will save some for our Harvest Supper and Pig Roast (proceeds also to LACO).
Durham Monthly Meeting of Friends Minutes of March 18, 2012
The meeting opened at 12:35 p.m. with 19 people present.
Clerk Sue Wood opened with a reading from New Yearly Meeting Faith and Practice: “Sense of Community.” In it, Fox writes, “Friends are not to meet like a company of people about town or parish business…” but to wait on the Lord. George Selleck writes, “It is important that the meeting for business should begin with a genuine period of worship, with an awareness of the real presence and direction of Christ in the worshipping fellowship.”
1.) Clerk Sue Wood read a letter from Tess Hartford requesting tuition assistance for her granddaughter Ariana Andrews for Friends Camp. This request was approved.
2.) A letter was read from Dorothy Grannell of Friends World Conference for Consultation-New England regarding the April “Salt and Light” Conference in Kenya. There will be people from New England attending that conference who would like to visit Monthly Meetings to share their experiences.
It was approved that we extend an invitation to join us on Sunday, May 13, for a potluck and gathering. This will be following the Saturday United Society of Friends Women-New England meeting during which there will be a report from some of these people.
3.) Katharine Hildebrandt brought the Treasurer’s Report both for February and year to date. It was noted that Income for the two months was $9,318.35. But she will need to dip into the General Savings Account to meet the expenses for March. Income for February was $4,128.67 and expenditures were $6,742.92 for the General Fund. Capital expenses for February were $15,066 which completed the purchase of the pellet boiler system; this came out of the Capital Fund.
4.) Wendy Schlotterbeck reported that Ministry and Counsel will be co-sponsoring a Seder Supper with Christian Education on April 5 at 6:00. All are welcomed. Families especially are invited. There will be an Easter sunrise service at the Weed Simpson Cemetery on River Road in Brunswick this year at 6 a.m. A request is being made that people wear their name tags as there is an increase in new people coming to the meeting.
5.) The Meeting approved that Trustees should use the $100 needed to fix the land-line telephone in the Meeting. Trustees remind people not to park under the basketball net, especially now that the weather is good.
6.) Susan Rice reported for Peace and Social Concerns. They were very happy with the workshop on Transitional Communities that Steve Chase and Katy Locke gave and look forward to continuing with some of the ideas and the spirit of the Transitions movement.
Peace and Social Concerns plans to have two fund raising dinners this year: one for Kakamega at the end of June and one for the Lisbon/Auburn Christian Outreach Food Pantry in the autumn. Holding these two dinners for “sharing the wealth” were approved.
7.) Daphne Clement brought the Pastors’ Report. Reading group will be held on Wednesdays in April at 6:30 p.m. (reading the Gospels of Thomas and Mary Magdalene) and Contemplative Prayer gatherings will continue again at 6:30 p.m. on Tuesdays in May.
Daphne is looking forward to the Meeting’s having a community garden by the parsonage. She has great plans for it and looks forward to a large participation by Meeting members and attenders.
It was approved that Markus Schlotterbeck be invited to bring the message on April 22 following his three and a half month visit to Palestine. He will be asked to speak at a pot-luck on that date. We hold Markus in prayer for his safety.
8.) Sally Skillman reported that Special Events Committee is preparing for Easter.
9.) Wendy Schlotterbeck reminds us that that Jonathan Vogel-Borne has resigned as Secretary of New England Yearly Meeting, effective as of the end of December. Wendy is on the search committee for a new Secretary and welcomes ideas and applications for the position.
Minutes of the meeting were approved as the meeting was held. The Meeting adjourned at 1:55 p.m. with a period of worship.
Respectfully submitted, Susan Rice
Woman’s Society March 19 Meeting
By Angie Reed
On March 19, 17 women and one young woman met at the Meeting House for this month’s meeting. Kitsie Hildebrandt opened the meeting, asking for Devotions to begin. Devotions were given by Dotty DeLoach, who led us in singing “What a Friend We Have in Jesus.” Angie Reed led the program using the reading program book “Praying in Color.” All who attended had the opportunity to create a personal “praying in color” and share in a group coloring activity.
The Annual Treasurer’s Report for 2011 was presented by Margaret Wentworth. This past year the Woman’s Society raised $3,689.21 and gave away $3,300.06 to many worthy causes — including the “Adopt a Nurse” Program.
The remainder was spent on group expenses, including our annual national dues and books for the Adult and Young Friends reading programs.
Prayers were asked for the Friends Theological College Program, which, in addition to other services, provides ministry to the Kakuma Refugee Camp. This Camp serves more than 90,000 refugees who have been forcibly displaced from countries in East Africa because of war.
The Tedford meal for March was salad, sloppy joes, lasagna, a casserole, buns and chocolate chip cookie bars.
A date was set for the yard sale: It will be on the Saturday of Memorial Day Weekend. Items can be donated NO EARLIER THAN MAY 13. Concern was expressed by members about the difficulty cleaning up at the end of the yard sale. This is because of large items that have been donated, despite our annual request that no items larger than a microwave be donated.
Various ideas were discussed about how to make this policy more clear to people who donate items to the yard sale. This yard sale is primarily organized and run by the female members of the Meeting who have difficulty handling large items. Often, Woman’s Society gets charged a disposal fee to get rid of large items, which decreases revenue raised by this yard sale.
If people who have donations have any questions or concerns about this, please see a Woman’s Society Member.
At the end of the business meeting all gathered to enjoy the refreshments provided by Theresa Oleksiw and Abby Fortune.
To end the meeting Kitsie read a Henry Wadsworth Longfellow poem. The next meeting will be on April 16 at 7 p.m. All are welcome to attend.
Please wear your nametags!
By Ministry & Counsel
We have new attenders and visitors who don’t know all our names. Out of courtesy to them, and any forgetful regulars, please wear your nametag at Meeting. Some of you have already made them. They are in a box or basket on the shelf in the entryway. If you don’t already have one, or have forgotten it at home, there are blank nametags in the basket, so you make yourself one.
The Meeting thanks for your help!
Falmouth Quarterly Meeting
By Margaret Wentworth
Falmouth Quarterly Meeting will meet at Portland meetinghouse on April 28. The schedule is:
8 a.m.Ministry & Counsel (M & C members from all meetings are invited) 10 a.m.Meeting for Worship 11:15 a.m. Meeting for Business Noon(ish) Lunch, provided by Portland Friends 1:30 p.m.Program concerning prison reform, with emphasis on the problems of solitary confinement. There will be a video.
There will be a youth program on sustainability facilitated by Wendy Schlotterbeck. We will be watching a movie and building stick sculptures. Childcare will be provided.
Quarterly Meeting gives us all an opportunity to meet and worship with Friends from other meetings, and can be a great time of fellowship and inspiration! Do plan to come for all or part of the day.
Plants for the Woman’s Society Yard Sale
Wow, what an early spring we are having! If you are dividing/growing plants and have extra, please consider donating them to the yard sale. We have pots available in the horse-shed. This year’s sale will be on Saturday, May 26, from 8 a.m. to 1 p.m. We ask that you bring plants no earlier than May 20, and you may bring them up to the morning of the sale. Please label with type, color if you know it, and any special growing considerations (shade, sun, vigorous spreader, etc.). Thanks for all your past support. If you have questions, see Nancy Marstaller.
Spring Gathering of New England USFW
By Dorothy Grannell, of Portland Meeting and USFW-NE
The Spring Gathering of United Society of Friends Women – New England is being held at Durham Friends Meetinghouse on Saturday, May 12.
The schedule is: 10 a.m. Welcome 10:15 a.m. Worship 11 a.m. Program (Several women who
have returned from the 6th World Conference of Friends at Nakuru, Kenya, will speak.)
12 p.m. Business meeting, including: Plans for gathering at NEYM Sessions and fall gathering; previous minutes and other items from officers of USFW; decide on special appeal for next newsletter; news from Cuba and other women’s groups in New England.
12:30 p.m. Lunch
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1:30 p.m. Program continues 3 p.m. Closing
All are welcome!
Yard Sale!
By Angie Reed
The Woman’s Society annual yard sale is right around the corner. The date this year is Saturday, May 26. As usual, it runs from 8 a.m. to 1 p.m. It is a major event in the calendar of the Meeting and Woman’s Society. It takes the whole meeting to pitch in and work together to make this event the success it always is. A signup sheet for volunteers will be hung closer to the date.
Donations will be gratefully accepted beginning Sunday, May 13. We have a large gathering at the Meetinghouse on Saturday, May 12, and there just won’t be room for donations until Sunday.
It is now time to think about clearing out those knick-knacks that have been stored away … or, perhaps, still usable items from the children’s array of playthings, or from the utensil drawer of the kitchen. Books and other media are welcome.
Your imagination has no bounds, with one
exception: We cannot stress enough, please do not donate things that are not smaller than a small microwave. This year we are putting out the word more than ever before. This means, among other things, no furniture. We cannot take microwaves either. Most, if not all, of them are still on the table at the end of the day. This policy and notice have been made stronger because large items have been donated despite our annual request.
This yard sale is primarily organized and run by the female members of the Meeting who have difficulty handling large items. Often, Women’s Society gets charged a disposal fee to get rid of large items which decreases revenue raised by this yard sale.
If people with donations have any questions or concerns about this, please see a Woman’s Society Member.
Seder Supper
Ministry and Counsel and Christian Education April 5, at 6 p.m. All are welcomed. Families will be co-sponsoring a Seder Supper on Thursday, especially are invited.
Reading Group Starts New Round
By Daphne Clement
The reading group will start up again, this time to read the Gospel of Thomas and the Gospel of Mary Magdalene. The meetings will be on
Wednesdays at 6:30 p.m. at the meetinghouse and will begin on April 4. Contact Daphne if you are interested or for more information: 353.6354
Durham Monthly Meeting Minutes, April 17, 2011
April 17, 2011
for every family in every part of the earth, and also for people who are poor and their governments. Durham Monthly Meeting of Friends convened on Sunday April 17, 2011 at 12:30 with 12 present. Co-Clerk, Edwin Hinshaw, read from Daily Readings from Quaker Writings Ancient and Modern, an article by James Newby, p. 84, ed. Linda H. Renfer: “We live in a world of mystery;… deeper faith will produce deeper questions…”
Dorothy Hinshaw was approved as recording Clerk for the day.
1. Margaret Wentworth circulated the Statistical report, prepared by Dorothy DeLoach. The report was accepted with appreciation, to be forwarded to New England Yearly Meeting of Friends [NEYMF]. It was noted that parents need to request junior membership for their children so that they may be counted in the meeting’s annual statistics.
2. A letter from NEYM Young Adult Friends concerning climate change was received and referred to Peace and Social Concerns Committee.
3. Carried over from March Monthly Meeting, the need for a land telephone line was discussed. The Meeting approved a three year contract with FairPoint Communications for $420 per year which enables unlimited calls to numerous towns in this area, provides 911 emergency service and facilitates in-coming calls. The towns included in this calling area are Durham, Lisbon, Lisbon Falls, Brunswick, Freeport, Topsham, Bath, Bowdoin, Bowdoinham, Harpswell, Phippsburg, Woolwich and Georgetown. No long distance calls will be able to be made. Jo-an Jacobus will follow through on this matter.
4. It was reported that a letter of introduction for Markus Schlotterbeck to Philadelphia Yearly Meeting was prepared and given to him by the Co-Clerks.
5. Joseph Godleski for Katharine Hildebrandt, Treasurer, distributed the monthly financial and year-to date reports. They were received with appreciation and are attached.
6. Daphne Clement, Pastor, suggested that we facilitate automatic transfers from a donor’s bank account to the Meeting bank account. It was approved that the Treasurer be asked to arrange for this procedure.
7. A request was received for Ariana Andrews for a campership to Friends Camp. It was approved to provide $250.
8. In response to a letter and photos of Durham Meeting, a letter was received from our sister meeting, Velasco Monthly Meeting, Cuba. This letter was read in Meeting for Worship and Monthly Meeting.
“A thousand thanks for this wonderful Bridge of Love which you share with us Cubans – and more importantly, Quakers – in Velasco. This session of the yearly meeting has been full of love and that is why I’m writing, to extend that love to you all. We never forget you and we pray We hope a group of you will be with us this year, if God permits.”
9. Leslie Manning reported for Ministry and Counsel:
a. In response to NEYM’s request that we consider Friends United Meeting’s personnel policy, Durham Ministry Counsel reports: “Prior to 1988, Friends United Meeting did not have a Sexual Ethics portion of their personnel process. After prayer, discussion and discernment, we recommend that it be replaced with the following:
Recruitment.
Application with references.
Applicant asks for a Clearness Committee from Monthly Meeting where membership is held, which provides a letter of recommendation to Yearly meeting, if approved.
Yearly Meeting (or its interim body) provides a letter of recommendation, if approved.
Friends United Meeting makes final decision in conjunction with applicant.”
The above was approved in principle to be forwarded to NEYMF for further consideration and to QM for their information. Monthly Meeting recommended that the above policy change be set in context of the FUM policy.
b. Friends General Conference Gathering of Friends will be held at Grinnell College, Iowa, July 3-9, 2011. “Yes to the Joy of Love,” Friends General Conference’s 2010 annual report, was circulated.
c. Special mugs will be used to identify members of Ministry and Counsel at “coffee” hour to facilitate inquiries about Friends and Durham Meeting.
10. Peace and Social Concerns Committee reported on the concern from Friends Committee on National Legislation about the fact that 39 cents of every tax dollar goes to war and militarization. The Committee’s major effort will be devoted to supporting Lisbon Area Christian Outreach. Monthly Meeting approved selling tickets to LACO events held at Durham Friends meetinghouse and other local churches.
11. The All Maine Gathering and Falmouth Quarterly Meeting will be held at Friends Camp on April 30, 2011. Representatives approved are Clarabel Marstaller, Daphne Clement, Alexandrine and Joseph Godleski.
12. Daphne Clement, Pastor, reported attending the spring gathering of New England United Society of Friends Women, NEYMF and New York Yearly Meeting of Friends Ministers and Clerks conference, on local pastoral visits, and meeting with Young Friends at “Aunt Bee” Bernice Douglas’ home. She also volunteers at LACO and attends LACO Board Meetings.
13. Clarabel Marstaller reported for the Adult Sunday School Class on a discussion of the Yearly Meeting “Minute of Sending Forth.” The class concluded that the minute was too abstract, that the four priorities were something we can take hold of and work on: the call to forgiveness; the call to strengthen our ability to love and to build our community; the call to name, cultivate, and exercise gifts of ministry, eldership, and leadership; and the call to undertake clear leadings for witness. The following was also suggested by the Class for NEYM consideration:
The call to work together as a Society to become better able to serve the world and to be faithful to the Gospel of love and peace.
Since we are non-creedal and we come from so many different faith backgrounds, we might try to learn more about our Quaker faith, suggesting that for the year ahead each Meeting have a study of George Fox’s Journal and of one of the Gospels.
The Adult Sunday School class will be considering Bill Taber’s pamphlet, Four Doors to Worship in May. Meeting members are encouraged to attend.
The meeting closed with prayer, keeping in mind controversial issues and concerns facing our Meeting and the Society of Friends.
Dorothy Hinshaw, Recording Clerk, pro tem
State of Society – Durham Monthly Meeting of Friends – 2010
Prepared by Ministry and Counsel, approved at Monthly Meeting March 20, 2011
“Let us cherish the seed of God in ourselves and in others, that we may be open to new revelations of truth. Let us look to our meetings to guide and stimulate our spiritual growth.” Advices on Spiritual Life, F and P, NEYM, 1985
How have we been open to truth and how has our meeting guided and stimulated us? At the end of the first decade of the twenty-first century after the birth of Jesus, what do we offer to our families, our community and our world that speaks to “that of God” in each of us?
Our spiritual community has been deeply enriched by the work and messages from our interim pastor, Andrew Grannell. Our Pastoral Search Committee worked diligently and deliberately to call the best qualified Friend to our midst, Daphne Clement. Our Youth Minister and her able assistants provide a rich array of resources and opportunities to our beloved youth. They made a field trip to Philadelphia, worshipped with our Shaker neighbors and visited the Heifer Project. Attendance at Sunday School, Youth Passages and adult religious education has been consistent and strong.
The Woman’s Society has been active, raising more money in their annual yard sale than ever, and thus has more to give away. Our worship time is enlivened by the gifts of music, ministry and silent waiting. We offered Quaker Quest to our neighbors to let them know that they are welcome among Friends.
We have been ably led by our co-clerks, and the faithful stewards of all our gifts, spiritual, financial and material. We have completed extensive work on our buildings, making them more energy efficient, welcoming and as well ordered as resources allowed. We welcomed new attenders and mourned the passing of several of our members who were inspiring in their lives of grace and faithfulness. We grow older and bolder, but take time to offer each other fellowship and support in times of illness and duress. We know the power of love and tenderness and have heard repeatedly the calls to forgiveness.
We need to take the love and concern we experience in our meeting and pour it out in the rest of our lives. We have benefited from the ministry of traveling Friends, from our deepening connections with our Quarter through Quaker Quest. We are distressed to find ourselves without unity in matters that speak directly to our testimonies and pray that unity with all Friends, everywhere, may be found. We rejoice in our connections to Kakamega, Cuba, Kaimosi and Ramallah. We wish to offer more to the needy in our own neighborhoods, to feed the hungry, shelter the homeless and clothe those in need. We pray for peace.
We have found comfort in the metaphor of the potluck. Each of us brings what we are able, and we gather joyfully to share the bounty. It does not matter if we have little or nothing to bring, there is always enough. And being with each other, in light and laughter while giving thanks, is our deepest blessing. We are grateful.

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Key to Photo of Durham Friends Meeting, September 10, 2000
