Durham Friends Meeting Minutes, March 16, 2025

Durham Monthly Meeting of Friends DRAFT Minutes, March 16, 2025

Durham Monthly Meeting of Friends met for the conduct of business on Sunday, March 16, 2025, with 14 people in attendance at the Meetinghouse and three people by Zoom.

1.     Meeting Opening

Clerk opened the Meeting with a traditional Irish blessing from the book Earth Prayers From Around the World.

         “May the blessing of light be on you, light without and light within. May the blessed sunshine shine on you and warm your heart till it glows like a great peat fire, so that the stranger may come and warm himself at it, and also a friend.

         “And may the light shine out of the two eyes of you, like a candle set in the two windows of a house, bidding the wanderer come in out of the storm; and may the blessings of the rain be on you — the soft, sweet rain. May it fall upon your spirit so that all the little flowers may spring up and shed their sweetness on the air. And may the blessings of the Great Rains be on you, may they beat upon your spirit and wash it fair and clean, and leave there many a shining pool where the blue of heaven shines, and sometimes a star.

         “And may the blessing of the Earth be on you — the great round earth; may you ever have a kindly greeting for those you pass as you’re along the roads. may the earth be soft under you when you rest upon it, tired at the end of a day, and may it rest easy over you when at the last, you lay out under it; may it rest so lightly over you that your soul may be off from under it quickly and up and off, and on its way to God. And now may the Lord bless you all and bless you kindly.”

2.     Approval of Minutes of February 16, 2024 — Ellen Bennett

               Meeting approved the February minutes.

3.     Ministry and Counsel — Tess Hartford, Renee Cote

The State of Society Report was read aloud. The report that was read differed from the report that was distributed in advance of the meeting; it included modification of the last paragraph.

Suggestions were made to spell out acronyms, e.g., LACO. as well as a few others. All changes to the Report are included in the attachment.

         Meeting approved the report, with gratitude.

4.     Statistical Report— Sarah Sprogell

The Statistical Report was reviewed (see attachment). A question was asked about financial contributions to New England Yearly Meeting and the connection to the number of members. There is no longer a per head requirement for the Meeting contribution to NEYM.

Looking at Yearly Meeting records for trends, the YM is losing about 1.5% of its membership every year, and at Durham Friends Meeting, we are on that trend line. This is true of most YMs in the US. We review our annual budget and consider our YM contribution every year.

          Meeting accepted the report, with gratitude.

5.     Trustees Report —Sarah Sprogell

The Gathering Room and kitchen need new light fixtures. A very reasonable quote was offered, slightly more than $2,000, for replacing all the lights, including the lights for the Exit signs. Bulbs will be replaced with LEDs.

          Meeting approved this expenditure, coming from the capital fund.

6.     On the use of Rachel Carey-Harper’s Donation — Linda Muller

After conducting some research, Linda Muller and Sarah Sprogell recommend the Meeting donate the remaining $1,000 (out of the original $2,000 gift) to Safe Voices, a domestic violence, direct service organization working in Androscoggin, Oxford and Franklin Counties. This is a geographic area of greater risk, many towns without standing police departments. Over 2,700 women were served last year.

          Meeting heartily approved this contribution.

Rachel has asked us to view a website called Healing Voices, which she is involved in creating. Information will be included in the April newsletter.

7.     250th Anniversary Celebration —Ellen Bennett

A proposal was made to spend, from communications line in the budget, up to $250 for a banner for the horse shed. Communications committee will research this and get back to the Meeting.

Possible event dates to celebrate our 250th are an event in July, one in October, and a lecture to be given in concert with the Durham Historical Society.

8.     Peace and Social Concerns — Ingrid Chalufour

No report.

Donations will be gratefully accepted to help defray the cost of framing the Wabanaki posters that will hang in the Vestry/Gathering room. In addtion, the request was made to check out the website to read about LD 958 that concerns eminent domain and Wabanaki lands.

9.     Library — Dorothy Hinshaw

The request was made to increase this year’s budgeted amount to $300, in part to renew the Meeting’s Pendle Hill pamphlet subscription and to purchase pamphlets not currently in our library. It was suggested that the library budget line be charged, and if we go over budget for this year, it tells us something — overages can provide important information — as we prepare future budgets.

          Meeting accepted this approach.

10.   Makers Cafe Update — Outreach Committee members

As a Maker Cafe group, we would like to continue to host these events, beyond the initial three as a trial run, and ask for approval to continue.

          Meeting approved continuing the Maker Cafés.

11.   Other Business

The request was made to honor Gabriel’s first birthday this month, with a cake and singing. Someone will check with Laura and Ezra for the best Sunday to do this.

12.   Closing Worship

        Clerk closed with a blessing by Diane Neu, from Earth Prayers from Around the World.

Blessed be the works of your hands, O Holy One.
Blessed be these hands that have touched life.
Blessed be these hands that have nurtured creativity.
Blessed be these hands that have held pain.
Blessed be these hands that have embraced with passion.
Blessed be these hands that have ended gardens.
Blessed be these hands that have closed in anger.
Blessed be these hands that have planted new seeds.
Blessed be these hands that have harvested ripe fields.
Blessed be these hands that have cleaned, washed, mopped, scrubbed.
Blessed be these hands that have become knotty with age.
Blessed be these hands that are wrinkled and scarred from doing justice.
Blessed be these hands that have reached out and been received.
Blessed be these hands that hold the promise of the future.
Blessed be the works of your hands, O Holy One.

Respectfully submitted, Ellen Bennett, Recording Clerk

Attachments

2024 State of Society Report

The 1943 Booker Quilt Returns to Durham Friends Meeting

For many years — more than I know — members of Durham Friends Meeting have made quilts to be given away. In recent years, the quilts have been given to the parents and grandparents of newly-born babies associated with the Meeting. They have also been made and gifted for other reasons. One of those quilts recently made it’s way back to Durham Friends, a gift in return of Faye Passow, an artist in Minnesota. (You can learn more about Faye here and here.) The quilt had originally been made for and given to her grandparents. We are very grateful to Faye Passow for this gift.

“I am the daughter of Lydia Passow (Booker), who was the daughter of Harold and Jennie Booker, who were members of the Durham Friends Meeting. When my mother a teenager their house burned down and they went to live with an aunt, whose house also burned down. During that time this quilt was created for them by members of the community. I believe but am not sure many were members of the Meetinghouse.

“I currently have this quilt and have no descendants to pass it to and am thinking that it might be of interest to either the Meetinghouse or a local historical society. I am writing to you first as I think you may know many of these names or their relations and might suggest the proper place for this quilt.

“…  The quilt was put together in 1943. The names on the quilt are:

Please forgive any spelling errors. The names are stitched in and not always readable.”

Here is the quilt, being shown in the Meetinghouse. Two of our quilters, Dorothy Henton Curtis and Angie Henton Reed are holding it.

In a further message, Faye Passow provided a photo of her Booker family.

“I’m sending a photo of the Booker family. Harold, upper left, would be my grandfather. Jennie Booker sits below him. Mabel Russell was my great aunt, married to Fred Russell. Mary Tarr is most likely the Mary Booker of the quilt square. She is my great aunt also, sister of Harold. She was married in 1944, so after the quilt was created. She died in 1994. The unknown men in the photo are probably Harold’s brothers: Ralph Howard Booker and Raymond Phillips Booker. Harriet Booker was married to Ralph.

“My grandfather’s parents were Eugene Loring Booker and Sarah (Sadie) Rowena (Cox) Booker. She is likely the Sadie you refer to. Born 1868, died 1928.

“Barbara (Russell) Weldon and Doris (Russell) Dupal are the only close relatives remaining that I know of in Maine. One of Doris’ children is married to a Reed, which I believe there is a firewood business in Durham related to the Reed family.

“Also – Ella M Brown, another name on the quilt, was my grandmother Jennie’s mother. 

“Minnie Winn was probably Margaret (Brown) Winn, daughter of my grandmother’s brother Hugh. He worked at Worumbo for 50 years and apparently was known affectionately as “Jumbo” for his large size. My grandfather was an electrician at Worumbo.

“Mildred Winn was probably the wife of Carl, son of my grandmother’s brother Hugh.

“There is also an Aunt Jennie on the quilt who may be Jennie Lind (Brown) Douglas, aunt to my grandfather.

“My mother was prolific at searching out family genealogy and wrote a book on Booker and Brown ancestors. She was a member of the DAR, Colonial Dames and the Mayflower Society. She also as a side, was interested in Shiloh as a phenomenon and I have a couple of books on that subject.”

A Gift from Rachel Carey-Harper and How We Have Used It

Rachel Carey-Harper, a Quaker in New England Yearly Meeting, recently made a gift to Durham Friends.  (At the same time she made similar gifts to other Meetings in NEYM.)  She asked us to re-donate this money to causes of importance to us.  Here is what we have done. 

From the February 2025 Meeting Minutes:  The Meeting received a $2,000 gift from Rachel Carey-Harper.  She expressed a desire that the money support people who are affected by the ways in which our government is no longer funding organizations, e.g., immigrants and refugees, LGBTQ+, Women’s shelters, etc. The money may be given to more than one organization. The suggestion was made that a portion of the funds go to domestic violence survivors. Several people spoke in support of giving to Maine Immigrant and Refugee Services (MEIRS) today, the need being immediate. Clerk proposed giving $1,000 to MEIRS today, and return next month to discuss allocation of the remainder.  Meeting approved this proposal.

From the March 2025 Meeting Minutes:  “On the use of Rachel Carey-Harper’s Donation — Linda Muller.   After conducting some research, Linda Muller and Sarah Sprogell recommend the Meeting donate the remaining $1,000 (out of the original $2,000 gift) to Safe Voices, a domestic violence direct service organization working in Androscoggin, Oxford and Franklin Counties. This is a geographic area of greater risk, many towns without standing police departments. Over 2,700 women were served last year.  Meeting heartily approved this contribution.”

Rachel Carey-Harper has asked us to look at and give feedback to Healing Reflections, a new website launched with support, collaboration, and guidance from Barnstable Friends Preparative Meeting and approval of Mattapoisett Monthly Meeting. The website focuses on grounding ourselves in what connects us, healing that which separates us from each other, and ways we can move forward in love. They would like to know if you think there is anything being presented that is contrary to basic Friends faith and principles. We are encouraged to contribute to the “From the Orchestra” section which includes messages or reflections sharing our sense of Spirit.

You can learn more about the family business, Eden Hand Arts, which Rachel Carey-Harper now owns, HERE.

Friends Camp Openings for Summer 2025

Friends Camp has let us know that there are still spaces available for kids of all ages at Friends Camp this summer — but those spaces are going fast. Also there are camperships (scholarships for camping) available for all ages.

Friends Ca,p i the Quaker Summer Camp of our Yerarly Meeting, and located in China, Maine. It is a wonderful way for kids to build community with other young Friends, develop their Quaker identity and have a wonderful adventure.

To learn more, visit www.friendscamp.org.

State of Society Report, 2024

State of Society Report 2024

After the restrictions placed on our community by the COVID pandemic were lifted and we began to meet in person in spring 2023, 2024 was a time of renewed spirit of being together and flourishing through our in-person worship. We had an infusion of energy with our new Meeting Care Coordinator. Her devotion to finding message bringers from within and outside the meeting and her efforts to use her connections across the Yearly Meeting and in the community have brought us greater connection outside the meeting.

When our Clerk stepped down at the end of 2023 and no new Clerk stepped up, Durham Friends Meeting began the practice recommended by Faith and Practice of rotating the clerkship through the committee clerks. This has been a rewarding experience for the committee clerks who have not been in the role of Meeting Clerk before. It has called up the different spiritual gifts as well as developed new skills in the way of corporate discernment.

The Makers Café is our latest outreach to the wider community. Begun through conversations that evolved into an ad hoc committee, the Makers Café events began at the end of 2024 with a wreath-making evening. The “Makers” describe this outreach as “trying to provide a welcoming, offline place for folks to hang out, learn, and connect. We want to share our Meetinghouse with a wider community. We want to help neighbors meet neighbors and help people learn how to make things, together.”

We continue to participate with other area churches in preparing meals at the Tedford Shelter in Brunswick and to support the Lisbon Area Christian Outreach food pantry, as well as renewing our involvement with the Brunswick Area Interfaith Council.

The Woman’s Society continues to meet monthly, mostly at the meetinghouse and on Zoom, and occasionally at a member’s home. We are a small caring community that seeks to support each other and any member of the meeting who might be in need of extra support. We have devotions and a program from Blueprints, a booklet published by the United Society of Friends Women International (USFWI). We have continued to hold plant sales, jam and jelly sales, and silent auctions, donating the proceeds to projects of the USFWI and to local organizations. 

The primary activity of Peace and Social Concerns has been their leadership in the formation of Mawoluhkhotipon (Mou-look-ha-deeb-in), meaning We Work Together. Working with the Pejepscot Portage Mapping Project and representatives of the Brunswick Town Council, this organization states its mission as follows: “Mawoluhkhotipon is a community group of Wabanaki and their allies supporting projects that engage the Brunswick community in learning more about and reflecting upon the rich history and culture of the Wabanaki people of this region.” Members of Durham Friends Meeting are actively involved in the steering committee, the group working on signage and naming on public land, and the group working with the public schools to increase Wabanaki studies at all levels.

The Social Justice Book Project, an offshoot of Peace and Social Concerns, had the benefit of a grant from Obadiah Brown’s Benevolent Fund during the 2023-2024 school year. These funds allowed teachers to document how they used the Social Justice books given by the meeting. The project used the teachers’ work to create four guidebooks: Creating an Anti-Bias Classroom Community, Exploring the Black Experience in America, Exploring Wabanaki History and Culture, and a Guide to Building a Social Justice Book Project. These guidebooks are available online at https://www.durhamfriendsmeeting.org/?p=6895.

In addition to our ongoing financial support for the Puente de Amigos group, we sent one person to visit our sister meeting in Cuba in 2024, and supported the preparation for two members to be part of the 2025 delegation.

We continue the practice of using our charity account for financial support where we discern that such support is needed.

Although we had no increase in membership, we experienced new energy with attenders old and young—a spiritual elder and some parents and their new baby, who has delighted us with his own vocal ministry. Sadly, we lost five members to either death or transfer to other meetings in 2024.

We continue to recognize the need for ongoing healing in our community. We are aware that the lingering effects of hard problems and conflicts that arose during the three years of the pandemic require our care and attention. We are committed to working together with love and respect and to healing the wounds that remain. Just as our outreach confirms our sense of purpose, our time together always reminds us of the faithful love that continues to hold our small and sturdy community.

Approved, March 16, 2025

“Holding Our Stories with a Spirit of Forgiveness,” by Wendy Schlotterbeck

Message given at Durham Friends Meeting, March 16, 2025

 “Be a good ancestor. Stand for something bigger than yourself. Add value to the Earth during your sojourn.” – Marian Wright Edelman

Last fall, when Ingrid, Cindy and I cleaned out the Sunday School cupboard we found a small box labelled “Time capsule” with messages that Durham Young Friends and others created on Childrens’ Day June 12, 2011. Evidently it didn’t get buried in the ground as planned!  It seemed like the start of a message to me and I offered to bring one sometime. The opening to contemplate past voices of Durham Friends arrived this week,and it seems a good followup to Doug’s message last week about the history of our meeting.

Last month I had the privilege to visit the Acoma pueblo outside of Albuquerque NM. This is my understanding of their story and hope it accurately reflects their story. The Acoma people have continuously occupied the area for over 2000 years. They built a town- now called Sky City around 1100  atop a 365 ft mesa.  Until the 1950’s it was only accessible by climbing the stone wall vertically using chiseled recesses in the rock. Everything including water, food, bricks needed to be carried up the steep rock wall. Acoma elders still choose to live there even with no electricity or running water. They are resilient people. In the past 2000+ years,  they have experienced massacres over and over, enslavement and Spanish colonialism, climate change, enforced conversion to catholicism.  In the 20th century, their children were removed by our government and by 1922 most were in Christian boarding schools. 

A remarkable part of the Acoma pueblo atop the mesa is the huge Adobe church built at the command of the Spanish in the 1600’s. Acoma men were forced to walk 30 miles away to fell tall 40 foot ponderosa pine trees and carry them back and up the rockwall to build the church roof.Men women and children were forced to build this church.  No record exists about how many Acoma died as a result of slave labor.  But the church exists today and holds many stories, both painful and miraculous. How Queen Isabella who initially ordered the enslavement and massacre changed her mind and stopped the killing of the Acoma. How President Lincoln singled out the Acoma and several other pueblos and wrote into law their sovereignty.

Our thoughtful and knowledgeable tour guide, Brandon, told the history of the trauma and resilience of his people. He said the Acoma have chosen to share their stories and allow visitors. They have been able to survive by compromising at times but more importantly holding a spirit of forgiveness in order to not be racked with hate. As we stood to walk out of the church, I asked him how he and his community are feeling in the current day. He said they are terrified, angry but resolute in maintaining their culture amid the current political situation. He worries about his kids and the children in the community. He said they have been threatened with deportation and chuckled about the irony- where will they send us back to? His Aunt called him recently and was fearful and depressed. He told her to remember the Beatles Song “Let it be.” Their community will stand together, and band with the other 18 Pueblos in New Mexico to fight injustice both for them and for everyone’s children. 

When I find myself in times of trouble
Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom
Let it be
And in my hour of darkness
She is standing right in front of me
Speaking words of wisdom
Let it be
And when the broken-hearted people
Living in the world agree
There will be an answer
Let it be
For though they may be parted
There is still a chance that they will see
There will be an answer
Let it be

Our meeting family has been around for many fewer years than the Acoma- only 250. And we have many stories of the people and events that make up the fabric of our community. Last week, Doug gave a wonderful account of some of the tales of our meeting. We have experienced trauma but also the power of the Spirit that has bolstered our resilience and sustains us. And we have shared many sacred hours.

 Each of us also is part of our biological family with its share of love and trauma and resilience and sacred moments. When I was looking through family documents and papers on my recent visit to my dad, I found a letter that troubled me. It was from a family member and was a cruel, vengeful account of several experiences this person witnessed from other family members. I was troubled because it was told from a narrow perspective as each of us is prone to do. This letter accused other family members of damaging our family beyond repair, and in my view were inaccurate and didn’t leave room for discourse on healing.  In talking with a friend about what to do both with this letter and my response she told me about her experience working as a hospice chaplain and the dilemma people face with family stories that reflect a bad decision or human frailty but can be destructive. Some stories become stuck in the past and don’t allow for healing or redemption.  Her wisdom to me was to sort through what family stories are constructive to pass on and what stories may be acknowledged, faced head on, but possibly reframed or not passed on. Allow the story to run its course.  I was reminded of Brandon’s wisdom about holding our stories with a spirit of forgiveness.

My current ruminations are around stories- my family stories, my Meeting family stories and our country’s stories. How do I, how do we, recount our history? We have so many stories- our  conversations, relationships, events. How do we account for human frailty, unkind words, injustice that we have inflicted or received? Which stories have no purpose, which can we reframe to strengthen bonds of love and wholeness? These are all questions I’ve been wrestling with. What legacy do I want to leave my family, my Meeting family, my community, my world?

James Baldwin wrote:

This is why one must say Yes to life and embrace it whenever it is found — and it is found in terrible places; nevertheless, there it is.

For nothing is fixed, forever and forever and forever, it is not fixed; the earth is always shifting, the light is always changing, the sea does not cease to grind down rock. Generations do not cease to be born, and we are responsible to them because we are the only witnesses they have.

The sea rises, the light fails, lovers cling to each other, and children cling to us. The moment we cease to hold each other, the moment we break faith with one another, the sea engulfs us and the light goes out.

Agenda and Materials for March 16, 2025 Business Meeting

The Reports and Other Materials for the March 16, 2025 DFM Business Meeting are HERE.

Agenda for MM March 2025

1. Approve last month’s minutes

2. Ministry & Counsel- State of Society- Tess or Renee

3. Statistical report, Trustees report- Sarah

4. On the use of Rachel Carey Harper’s donation, Linda Muller and Sarah Sprogell recommend we donate $1000 to Safe Voices, a domestic violence organization working in Androscoggin, Oxford and Franklin Counties.  They have 3 shelters, 2 for victims of domestic abuse and 1 for victims of sex trafficking and exploitation.  Currently Safe Voices is the only provider for support services and shelter for these needs within their 3-county area.  Last year they served over 2500 individuals within their 3-county area.

Rachel requests info on website, details will be posted on our website

5. Get banner as part of 250th celebration? Approve up to $200 from general fund for purchase?

6. Peace & Social Concerns announcements- Ingrid

7. Library – request to increase budgeted amount to $300- Dot

8. Makers Café update- Ellen & friends

(no report from Finance Comm.)

Maker Session and Café, April 17, 2025

Make a Terrarium with Kim Bolshaw

Live Music with The Peterson String Band

5:30-6:30 Learn How to Make a Terrarium with Kim

  • Advance sign up required. Email Craig@Freshley.com to reserve your spot.
  • There might be a materials charge; details provided when you write to sign up or inquire.

6:30-8:30 Maker Cafe with The Peterson String Band

  • Free and open to the public. No sign up required.
  • Bring a project to work on. Some knitting, stitching, writing, reading, drawing, coloring, carving, or whatever you want. And if you don’t bring a project that’s okay too.

“Durham Friends Meeting At 250 – Lest We Forget,” by Doug Bennett

Message given at Durham Friends Meeting, March 8, 2025

Older than the Declaration of Independence.  Older than the United States of America.

That’s how old this Meeting is.  Founded in 1775, this is our 250th year as a Quaker Meeting.  The Declaration of Independence won’t have it’s 250th anniversary until next year. 

Since before there was a United States; 45 years before there was a Maine, we Friends have been worshipping together in this corner of Durham, regularly and faithfully, week in and week out for 250 years.  That is 13,000 1st Days.  I bet we have not missed many.  This year is our Anniversary.  It is an occasion for celebration. 

We celebrate anniversaries:  birthdays, wedding anniversaries, deaths of prominent people and loved ones, important dates in history.  Our 250th Anniversary is notable, and not just to those who worship here.  It is notable, too, for Durham, for the residents of Midcoast Maine, for New England Yearly Meeting, and for Quakers everywhere.  But it is especially important for us who worship here now – in the present and in the future. 

As we look back across the years, we remember many individuals who have been part of this Meeting, helped shape it and sustain it. 

We remember individuals who were part of the life of this Meeting, no longer with us:  Margaret Wentworth, Sukie Rice, Bobbie Jordan, Louis Marstaller, Clarabel Marstaller, Macy Whitehead, Eileen Babcock, Bea Douglass, Kitsie Hildebrandt, Charlotte Ann Curtis, Helen Clarkson, Sue Wood, Phyllis Wetherell.  No doubt you can think of others, and think, too, of the dozens and dozens of others who passed away enough years ago that no one of us present today has specific memory of them.  They, too, are part of our story.   The earthly bodies of many of these Friends are interred in the cemeteries we maintain. 

For many decades we had pastors, and we remember them:  Ralph Green, Jim Douglass, Daphne Clement, Doug Gwyn – and many more. 

Some left bequests to the Meeting that make possible what we do today:  Woodbury, Bailey , Pratt, Cox, Pennell, Goddard, Douglass, Babcock.  Those funds are a kind of inheritance from the past, and they help fuel our present.  In parts near and far there are quilts that have been sewn to welcome babies to this world.

Our beloved Meeting house is another kind of inheritance.  We first built a Meetinghouse on this site in 1790, and another in 1800.  This current brick Meetinghouse, our third on this site, dates from 1829.  It, too, is a gift from the past that sustains our Meeting today. 

We should make our marking of this anniversary in this year a time of remembering people and events that have shaped us. 

There is a great deal about the history of this Meeting that I do not know.  Much of it can probably be learned from the Minutes we have faithfully kept.  We do, however, know some of the large context. 

Here is one way to mark the 250 years.  Friends gathered in worship here during the American Revolution, the War of 1812, the Mexican-American War, the Civil War, the Spanish American War, the First World War, the Second World War, the Korean War, the Cold War, the Vietnam War, the endless recent wars.  Through all these wars, we have prayed for understanding, for mercy and for peace.  Over these centuries we have cared for our members in times of trouble, and assisted our neighbors. 

For centuries, this place has been the home of the Abenaki.  The placed we call Maine, today, was further settled by European immigrants as part of the Massachusetts Bay Colony.  Over the course of the 1600s and early 1700s, these settlers displaced the indigenous Abenaki.  By disease, by swelling numbers of immigrants, and sometimes by violence, the Abenaki were pushed aside and away.  We remember that the Abenaki were here first, and we should.

Over that very same course of time, 1650 or so to 1750, the religious movement we call Quakerism was coming to life, first in England but spreading quickly beyond England.  In 1642, in the midst of the English Civil War — a religious war between Protestants and Catholics — George Fox had his epiphany on Pendle Hill.  He realized God would speak to him in the present.  He gathered others and they created a movement: “primitive Christianity revived.”  Less than two decades after Pendle Hill there were Quakers in what is now Rhode Island.  Fox visited the Americas in the 1670s. 

The first Quaker Meeting in what is now Maine took place about 1730, in what is today Berwick. Midcoast Maine, where we are, was beset by strife and war between colonial settlers and native Americans until about 1770.  When that quieted down, our Meeting began in 1775. Farmers came here from Harpswell and from southern Maine.  Their first Meetings were held in the log houses they built.  There is just 130 years or so from the epiphany on Pendle Hill to the founding of Durham Friends Meeting – about half the number of years that follow from the founding of this Meeting to today.  For two-thirds of the time there has been Quakerism anywhere, there has been Quaker worship at Durham Friends Meeting.

It is right we think of the Declaration of Independence when we think of the year of our founding.  Quakers in New England and this Meeting:  we were established in strivings for religious reform and religious liberty.

The first European-style religious organization in these parts was the Congregational Church, the established church of Massachusetts Bay Colony.  The first religious service of these Congregationalists of which we have record was in 1717, and took place outdoors at the falls between Brunswick and Topsham.

Religious freedom as we know it was not respected here at that time.  There was an official religion, and everyone was expected to follow its ways.  It was not OK in Massachusetts Bay to be anything other than a Puritan (a Congregationalist).  Roger Williams was driven out of Massachusetts Bay in 1636.  Ann Hutchinson was driven out in 1637.  The Quaker Mary Dyer was hanged on Boston Common in 1660 – hanged for preaching “the diabolical doctrines” of the “cursed sect of Quakers.”     

So far as we know, the coming of Quaker worship in Royalsborough (now called Durham) in 1775 was just the second such European-style religious organization to begin services here in this area – and therefore the first non-Congregationalist organized worship.  We Quakers were a feisty bunch, the religious renegades – the independents.

Freedom of religion was not officially recognized in Massachusetts until 1780, a few years after we began.  After 1780 other denominations entered the picture.  The Baptists began to worship in these parts in 1783, Universalists in 1812, Methodists in 1821, Unitarians in 1829, Episcopalians in 1842, and Roman Catholics about 1860. 

In our early years we helped spread the Quaker manner of worship more widely in Maine.  The Hattie Cox history from 1929 says this Meeting “mothered groups of Friends in Lewiston, Greene, Wales, Leeds, Wilton, Pownal and Litchfield.”

Quakerism has not been an unchanged or unchanging thing during all these years.  At times we have adopted new ways, smoothly.  At other times, not so much. There used to be separate entrances to this very Meetinghouse for women and for men, and a sliding wall that allowed them to meet together or separately.  Some of you can remember when the benches were rearranged into a square.  At other times there have been schisms.  When Elias Hicks and his followers divided American Friends (especially in Philadelphia and Baltimore) in the 1820s, we stayed with the Orthodox Friends, as did most of New England Yearly Meeting. 

In the middle of the 19th century, when Englishman Joseph John Gurney preached evangelical zeal to American Friends, this Meeting with many others in our Yearly Meeting followed the Gurneyite path, while others, those we call Wilburites, stayed with the older ways.  In time, that Gurneyite path brought us hymn singing and later brought us to have pastors.  We did not used to have hymn singing or pastors. 

Through the years there has been a Religious Society of Friends, Quakers have alternated between two modes.  Sometimes we separate ourselves a bit from the world and try to live on our own terms keeping to our own ways.  At other times, we have seen our ways as something to try to spread to others both through ministry and through social action.  This Meeting has had periods of both, but today, you all know, we are very much of a ‘spreading our ways to others’ inclination.

Today, we are simultaneously a place of spiritual worship and support and a hub of activism.  That activism has many faces:  a food ministry through Tedford and LACO, opposition to gun violence, social justice education for the young, welcoming assistance to migrants, support for Native American causes, affirmation of same-sex relationships, prison reform, connection to Cuba Yearly Meeting.  We take guidance from AFSC and FCNL.  This is a great deal for a numerically small Meeting. 

An anniversary is a time to remember and be grateful for the past.  It is also a time to take stock of the present situation, and then to recommit ourselves, as a Meeting.

In our current circumstances, I find myself thinking of what Lincoln said to the Congress in 1862:  “The dogmas of the quiet past, are inadequate to the stormy present. The occasion is piled high with difficulty, and we must rise — with the occasion. As our case is new, so we must think anew, and act anew. We must disenthrall ourselves, and then we shall save our country.”  Our anniversary is a time for fresh thinking about who we are and what we want to do together. 

We are a smaller Meeting today than we have been for much of our history.  Still, we are a sturdy Meeting, one filled with remarkable people.  I look around this room each Sunday and I see many Friends who are deeply faithful and also deeply engaged in making the world better.  I see individuals who do the work of many.  Our numbers may be fewer, but the presence is astonishing. 

There is a future before us, and we all hope a 300th anniversary, and a 350th, and on and on.  It is our future to make. 

What’s most important, for me at least, is that here in Durham, at this place, there continues to be worship every First Day after the manner of Friends.  “After the manner of Friends”:  I don’t mean that in any formalistic way.  I don’t mean we have to open with a hymn and close with announcements and a hymn.  I mean rather that each time we gather we are alert to what God has to say to us now.  That is our most important inheritance, and also our gift to the those yet to come: the confidence that God is speaking to us today, the faith that God will speak to us when we still ourselves and listen. 

Also posted on River View Friend

“Listen for the Wild,” by Briana Halliwell

Message given at Durham Friends Meeting, March 2, 2025

Did you ever wish you could talk to animals when you were a kid?

I did. As a child, I longed to understand them—not just their behaviors, but their thoughts, their emotions, the stories they held in their bones. But like most childhood dreams, I let it fade as I grew older. The world has a way of convincing us that wonder is something to outgrow.

And I might have believed that—until the day I saw a documentary about Anna Breytenbach, a professional animal communicator from South Africa. In the film, she connected with a black leopard named Spirit who had been deeply misunderstood in captivity. But through deep listening, she was able to hear him—to understand the grief and pain that lived in his body.

Something inside me cracked open as I watched Anna transform Spirit’s life through communicating with him and his human caretakers.

For the first time since I was a child, I believed my dream of being able to talk to animals wasn’t just a fantasy—it could be my reality.

A few years after I saw the documentary, Spirit visited me in a dream.

In the dream, I was leading an animal communication retreat, guiding others into silence, when Spirit emerged from the darkness. His black coat gleamed like liquid night. He pressed his forehead against my third eye, sending a ripple of energy through my body.

“You have forgotten how to listen,” Spirit said.

His voice wasn’t human, but it vibrated through me like I’d always known the language.

“Your purpose is to help humans remember—to teach them to speak with us, with all life.”

I woke with a strong sense of being guided by Spirit, but I never could have predicted what would come next.

About a year later, in the summer of 2024, I was invited to attend the World Plenary Gathering of Quakers in South Africa. It was an amazing opportunity, but what sealed my decision to go was an image I saw online while researching places to visit – a photograph of a leopard named Una, a captive female living at a wildlife sanctuary called the Daniell Cheetah Project. 

Her golden eyes gazed into my soul, almost like she was calling me, and I knew I had to meet her.

In August, I boarded a plane and flew 18 hours to Johannesburg, where I spent two weeks in deep, deep worship with Quakers from all around the world. 

I had a wonderful time at the World Gathering, though I did have a small crisis of faith partway through, which I’m sure some of you can relate to – but that’s a story for another time.

After the gathering, I went to the airport, picked up a rental car and quickly taught myself how to drive on the other side of the road, which was a lot easier in reality than it was in my head, thank goodness!

A few weeks into my trip, I arrived at The Daniell Cheetah Project where I met… 

…Una, the leopard from the photo, and Vega, her male companion.

If Una was the sun, Vega was the storm. Most of the time, he was calm, moving through their enclosure with quiet intensity. But at feeding time, the storm would break…

…and he would lash out, snarling and charging the fence, his frustration spilling over.

The keepers dismissed Vega’s aggression, affectionately calling him special while doting on sweet, gentle Una.

But when I looked into Vega’s eyes… 

…I saw pain beneath his rage.

One evening, I sat quietly by Vega’s enclosure, reaching out to him with the silent language I was learning to trust.

“What’s hurting you?” I asked.

A flood of images and emotions surged through me—vast, open spaces, the scent of wild grasses, the weight of a world he was meant to belong to and the unbearable ache of knowing he never would.

“I don’t belong here,” he told me, leaning his heavy head against the chain link fence separating him from his freedom. 

His grief struck me with the force of a river breaking through a dam as it converged with my own ocean of despair. It was an ancient, aching sorrow that held the weight of generations, of wild instincts caged and freedom taken away. It was betrayal, rage, the agony of knowing his soul was too vast for the bars that held him.

I recognized his grief. I had felt it before—the pain of being trapped in a place that doesn’t fit, the helplessness of having no way out. I had known betrayal, too. I had been hurt by people I trusted, and in some ways, I had caged my own wildness within the confines of fear, expectation, and the silent rules of a world that teaches us to tame ourselves – to trade instinct for obedience, longing for practicality, intuition for logic, and freedom for the illusion of safety.

A world that builds cages not just for animals, but for people – separating families at borders, locking away those deemed ‘other,’ enforcing invisible walls of oppression that tell us who belongs and who doesn’t.

Vega’s captivity was made of steel and chain-link. Mine, like so many others, was built from stories designed to keep us small, afraid, and disconnected from the wildness and freedom that is our birthright. 

I could have turned away. But I stayed. I opened myself to him. 

I let his grief pour through me, hollowing me out with the unbearable weight of our collective pain as I wept for all the captive souls whose freedom will never be known.

I allowed the dense, excruciating energy to move through me like a current, channeling it down, down, down into the Earth beneath me. I imagined the soil drinking it in, transmuting our pain like rain, holding it in the vastness of something ancient enough, strong enough to transform it.

As the energy moved, something shifted. The storm raging inside Vega softened. His breath slowed. His body relaxed. He leaned against the fence and grumbled his thanks, assuring me that “We can walk together on this path towards healing.”

The following night, I returned to find both Vega and Una waiting for me. 

This time, their energy was different—less guarded, more open. They had something to tell me. 

I closed my eyes and listened.

What emerged was less like a conversation and more like a marriage counseling session—two leopards, bound together in captivity, struggling to reconcile their reality with the vastness of what they had lost. Vega’s voice, raw and untamed, carried the sharp edges of grief. Una’s, softer, held the weight of quiet endurance.

They told me they were aware that they were expected to breed and posed a heart wrenching question to me:

How do we raise a child in captivity?”

It wasn’t a question of biology. It was the kind of question that stretches across species, across time—a question whispered in the aching hearts of parents who have been stripped of the ability to give their children the life they deserve. 

I heard it in Vega and Una’s voices, but I also heard it echoing through the generations of people who have known forced displacement. Parents cradling their babies in refugee camps, undocumented families fearing the knock of an immigration officer, entire cultures severed from their roots, their traditions, their homelands.

Will our children ever know what it means to be free?”

I felt the depth of their sorrow, the fear that their children would never belong to the vast, open spaces that still lived inside their blood.

“They will know,” I told them. “Because of your sacrifice.”

I assured them that one day their babies would be released into a protected reserve, free to roam and reclaim the wild that is their true home.

I also reminded them that even in captivity, the wild is never truly lost. It lives in the marrow, in the muscle, in the stories that live in our bones. 

And in the same way, the wild within us stirs, moving through us like a quiet rebellion against everything that threatens to confine our spirit.

Two months after I left South Africa, Una and Vega gave birth to their first son, Nico.

Nico’s birth reminded me of a powerful encounter I had with a wild leopard in Kruger National Park.

The leopard was draped across a rocky outcrop, the rising sun painting his coat in hues of fire and shadow. As soon as the vehicle’s engine turned off, he turned his regal head and looked me dead in the eyes as though he’d been waiting for me, like we had a divine appointment scheduled.

In that instant, I felt the invisible thread that stretched between him and Nico, between Vega and Una, between all the caged and the free. 

I thought of Spirit, urging me to help humans remember our connection with the wild world. 

I thought of Una, calling me across time and space to help her and her mate reconcile their fate.

I thought of Vega, of the grief he carries in his body, and the way it had mingled with my own and our collective grief and poured through me into the Earth. 

I thought of Nico…

…born into captivity, but carrying the wild inside him. 

And I thought of us—of humanity, of the ways that we, too, have been severed from our wildness.

We have been told that captivity is normal. That we must shrink to fit within borders, within laws, within cages built of fear and control. That the wild parts of us—the instinct, the longing, the untamed knowing—must be buried, forgotten, domesticated.

But I do not believe that.

Because the wild does not die. It waits. It remembers. It calls.

And all we need to do to hear it is listen.

To listen with the ears of our heart. 

So, I invite you to transfer authority from your head to your heart and listen to the wild yearning within you as we settle into worship.

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Briana Halliwell is a member of Vassal;boro Friends Meeting. She is a contemplative activist, creative communicator, wandering mystic, and intuitive interspecies communicator who hears a Divine Call to weave the forgotten web of connection back into the places (both personal and collective) where colonizer consciousness has spread the lie that humans are separate from each other and the Earth. Briana is acutely aware of what she calls the “Cosmic Ache” – as an empath and vessel of Divine Source, she can feel in her body the collective wounds of humanity and the more-than-human beings with whom we share the Earth. She is called to help humanity heal from the deleterious effects of global colonization through helping people to reconnect with their innate belonging to the wider Earth community.​​

You can find information about Briana Halliwell’s current project here.

Woman’s Society Minutes, February 17, 2025

Present: Dorothy Curtis, President, Nancy Marstaller, Treasurer, Susan Gilbert, Secretary, Dorothy Hinshaw, Martha Sheldon, Kim Bolshaw.

Cards: For Friends.

Program and Devotions: We took turns reading the Blueprints article “Seeking a New Church Family”, by Lisa Lickel. Scripture Deuteronomy 31:6 “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” Hymn: “In Christ Alone.”  Having downsized their lives upon retirement, Lisa and her husband moved to a quiet, rural location and looked for a new spiritual community. They found true welcome in the small local Quaker Meeting and began practicing Quaker worship  and values.

Minutes: Susan read the 1.20.2025 minutes.

Treasurer’s Report: Nancy sent $380. to Tedford. We have $100.58 in our account. We discussed organizations we usually give to, SASSAM, New Beginnings, and Wayfinder. We will begin by sending $50. to SASSAM this month.

Tedford Meal: Dorothy Curtis’s Team C will bring the March 3rd meal. Durham Friends provide dinner for Tedford House on the first Monday of each month. Contributions of prepared food or money for the Team to buy food for Tedford are always welcome.

Other Business: Martha knitted some beautiful hats to be sold at the Meeting House, with proceeds to benefit Woman’s Society causes. We will send this money to New Beginnings. Nancy would like to hold the April meeting at her home in Harpswell.

Nancy showed a photo of Velasco Friends with Mimi Marstaller,  Kristina Evans, and Maggie Fiori in attendance.

Dorothy ended the meeting with a quote from Abraham Lincoln:

“I cannot conceive how a man could look up into the heavens and say there is no God.”

Respectfully Submitted, Susan Gilbert

2024 Durham Friends Woman’s Society Treasurer’s Annual Report

“Worship in Cuba Yearly Meeting,” by Fritz Weiss

Message given at Durham Friends Meeting, February 23, 2024

Right now, as we meet here in Durham & Portland Maine, Quakers are gathered for worship in Gibara Cuba for the closing Sunday worship of Cuba Yearly Meeting.  With them are eleven Friends from New England, including Kristna Evans and Mimi Marstaller from Durham and Maggie Fiori from Portland, four adults and three children from Dover meeting and one from Providence meeting.

Friends began worship this morning earlier than we did, and will continue after we close. I am hoping to share,  as much as I am able, the experience of worship and of Friends in Cuba.

The church in Gibara is full – everyone has walked to worship this morning- from their homes or from the dormitories. It’s 80 degrees, the front door of the church is open, the breeze off the harbor blows through the windows.

The service begins with song – everyone knows the songs and everyone sings together enthusiastically.  Jesu’s band accompanies the hymns.  I saw a photo of the band earlier this week at Puerto Padre. This year there is a saxophone, a bass guitar, a drummer and Jesu.  

The theme for this years gathering is “a family on a mission” The Chorus is “We are the community of God”. Each year CYM composes a song for sessions. The Verse is Acts 2:42  (Pentacost)

“The Fellowship of the Believers

42 They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer.

After singing, a pastor will share a message on the theme and the verse: and the community will participate, sometimes interrupting, sometimes agreeing sometimes arguing.  As Friends everywhere know, Cuban Friends know that we experience god directly and intimately and that authority rests in that experience, not in the person of the pastor.  In Cuba, Friends share during a message, as well as out of the silence.

Judy Goldberger wrote in a recent newsletter from FUM that:

“[In Cuba} I was immersed in communities who KNEW and trusted the constant presence of G*d. Who used their minds and hands and hearts to their full capacity, but knew they were not acting alone, knew they didn’t carry the burden of outcomes.

I’m privileged [in the US]. My intellect knows G*d is by my side, but it’s so easy to fall into trusting the work of my hands, and taking on the burden of outcomes.  In Cuba, so much was out of our hands. The power could go out at any time. We might need to pull over and let the bus engine cool off. The pharmacy shelves were bare of western medicines. The doctors couldn’t run basic diagnostic tests.

But God was always with us, revealing Godself through each other, and giving Cuban Friends power. Not mastery, but power. As I return to the United States, where I’m privileged to be able to get what I want instantly, let me remember that. To confuse power with mastery  is the road to despair. Let us reveal Godself to each other, in our workplaces, in our communities, with power.

Above the cross, in the Friends church in Delicias, it reads, “The place of Your presence.” And it is also everywhere I walk.

[As Jorge Luis , clerk of CYM said} “Somos seres humanos, no somos angeles.” (We’re human beings, we’re not angels.)

Back in Boston after eight days with Cuban Quakers, I don’t even know where to begin. G*d was truly as close as our breathing and moved among and through us. I was witness to the deep joy and deep heartbreak that Cuban Friends live with every day. I miss them already and my heart is a little larger now.” —Judy Goldberger, New England Yearly Meeting

I hear in Judy’s reflection a meditation relevant to the verse that has been at the center of worship during sessions:  Acts 2:42, The Fellowship of the Believers

42 They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. (the passage continues)  43 Everyone was filled with awe at the many wonders and signs performed by the apostles. 44 All the believers were together and had everything in common. 45 They sold property and possessions to give to anyone who had need. 46 Every day they continued to meet together in the temple courts. They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts.

This verse comes after the community has experienced the spirit descending upon them at Pentecost.  They have been drawn together, have spoken in many languages and understood each other, have been mocked by the community and have been formed into this fellowship of believers.  Judy’s description is a description of a community that has been formed into such a fellowship and that is gathering today praying and feasting together.

I’ve sat with the theme “a family on a mission”.  

One of the realities in Cuba now is that everyone has had people they love leave the island.  They cannot return and they cannot be visited.  Caring for family is complicated. The Cuba Friends are wrestling with how to remain in relationship with those they love who are absent. How to include them in the fellowship of believers.    –    

We in our country are living through a time where those we love are being targeted, because of their identity, their heritage or their job and it is unclear if we can protect them. My daughter works for USAID and she has been called a criminal, a lunatic and corrupt by rich and powerful men. How do we enfold those we love who are in harms way into the power of our fellowship of believers.  In Judy’s reflection she links both the deep joy and the deep heartbreak that Cuban Friends live with as part of their experience of God moving among them. That stretches me – Do I recognize the deep heartbreak that I live with as part of God moving through us?   This theme – “a family on a mission” has felt particularly tender both in the lives of Cuban Friends and in our communities.

After the message the children will lead the gathered community in song. There are a lot of children, singing and dancing enthusiastically.  The whole congregation is singing and dancing with the children.    The Epistle from CYM to Friends everywhere will be read, any new pastors will be installed and any retiring ministers or elders will be honored.  The clerk will offer a prayer at closing and the whole community will gather for a luncheon feast.  Local Friends will walk home, Friends from other meetings will crowd into whatever transport have been found to return home and the New England Friends will go to Holguin Airport and catch the 3:00 flight to Miami.

Revival Sing: ”When the world is sick, ain’t nobody feeling well, and at camp we’re so beautiful and strong.”

Queries:  What have we experienced as a community that has forged us into this fellowship of believers, who gather and pray together and break bread together?

Do we know the feeling of the power of God’s presence among us, how do we recognize this and not mistake mastery of our hands and the authority of the world for the power of God’s presence?

Click this link to play the audio: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1mgpAGV5ZATNrBAnjx3ZthbgFdXOL9YKY/view?usp=sharing

Woman’s Society Meeting Minutes January 20, 2025

Durham Friends Meeting House 

Present: Dorothy Curtis, President, Nancy Marstaller, Treasurer, Susan Gilbert, Secretary, Kim Bolshaw.

Cards: For Friends

Program and Devotions: We took turns reading the Blueprints article by Jill Jay, “God Speaks, Do I Listen? Philippians 4; 6-7 “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. A single mother of 3, Jill had a deep commitment to help young children with learning. Through many challenges,  she continued her own education, and learned ways to make a great difference in children’s education. Looking back, she observed her own growth in learning to listen and trust what God had to tell her.

Minutes: Susan read the 12.16.2024 minutes.

Treasurer’s Report: Nancy said we have $535.58 in our account. $430. was raised from the silent auction, and will be sent to Tedford Housing.

Tedford Meal: Nancy’s team B provided ham,  mac and cheese, milk, fruit and dessert. The February 3rd meal, brought by Sarah Sprogell’s Team C, will include both meat and vegetarian chili, cole slaw and corn chips. Durham Friends provide a meal for Tedford House on the first Monday of each month. Contributions of prepared food or money for the Team to buy food for Tedford are always welcome.

Other Business: There will be a meeting of the Northeast Regional USFWI on February 22 at 9 AM. A Zoom link will be provided by Marion Baker. There will be three speakers. The theme is how to help younger people in their ministry. The organization needs a treasurer.

Dorothy ended the meeting with a quote from Elvis Presley: “Values are like fingerprints, nobody’s are the same but you leave ‘em all over everything you do.”

Respectfully Submitted, Susan Gilbert

Maker Session and Cafe, Thursday, March 20, 5:30 to 8:30 pm

ABOUT the Maker Cafe at Durham Friends Meeting

Thursday, March 20, 2025: Make a Hand Broom with Ezra Smith (please pre-register)

5:30-6:30 Learn How to Make a Hand Broom with Ezra Smith

  • Advance sign up required. Space is limited to 12, then we start a waiting list. Email Craig@Freshley.com to reserve your spot.
  • All supplies provided. $10-$20 donation is collected on site.
  • Ezra is a woodworking teacher at Maine Coast Waldorf School.

6:30-8:30 Maker Cafe with Live Music by Fanning the Breeze

  • Free and open to the public. No sign up required.
  • Bring a project to work on. Some knitting, stitching, writing, reading, drawing, coloring, carving, or whatever you want. And if you don’t bring a project that’s okay too.
  • Fanning the Breeze is Michael Fenderson and Bobbi Goodwin. They are two teachers who love sing-alongs and anything that pulls community together for good work and fun!  They were recently spotted at the annual Thompson’s Ice cutting day in South Bristol.

5:30-6:30 Make a Hand Broom with Ezra Smith

All supplies provided (donation collected on site).

Advance sign up required. Email Craig@Freshley.com to reserve your spot.

6:30-8:30 Maker Cafe

Live Music Fanning the Breeze

Hot drinks, snacks, and light supper available. All ages, genders, and beliefs welcome. No Charge for thr Maker Cafe, donations welcome

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Please bring a project of your own to work on. Some knitting? Mending? Painting? Sculpting? Crafting? Carving? And if you don’t bring a project, that’s okay too.

Please don’t bring your phone or other screen-based devices. This is an offline place where we try to connect with

Durham Friends Meeting Minutes, February 16, 2024

Durham Monthly Meeting of Friends met for the conduct of business on Sunday, February 16, 2025, with 15 people in attendance by Zoom.

1.     Meeting Opening:

              Clerk opened the meeting with a prayer by Howard Thurman.

Open unto me — light for my darkness

Open unto me — courage for my fear.

Open unto me — hope for my despair.

Open unto me — joy for my sorrow.

Open unto me — strength for my weakness.

Open unto me — wisdom for my confusion.

Open unto me — forgiveness for my sins.

Open unto me — tenderness for my toughness.

Open unto me — love for my hates.

Open unto me — Thy Self for my self.

Lord, Lord, open unto me! Amen.

2.     Approval of Minutes of January 2025  – Ellen Bennett

                        Meeting approved the January minutes.

3.     Ministry and Counsel — Renee Cote

After positive responses to retreat, the M&C proposes holding another retreat in September. This will be discussed again at a future meeting.

Brown Lethem is asking to transfer his Meeting membership to Claremont.

It was proposed that April’s monthly meeting for business be moved from the 20th, which is Easter, to the 27th.

                        Meeting approved moving the date of meeting for business.

4.     $2000 Gift allocation — Nancy Marstaller

The Meeting received a $2,000 gift from Rachel Kerry.  She expressed a desire that the money support people who are affected by the ways in which our government is no longer funding organizations, e.g., immigrants and refugees, LGBTQ+, Women’s shelters, etc. The money may be given to more than one organization.The suggestion was made that a portion of the funds go to domestic violence survivors. Several people spoke in support of giving to MEIRS today, the need being immediate. Clerk proposed giving $1,000 to MEIRS today, and return next month to discuss allocation of the remainder.

                Meeting approved this proposal.

5.     Trustees Report — Sarah Sprogell

Please see attached report. Gratitude was expressed for the ongoing work of Trustees.

6.     Peace and Social Concerns — Ingrid Chalufour

      Please see attached report. Note that while the mission of the committee is unchanged, the focus of the committee has shifted some of its attention to participating in the Portage Mapping Project in Brunswick.

      The fourth Sunday book group that started last month is continuing and is a benefit to the meeting. Please notes that this is an activity that could be overseen by any group or committee.

The Social Justice Book project may be affected by the decrease in funding from the US Department of Education.

7.     Finance Annual Report — Doug Bennett

Please see attached report. There are four points to keep in mind regarding Meeting finances:

  1. We are very good at budgeting. We spend what we say we’re going to.
  2. We make other expenditures, as well as receive income that are “off budget” e.g., spend money from the capital account, charity account, from the Sister City account, etc. We should try to come up with a framework for these expenses.
  3. Weekly contributions counted towards our operating revenue are down significantly. 73% of income came from weekly contributions and automatic deposits in 2018. That is down to 48% this year, a decline of 26%. Making up for this, not quite half of our income is coming from our investments.
  4. The total financial value of our Meeting is about $950,000. 
  5. Cemeteries, which are budgeted and managed separately, are also in good financial shape.

Suggestion was made that the Meeting articulate to all the importance of weekly contributions. Start passing the plate again!

8.     Makers Cafe update — Ellen Bennett. Craig Freshley

Good session last month with Nancy Marstaller, and excited about this upcoming session with Emily Bell-Hoerth.  We welcome ideas!  It’s all about building community. And we are all grateful.

9.     Other business

An observation: Recently we’ve had visitors to the Meeting who are interested in finding out more about Durham Friends. Things are “bubbling” around us.

For discussion at the next meeting for business, Meeting member Joyce Gibson offered the following:

1. She now has time to be more engaged in the meeting, 2. is missing adult Christian education, 3.  and is interested in documenting who we are as a Meeting and our Quaker history. She is asking M&C to think about how we might approach furthering our education about who we are as Quakers and would like others to work with.

Clerk ask that we close with prayers of gratitude and hope, and reread the Howard Thurman prayer.

Respectfully submitted, Ellen Bennett, Recording Clerk

Reports and Other Materials

Agenda and Materials for February 16, 2025 DFM Business Meeting

The Agenda and materials for the February 16, 2025 Durham Friends business meeting are HERE.

Agenda for February 16, 2025 Durham Friends Monthly Meeting

1. Decide if we want to continue to meet today or postpone until next week (considering if people have power and any are able to join by zoom) – Clerk, Nancy Marstaller

2. Approve January 19, 2025 business meeting minutes

3. Ministry & Counsel report- Tess Hartford or Renee Cote: action item, move monthly meeting in April to the 27th, as the 20th is Easter

4. Nancy Marstaller- $2000 has been gifted to the Meeting specifically to use for people in this area who are struggling or may struggle due to our government’s policy changes, especially for work with immigrants and refugees, LGBTQ people, or those who’ve suffered domestic and/or sexual abuse. Several people have suggested the Maine Immigrant & Refugee Services, as they have lost federal funding. We do not have to give all to one group. Looking for suggestions and possible action.

5. Trustees Annual report- Sarah Sprogell, no action item

6. Peace & Social Concerns annual report- Ingrid Chalufour, no action item

7. Finance Annual report- Doug Bennett, no action item

8. Makers Café update- Ellen Bennett

Maker Session and Cafe, Thursday, February 20, 5:30 to 9:00 pm

ABOUT the Maker Cafe at Durham Friends Meeting

Thursday, February 20, 2025:

**Mend Clothes with Emily Bell-Hoerth

**Live Music by Craig Freshley and Frederik Schuele

5:30-7:00 Learn How to Make a Shashiko Embroidered Patch with Emily Bell-Hoerth

All supplies provided ($7-$14 donation collected on site). Bring your clothes to mend! And sewing tools you may have. Mending helpers will be on site to assist with all mending projects.

Advance sign up required. Email Craig@Freshley.com to reserve your spot.

6:30-9:00 Maker Cafe

Live Music by Craig Freshley and Frederik Schuele

Hot drinks, snacks, and light supper available. All ages, genders, and beliefs welcome. No Charge for thr Maker Cafe, donations welcome

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Please bring a project of your own to work on. Some knitting? Mending? Painting? Sculpting? Crafting? Carving? And if you don’t bring a project, that’s okay too.

Please don’t bring your phone or other screen-based devices. This is an offline place where we try to connect with what we’re doing and who we’re with.

USFWI Northeast Region Zoom Gathering, February 22, 9:30 to Noon

Celebrate the vital & varied ministries of younger Quaker women!

Winter Zoom Gathering of United Society of Friends Women International—Northeast Region

22nd of February, 2025, 9:30am to 12 noon Eastern Time

Join us for a panel of younger Quaker women with ministries,as we explore

“Lifting Up Younger Quaker Women as They Live Into Their Sense of Call”

A Panel Moderated by Emily Provance of NYYM, with:

• Briana Hallowell from New England YM,

• Nicole Bennett Fite from New York YM, and

• Sussie Ingosi Ndanyi from Nairobi YM.

     They will share the ways they have felt led by the Spirit todo an amazing variety of ministries, how they experienced their call, how they were supported to follow their leading, and ways older Friends can help lift up younger Quaker women.

Schedule: (all times EST)

 9:30am ​Zoom opens for informal sharing/greetings

 9:40am​ Devotions led by Pastor Janice Ninan of NYYM and translated into Swahili by Pastor Joyce Machaha of Nairobi YM

10:00am ​Introductions led by Marian Baker-NEYM

10:05am ​Panel – moderated by Emily Provance-NYYM

11:05am ​Small breakout groups sharing what arose during the panel

11:40am ​Singing in multiple languages led by Congolese Women

11:50am​ Announcements and closing prayer

12noon ​End of event

For ?’s Marian Baker

Durham Friends Retreat, Saturday February 8, 9a.m.

Please join us for a Meeting-wide retreat, open to all, on Saturday, February 8th beginning at 9 a.m. and ending no later than 3 p.m.

With worship, small group discussion and artistic expression, we will examine how to prioritize the work and good functioning of the Meeting given our current numbers, and reaffirm our commitment to one another as a Meeting and as Friends. And have fun in the process!!

Lunch will be provided.

It is a great opportunity to listen and learn together and to connect with our beloved community. If you can only come for part of the day, just come!! We welcome you!

Please let us know if you will attend by emailing durham@neym.org. Everyone is needed!

Falmouth Quarterly Meeting Report, January 25, 2025

Report from Quarter, 1-25-25 Gathering

On January 25, 2025, Friends from Brunswick, Durham and Portland and one visitor gathered in person at Portland Friends Meeting and on zoom.

Those present shared news of and celebrated our community as meetings and as the community Friends in Southern Maine. We gathered with bagels, coffee and tea, and had lunch together.

The bulk of the morning was an exploration of what is required of us in these times. The facilitators noted that three themes informed the planning of the morning activity. These were  i.) that all of us are impacted by what is happening in our country, ii.) that we need each other – that we are stronger together, and iii.) that in considering what is required of us, the language from Micah 6:8 “[What is required is] to do justice, love mercy and walk humbly with God” is more relevant than language of “callings” or “leadings”.

There were moments of discomfort as we named our economic class which is one variable which impacts how we are affected, and moments of celebration as we recognized all the ways we are already doing service. We concluded with an exercise of finding our path by gathering into four groups drawn from an article by Daniel Hunter which had been shared in advance. The groups were “Protecting People”, “Defending Civic Institutions”, “Disrupt and Disobey.”, and “Building Alternatives”.

The full article can be read here: link

Before Lunch Andy Granell shared that in his work for a book about the history of Quakers in Maine he had been reading the collected archives of Falmouth Quarter.  There is an almost complete record of the quarter since it’s inception in the 1700’s.

After lunch we regathered to participate in a facilitated Visioning Session to provide our input on the future planning of NEYM Annual Sessions. The invitation was to engage in a conversation about how our Yearly Meeting’s practice of corporate discernment, our relationships with other Quakers, and our use of limited resources can most meaningfully contribute to the spiritual thriving of Friends across New England.”

Using materials provided by the NEYM Sessions Visioning Group and facilitated  by Leslie Manning of Durham, a former clerk of the Sessions Committee, and Marian Dalton, Brunswick, the current Yearly Meeting treasurer, those present shared their experiences of sessions, and their hopes and desires going forward.  Notes were taken and will be shared with the quarter separately.  The notes will also be sent to the NEYM staff to incorporate into their work.

A theme that was present throughout the day was that these times are unprecedented and challenging and will require a deeply faithful response individually and corporately.

Fritz Weiss, Wendy Schlotterbeck, Mimi Marstaller and Leslie Manning

Durham Friends Meeting Minutes, January 19, 2025

Durham Monthly Meeting of Friends met for the conduct of business on Sunday, January 19, 2025, with  eleven  people in attendance at the Meetinghouse and three by Zoom.

1.     Meeting Opening:

Clerk Nancy Marstaller opened the meeting with a reading by Thomas Kelly.
And the third step in holy obedience, or cousel, is this: If you slip and stumble
and forget God for an hour, and assert your old proud self, and rely upon your own
clever wisdom, don’t spend too much time in anguised regrets and self-accusations,
but begin again, just where you are.
Yet a fourth consideration in holy obedience is this: Don’t grit your teeth
and clench your fists and say, “I will! I will!” Relax. Take hands off. Submit
yourself to God. Learn to live in the passive voice — a hard saying for modern
man — and let life be willed through you. For “I will” spells not obedience.

2.     Approval of Minutes of December 2024  – Ellen Bennett

                        Meeting approved the December minutes.

3.     Rotation of Clerks

        Clerk reviewed the rotation of Clerks through 2025.

              Nancy Marstaller: January, February, March                                                                 

              Sarah Sprogell: April, May, June

              Tess Hartford/Renee Cote: July, August, September

              Ingrid Chalufour: October, November, December

4.     Nominating Report — Wendy Schlotterbeck

Regarding term limits, for this year, people will be asked if they would like to continue their committee work through 2025. Going forward, three-year terms will resume with people being asked at the end of each term if they would be willing to continue. This is an issue that will be  talked about at the retreat to be held February 8th.

Additional retreat topics will include the number of standing committees, Meeting priorities, and how we can best continue our work and meet our needs without overtaxing people.

The full list of position and committee responsibilities within the Meeting was read. Please see attached.

      Meeting approved the list of Meeting members, committee assignments, and responsibilities for 2025.

      Meeting approved the addition of Martha Hinshaw-Sheldon as member of the nominating committee.

Note: If anyone has suggestions about the upcoming retreat, please contact Renee, Tess or Leslie. Further information about the retreat will be added to the Meeting website.

5.     Clerks Group Meeting Care Coordinator Recommendation.

As approved at the December Meeting for Business, the clerks’ group met and agreed to bring forward the recommendation that the position of Meeting Care Coordinator continue through 2025.

             Meeting approved the clerks recommendation, with gratitude.

6.     Ministry and Counsel — Tess Hartford

      The position of Meeting Care Coordinator (MCC) was reviewed.

      The MCC Oversight Committee consists of representatives from M&C, the Communication Committee, and Peace and Social Concerns: Renee Cote, Doug Bennett, and Ingrid Chalufour.

      The MCC Care and Accountability Committee consists of Linda Muller, Martha Hinshaw Sheldon, and Joyce Gibson.

      Meeting approved a process reviewing and approving the MCC position at the December meeting — first to have M&C review and recommend the continuation of the position itself, and second to have the Oversight Committee recommend an individual to take on the MCC responsibilities.

          Meeting approved the proposal for M&C make its recommendation no later than November.

          Meeting approved the proposal for the Oversight Committee to make its recommendation no later than November.

Meeting approved Leslie Manning continue as MCC for 2025

The ability of Meeting attendees to hear what is being said was discussed. The recommendation was made to start with a podium microphone to see if it is adequate to address the issue of being heard, both in the meeting-room as well as on Zoom. It was also noted that speakers need to be reminded to speak within the circle outlined on the floor, not down or into a book, and to project. It was agreed to test a podium mike at the 1/27 meeting, which while unprogrammed, may give us a sense of the usefulness of a microphone.

7.     Makers Group Report — Doug Bennett

Mission of Makers Group was discussed, reinforcing its goal of outreach to the wider community, providing a screen-free place to interact and enjoy broadening our community of friends.

8.     Peace and Social Concerns — Ingrid Chalufour

Ingrid read the report.Please see report.

9.     Trustees — Sarah Sprogell

Please see report. Clerks recommended giving prior approval to Trustees to give the piano to another person if so asked.

                Meeting approved this recommendation

        Sarah Sprogell remains the contact for cemetery issues.

10.   Finance Committee — Nancy Marstaller

There was no monthly report. The annual report for 2024 will be brought to the February Meeting.

Respectfully submitted, Ellen Bennett, Recording Clerk

Attachments HERE

Woman’s Society Meeting Minutes, December 16, 2024

Friends gathered at Dorothy Curtis’ Home for the Annual December Meeting and Christmas Party.  

Present: Dorothy Curtis, President, Nancy Marstaller, Kim Bolshaw, Linda Muller, Wendy Schlotterbeck, Krisna Evans, Theresa Oleksiw. On Zoom: Susan Gilbert, Secretary.

Cards: Kim will send cards to Friends.

Program and Devotions: Dorothy read a children’s book to us, “Why Christmas Trees Aren’t Perfect” by Richard H. Schneider. Set in the Carpathian Mountains, the author gave human traits to evergreen trees. In beautiful perfection, each tree desired to be cut and placed in the castle for the Queen. One little tree sacrificed its’ beauty and stretched branches to hide a rabbit from wild dogs, gave a wren cover in a storm, and was food for a starving fawn. In this process, the tree’s form became irregular. The Queen, at first critical, acknowledged that living for others made one beautiful in the eyes of God, and chose the little pine for her Christmas tree.

Minutes: Susan read the 11.18.’24 minutes written by Nancy Marstaller. 

Treasurer’s Report: Nancy paid $60. in dues to the Northeast America region of USFWI.  Our account has $180.58. The $80. proceeds from our silent auction will be given to Tedford Housing. 

Tedford Meal: Team A, lead by Kim Bolshaw, brought rotisseried chicken, carrots with ranch dressing and ice cream. January’s dinner will be made by Team B, led by Nancy Marstaller. Durham Friends provide a meal on the first Monday of each month. Contributions of food or money to buy food for the meal are always welcome.

Other Business: Linda Muller reported that the mitten tree yielded 4 hats, 30 pairs of mittens, I scarf, 1 pair of gloves and 1 pair of socks. This was delivered on 12.21for the 12.22 annual Wabanaki solstice gathering as gifts for their youth group. Nancy would like to host another meeting at her home, in March or April. We discussed how the WS could contribute to the Maker’s Night.

Dorothy ended the meeting with a reading from Phillipians 44:

 Rejoice in the Lord always, and again I say, rejoice.

After the meeting, names were drawn for our gift exchange, and cookies and tea were enjoyed amid conversation and laughter.

Respectfully Submitted, Susan Gilbert

Agenda and Materials for January 19, 2025 Business Meeting

The agenda and materials for the January 19, 2025 Durham Friends Business Meeting are HERE.

Jan. 19, 2025 MM Agenda     

Approve last month’s minutes (December 15, 2024)

Approve rotation of clerks

Nominating report

Retreat update

Clerks group recommendation re continuing MCC position this year

Ministry and Counsel

Makers Café group report

Peace and social concerns

Trustees

Finance

“It Is a Gift, And It Is a Choice We Make,” by Doug Bennett

Message given at Durham Friends Meeting, January 12, 2025

Christmas is mostly behind us, now.  I had a lovely Christmas, and I hope you did, too.  And because Christmas is a time of giving and receiving gifts, I’ve been thinking about gifts. 

It started with thinking about the three Kings.  This past Monday was the day they finally arrived to present their gifts to the baby Jesus — or at least that’s the day we celebrate their arrival.  A few days later, I imagine, the Magi are still making their way home – and going there by a longer route to avoiding telling King Herod about the location of the Messiah – having been warned in a dream. 

And I’ve been thinking about The Other Wise Man, a fictional character Henry VanDyke dreamed up in 1895.  VanDyke imagined a Fourth Wise Man who sets out to join the three others.  This one – his name is Artaban – carries a sapphire, a ruby and a pearl to give to the Messiah.  Time after time his journey is interrupted by some person in need.  And to help them, he gives away his gems, one after another.  He doesn’t catch up with Jesus until he himself is impoverished, and it is years later.  It turns out he encounters Jesus, finally, only at the Crucifixion.  And he hears a voice say, “Verily I say unto thee, Inasmuch as thou hast done it unto the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.” [Matthew 25:40]  This Fourth Wise Man realizes his gifts have been received and accepted.  Artaban never gave the gems to Jesus, but they were appreciated all the more.  That story was a favorite of my father.  He read it to my sisters and I each Christmas. 

So I’ve been thinking about gifts.  Yes, about gifts like gold, frankincense and myrrh, and, yes, about gifts like sapphires, rubies and pearls. 

But much more than that, however, I’ve been thinking about what is a gift, and about what it means to us to give and to receive gifts. 

That journey of the Three Kings was two millennia ago.  Here in Maine, in the present… 

“Present:”  that word means “now” but it also means “a gift.  Now isn’t that interesting?  It isn’t a trick or a coincidence.  Both meanings of “present” have the same original Latin root.   Do we use the word both ways because our ‘now’ is a ‘present’?  a gift?  I think so.  That’s what’s really on my mind this morning:  the present, the here and now, as a gift.  But like the Three Kings, I want to take a longer road to that recognition. 

As I was saying, here in Maine, in the present, the days are again getting longer.  There’s more daylight early in the morning and more again later in the afternoon.  In a few months, warmer weather will return.

You know the basic deal.  This planet earth on which we live rotates on an axis.  One full rotation makes a day.  The axis is canted a little to one side.  The northern half of the planet is currently tilted away from the sun.  That’s why we have shorter and colder days now.  The earth revolves around a medium-size star, the sun.  One full revolution makes a year.  Our planet (and several others) and our sun are part of a much larger collection of stars and planets and other celestial stuff that make up the Milky Way Galaxy.  There are billions of stars in our galaxy, and that galaxy is one of billions (maybe trillions) in the universe.  All the galaxies are moving outward, rapidly, from some ancient center point when and where there was a Big Bang billions of years ago.  Mostly this world where we are is just a lot of rocks and dust in motion, isn’t it?

Still, our planet has life on it, lots of life, including human life.  Probably, there is life on other plants in the universe. But only on a tiny percentage of them.  That human life on our planet is full of all manner of things: politics and science, gossip and exercise, work and goofing off, eating and sleeping.  Courage and wickedness.  All of these and more.  Because of life, it’s a more complicated, more interesting, more puzzling, world. 

What do we make of this world, this galaxy, this universe we live in, with all that it contains, bad and good?  For many people – if they think of it at all – it’s just how things are.  It’s neutral.  It just is.  It’s odorless, tasteless – meaningless.  Sometimes the ways things are delights us; sometimes the way things are troubles us.  Most of the time, the ways things are doesn’t much catch our attention.  It’s just there. 

We may think of all-there-is in this neutral, just-there sort of way, but we don’t have to.  There’s a choice here.  We can also see the way things are (however they are) as a gift.  And gifts are special, don’t you think?  Gifts surprise us.  They delight us.  And they connect us better to one another. Gift-giver to gift-receiver. 

Every morning I wake up; every morning you wake up, and there is the world laid out in front of us.  The world in all its splendor and beauty.  Also, of course, the world with all its problems and troubles.  It isn’t all frankincense and rubies.  When we wake, tomorrow morning, how will we receive that world out there before us?  Will we see it as just-what-is?  Or will we see it, the present, as a gift?

It’s a choice, and a very important one I’m thinking. 

A German mystic once said, “the wondrous thing is not how the world is, it is that the world is.”

Every day, in every way I’m surrounded by people who greet the world each morning in that ‘just-there’, neutral kind of way.  It’s very easy – it’s a temptation, I think – to join them in looking at the world this way, this world with its joys and splendors, its brutality and its troubles, its selfishness and its generosity.  The common way is to see it as a just-there world. 

My New Year’s Resolution this year is to awaken each day to the present, to the gift that is the present.  I don’t want to take it for granted.  This world isn’t anything I’ve earned; it’s nothing I deserve.  This world, this being-here, is a most astonishing gift I can imagine. Even when it’s ugly or painful.  I want to live in that present, in the realization of that gift. 

I learned to write thank-you notes when I was a child.  Probably you did, too.  My parents (especially my Mother) made sure my sisters and I wrote thank you notes for each of the gifts we received at Christmas.  I now see the importance of that.

But this present, this world-before-us, is a gift from who?  Who do I thank?  Well, God, of course.  To see the present as a gift is to open the door to recognizing Creation and a Creator.  To receive this gift is to open the door to seeing the world, the present, the all-there-is, as something special, something sacred.  It’s to open the door to being religious. 

It’s a choice to see it that way.  Today it may be an unusual choice, but it is a crucial one. 

And what do we give in return?  Gift-giving is mutual.  You give to me; I give to you.  If God has given us the gift of the present, the gift of the sacred present, what do we give in return?  I don’t think we can improve much on the final stanza of Christina Rossetti’s Christmas Carol, which we sang recently as “In the Bleak Midwinter.” 

What can I give Him,
  Poor as I am? —
If I were a Shepherd
  I would bring a lamb;
If I were a Wise Man
  I would do my part, —
Yet what I can I give Him, —
  I can give my heart.

                                                Christina Rossetti, A Christmas Carol, 1872

It’s a choice how we see this world: ‘just-there’ or ‘a gift’.  Is this world just ‘stuff’, just ‘this and that’, just rocks and dust and living things?  Or is this world ‘a gift’ – with possibilities and meanings and obligations? Is this world a secular place, or a sacred place, a holy land through and through? 

This gift of life, this gift of the present is the most important gift we receive, and we receive it  every day.  This gift colors everything.  Let us be reverent and thankful.  Let us give our hearts. 

Also posted on River View Friend

Request for Contributions of Medicines and Other Health Products for Cuban Friends

Mimi Marstaller and Kristna Evans will soon be traveling to Cuba as part of a larger NEYM group to visit Cuban Friends including members of our sister Meeting there. 

They will be taking some medicines and other health products with them because these are difficult/impossible to purchase in Cuba.  Below is a list of the items they have been asked to bring with them.  If you would like to contribute such items, please bring them to the Meetinghouse by February 1.

Thank you.

Acetaminophen, adult

Acetaminophen, children

Paracetamol

Ibuprofen

Aleve (naproxen sodium)

Vitamins for women

Vitamins for men

Vitamins for children

Allergy relief (loratadine)

Omega 3

Vitamin C tablets

Nystatin vaginal tablets

Antidiarrheal (Imodium)

Antacids for heartburn

Triple antibiotic creams

Anti-itch cream (cortisone)

Clotrimazole antifungal cream

Zinc oxide antifungal cream

Muscle relaxant tablets

Muscle relaxing creams

Menthol cream

Mouthwash tablets

Toothbrushes

Anti-dandruff product

Ace bandages

Joint compression support

Blood pressure sleeve

Reading glasses

Amoxicillin

Asthma inhalers

About the Maker Sessions and Maker Café

Each month, we are holding Maker Sessions and Maker Cafes at our Durham Friends Meetinghouse, generally on the the 4th Thursday of each Month. Each such event is publicized on the DurhamFriendsMeeting.org website and also on the MakerCafe.org website.

Here at Durham Friends Quaker Meeting, we’re trying to provide a welcoming, offline place for folks to hang out, learn, and connect. We want to share our Meetinghouse with a wider community. We want to help neighbors meet neighbors and help people learn how to make things, together.

A US public health advisory was published in 2023 called Our Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation. Among many other factors, the report highlights how screen-based technology negatively impacts social connections. Further, the growing political divide has spooked many of us to stay home and not engage with our neighbors. In response to these trends, we’re trying to help people get out and get together more. With neighbors. In our historic Meetinghouse.

Maker Sessions (5:30-6:30) are held prior to each café and require advance sign-up and typically a materials fee. All materials are provided and you go home with something you made.

Maker Cafes (6:30 to 8:30) are free although donations are accepted for the food, drinks, and for the musicians. The Maker Café is run entirely by volunteers. Please join us.

For questions or to volunteer, please contact Craig Freshley: Craig@Freshley.com.

Maker Session and Cafe, Thursday, January 23, 5:30 to 9:00 pm

ABOUT the Maker Cafe at Durham Friends Meeting

MAKER SESSION: Learn How to Make Prayer Flags with Nancy Marstaller, 5:30 – 7:30 pm on Thursday January 23, 2025

Advance sign up required. Email Craig@Freshley.com to reserve your spot.

For this session, $5-$10 to be collected on site.

Nancy will provide all materials and instructions. You will be able to take home prayer flags that you made yourself. The Prayer Flags Maker Session will go from 5:30pm until about 7:00pm when the Cafe starts.

CAFE: 7:00 – 9:00 pm on Thursday January 23, 2025

Hot drinks, snacks, and light supper available. All ages, genders, and beliefs welcome. No Charge, donations welcome

Please bring a project of your own to work on. Some knitting? Mending? Painting? Sculpting? Crafting? Carving? And if you don’t bring a project, that’s okay too.

Please don’t bring your phone or other screen-based devices. This is an offline place where we try to connect with what we’re doing and who we’re with.

Live music by The Peterson String Band!