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Falmouth Quarterly Meeting, April 26-27, 2025
UPDATED schedule of the Journey of Peace and Friendship
[NOTE: Durham Friends Meeting will hold its April 2025 Meeting for Business on April 27 at noon.]
Falmouth Quarter is scheduled for April 26th and 27th. On April 26th we will join A Journey of Peace and Friendship: Kindling Moral Courage, Kindness and Connection”. This is an event designed to be an antidote to the fear, division and chaos our communities are experiencing currently: it is being planned by a multi-faith planning group gathered by Sherri Mitchell, Penobscot writer, activist and attorney. Shirley Hager and Andy Burt from Midcoast Friends Meeting are part of the organizing group. Please also see this website for more information: https://www.landpeacefoundation.org/events
Sherri writes: “We are bringing together a multi-faith, cross-cultural group to organize a 7 day processional prayer/unity walk to uplift the dignity and sacredness of every living being. We will begin with a ceremony at the Penobscot Nation Boat Landing on April 22nd (Earth Day), where Wabanaki people will welcome all those who have come to this land seeking refuge, asylum, or simply a better life. We will also honor Mother Earth who holds and nurtures us all.
We will begin our processional following the opening/welcome ceremony with a five mile walk. Each of the following days, we’ll begin and end our day of walking with a prayer, ceremony, or ritual led by one of the faith groups joining the walk. We intend to invite people to join us in those moments of prayer, even if they cannot join the walk. On the 29th, we will arrive in Augusta and hold a collective ceremony, with prayers, songs, and shared vision at the state house.
We will also be reaching out to those with perceived differences and asking them to walk together during the walk, this includes politicians, religious groups, etc., to help connect and humanize one another. Our goal is to uplift all that we hold most dear, we want to celebrate one another, show our care for another, and amplify moral courage, kindness, and connection. “
On Saturday the 26th the day will begin with a prayer circle at 8:30, followed by a 5 mile walk and a midday celebration, multi-faith worship, and feast. Friends are welcome to join the prayer circle, and the walk or just come to the feast and celebration. In the afternoon there will be another 4 mile walk. We will send details of where the procession is, and organize carpools later.
The quarter will also gather Sunday 4/27 afternoon at a meetinghouse to be determined to receive and forward State of Society reports, Memorial Minutes and reports of those with recognized ministries.
All are welcomed and All are needed.
Durham Friends Meeting Minutes, March 16, 2025
Durham Monthly Meeting of Friends DRAFT Minutes, March 16, 2025
Durham Monthly Meeting of Friends met for the conduct of business on Sunday, March 16, 2025, with 14 people in attendance at the Meetinghouse and three people by Zoom.
1. Meeting Opening
Clerk opened the Meeting with a traditional Irish blessing from the book Earth Prayers From Around the World.
“May the blessing of light be on you, light without and light within. May the blessed sunshine shine on you and warm your heart till it glows like a great peat fire, so that the stranger may come and warm himself at it, and also a friend.
“And may the light shine out of the two eyes of you, like a candle set in the two windows of a house, bidding the wanderer come in out of the storm; and may the blessings of the rain be on you — the soft, sweet rain. May it fall upon your spirit so that all the little flowers may spring up and shed their sweetness on the air. And may the blessings of the Great Rains be on you, may they beat upon your spirit and wash it fair and clean, and leave there many a shining pool where the blue of heaven shines, and sometimes a star.
“And may the blessing of the Earth be on you — the great round earth; may you ever have a kindly greeting for those you pass as you’re along the roads. may the earth be soft under you when you rest upon it, tired at the end of a day, and may it rest easy over you when at the last, you lay out under it; may it rest so lightly over you that your soul may be off from under it quickly and up and off, and on its way to God. And now may the Lord bless you all and bless you kindly.”
2. Approval of Minutes of February 16, 2024 — Ellen Bennett
Meeting approved the February minutes.
3. Ministry and Counsel — Tess Hartford, Renee Cote
The State of Society Report was read aloud. The report that was read differed from the report that was distributed in advance of the meeting; it included modification of the last paragraph.
Suggestions were made to spell out acronyms, e.g., LACO. as well as a few others. All changes to the Report are included in the attachment.
Meeting approved the report, with gratitude.
4. Statistical Report— Sarah Sprogell
The Statistical Report was reviewed (see attachment). A question was asked about financial contributions to New England Yearly Meeting and the connection to the number of members. There is no longer a per head requirement for the Meeting contribution to NEYM.
Looking at Yearly Meeting records for trends, the YM is losing about 1.5% of its membership every year, and at Durham Friends Meeting, we are on that trend line. This is true of most YMs in the US. We review our annual budget and consider our YM contribution every year.
Meeting accepted the report, with gratitude.
5. Trustees Report —Sarah Sprogell
The Gathering Room and kitchen need new light fixtures. A very reasonable quote was offered, slightly more than $2,000, for replacing all the lights, including the lights for the Exit signs. Bulbs will be replaced with LEDs.
Meeting approved this expenditure, coming from the capital fund.
6. On the use of Rachel Carey-Harper’s Donation — Linda Muller
After conducting some research, Linda Muller and Sarah Sprogell recommend the Meeting donate the remaining $1,000 (out of the original $2,000 gift) to Safe Voices, a domestic violence, direct service organization working in Androscoggin, Oxford and Franklin Counties. This is a geographic area of greater risk, many towns without standing police departments. Over 2,700 women were served last year.
Meeting heartily approved this contribution.
Rachel has asked us to view a website called Healing Voices, which she is involved in creating. Information will be included in the April newsletter.
7. 250th Anniversary Celebration —Ellen Bennett
A proposal was made to spend, from communications line in the budget, up to $250 for a banner for the horse shed. Communications committee will research this and get back to the Meeting.
Possible event dates to celebrate our 250th are an event in July, one in October, and a lecture to be given in concert with the Durham Historical Society.
8. Peace and Social Concerns — Ingrid Chalufour
No report.
Donations will be gratefully accepted to help defray the cost of framing the Wabanaki posters that will hang in the Vestry/Gathering room. In addtion, the request was made to check out the website to read about LD 958 that concerns eminent domain and Wabanaki lands.
9. Library — Dorothy Hinshaw
The request was made to increase this year’s budgeted amount to $300, in part to renew the Meeting’s Pendle Hill pamphlet subscription and to purchase pamphlets not currently in our library. It was suggested that the library budget line be charged, and if we go over budget for this year, it tells us something — overages can provide important information — as we prepare future budgets.
Meeting accepted this approach.
10. Makers Cafe Update — Outreach Committee members
As a Maker Cafe group, we would like to continue to host these events, beyond the initial three as a trial run, and ask for approval to continue.
Meeting approved continuing the Maker Cafés.
11. Other Business
The request was made to honor Gabriel’s first birthday this month, with a cake and singing. Someone will check with Laura and Ezra for the best Sunday to do this.
12. Closing Worship
Clerk closed with a blessing by Diane Neu, from Earth Prayers from Around the World.
Blessed be the works of your hands, O Holy One.
Blessed be these hands that have touched life.
Blessed be these hands that have nurtured creativity.
Blessed be these hands that have held pain.
Blessed be these hands that have embraced with passion.
Blessed be these hands that have ended gardens.
Blessed be these hands that have closed in anger.
Blessed be these hands that have planted new seeds.
Blessed be these hands that have harvested ripe fields.
Blessed be these hands that have cleaned, washed, mopped, scrubbed.
Blessed be these hands that have become knotty with age.
Blessed be these hands that are wrinkled and scarred from doing justice.
Blessed be these hands that have reached out and been received.
Blessed be these hands that hold the promise of the future.
Blessed be the works of your hands, O Holy One.
Respectfully submitted, Ellen Bennett, Recording Clerk
The 1943 Booker Quilt Returns to Durham Friends Meeting
For many years — more than I know — members of Durham Friends Meeting have made quilts to be given away. In recent years, the quilts have been given to the parents and grandparents of newly-born babies associated with the Meeting. They have also been made and gifted for other reasons. One of those quilts recently made it’s way back to Durham Friends, a gift in return of Faye Passow, an artist in Minnesota. (You can learn more about Faye here and here.) The quilt had originally been made for and given to her grandparents. We are very grateful to Faye Passow for this gift.
“I am the daughter of Lydia Passow (Booker), who was the daughter of Harold and Jennie Booker, who were members of the Durham Friends Meeting. When my mother a teenager their house burned down and they went to live with an aunt, whose house also burned down. During that time this quilt was created for them by members of the community. I believe but am not sure many were members of the Meetinghouse.
“I currently have this quilt and have no descendants to pass it to and am thinking that it might be of interest to either the Meetinghouse or a local historical society. I am writing to you first as I think you may know many of these names or their relations and might suggest the proper place for this quilt.
“… The quilt was put together in 1943. The names on the quilt are:

Please forgive any spelling errors. The names are stitched in and not always readable.”
Here is the quilt, being shown in the Meetinghouse. Two of our quilters, Dorothy Henton Curtis and Angie Henton Reed are holding it.

In a further message, Faye Passow provided a photo of her Booker family.

“I’m sending a photo of the Booker family. Harold, upper left, would be my grandfather. Jennie Booker sits below him. Mabel Russell was my great aunt, married to Fred Russell. Mary Tarr is most likely the Mary Booker of the quilt square. She is my great aunt also, sister of Harold. She was married in 1944, so after the quilt was created. She died in 1994. The unknown men in the photo are probably Harold’s brothers: Ralph Howard Booker and Raymond Phillips Booker. Harriet Booker was married to Ralph.
“My grandfather’s parents were Eugene Loring Booker and Sarah (Sadie) Rowena (Cox) Booker. She is likely the Sadie you refer to. Born 1868, died 1928.
“Barbara (Russell) Weldon and Doris (Russell) Dupal are the only close relatives remaining that I know of in Maine. One of Doris’ children is married to a Reed, which I believe there is a firewood business in Durham related to the Reed family.
“Also – Ella M Brown, another name on the quilt, was my grandmother Jennie’s mother.
“Minnie Winn was probably Margaret (Brown) Winn, daughter of my grandmother’s brother Hugh. He worked at Worumbo for 50 years and apparently was known affectionately as “Jumbo” for his large size. My grandfather was an electrician at Worumbo.
“Mildred Winn was probably the wife of Carl, son of my grandmother’s brother Hugh.
“There is also an Aunt Jennie on the quilt who may be Jennie Lind (Brown) Douglas, aunt to my grandfather.
“My mother was prolific at searching out family genealogy and wrote a book on Booker and Brown ancestors. She was a member of the DAR, Colonial Dames and the Mayflower Society. She also as a side, was interested in Shiloh as a phenomenon and I have a couple of books on that subject.”
A Gift from Rachel Carey-Harper and How We Have Used It
Rachel Carey-Harper, a Quaker in New England Yearly Meeting, recently made a gift to Durham Friends. (At the same time she made similar gifts to other Meetings in NEYM.) She asked us to re-donate this money to causes of importance to us. Here is what we have done.
From the February 2025 Meeting Minutes: The Meeting received a $2,000 gift from Rachel Carey-Harper. She expressed a desire that the money support people who are affected by the ways in which our government is no longer funding organizations, e.g., immigrants and refugees, LGBTQ+, Women’s shelters, etc. The money may be given to more than one organization. The suggestion was made that a portion of the funds go to domestic violence survivors. Several people spoke in support of giving to Maine Immigrant and Refugee Services (MEIRS) today, the need being immediate. Clerk proposed giving $1,000 to MEIRS today, and return next month to discuss allocation of the remainder. Meeting approved this proposal.
From the March 2025 Meeting Minutes: “On the use of Rachel Carey-Harper’s Donation — Linda Muller. After conducting some research, Linda Muller and Sarah Sprogell recommend the Meeting donate the remaining $1,000 (out of the original $2,000 gift) to Safe Voices, a domestic violence direct service organization working in Androscoggin, Oxford and Franklin Counties. This is a geographic area of greater risk, many towns without standing police departments. Over 2,700 women were served last year. Meeting heartily approved this contribution.”
Rachel Carey-Harper has asked us to look at and give feedback to Healing Reflections, a new website launched with support, collaboration, and guidance from Barnstable Friends Preparative Meeting and approval of Mattapoisett Monthly Meeting. The website focuses on grounding ourselves in what connects us, healing that which separates us from each other, and ways we can move forward in love. They would like to know if you think there is anything being presented that is contrary to basic Friends faith and principles. We are encouraged to contribute to the “From the Orchestra” section which includes messages or reflections sharing our sense of Spirit.
You can learn more about the family business, Eden Hand Arts, which Rachel Carey-Harper now owns, HERE.
Friends Camp Openings for Summer 2025
Friends Camp has let us know that there are still spaces available for kids of all ages at Friends Camp this summer — but those spaces are going fast. Also there are camperships (scholarships for camping) available for all ages.
Friends Ca,p i the Quaker Summer Camp of our Yerarly Meeting, and located in China, Maine. It is a wonderful way for kids to build community with other young Friends, develop their Quaker identity and have a wonderful adventure.
To learn more, visit www.friendscamp.org.
State of Society Report, 2024
State of Society Report 2024
After the restrictions placed on our community by the COVID pandemic were lifted and we began to meet in person in spring 2023, 2024 was a time of renewed spirit of being together and flourishing through our in-person worship. We had an infusion of energy with our new Meeting Care Coordinator. Her devotion to finding message bringers from within and outside the meeting and her efforts to use her connections across the Yearly Meeting and in the community have brought us greater connection outside the meeting.
When our Clerk stepped down at the end of 2023 and no new Clerk stepped up, Durham Friends Meeting began the practice recommended by Faith and Practice of rotating the clerkship through the committee clerks. This has been a rewarding experience for the committee clerks who have not been in the role of Meeting Clerk before. It has called up the different spiritual gifts as well as developed new skills in the way of corporate discernment.
The Makers Café is our latest outreach to the wider community. Begun through conversations that evolved into an ad hoc committee, the Makers Café events began at the end of 2024 with a wreath-making evening. The “Makers” describe this outreach as “trying to provide a welcoming, offline place for folks to hang out, learn, and connect. We want to share our Meetinghouse with a wider community. We want to help neighbors meet neighbors and help people learn how to make things, together.”
We continue to participate with other area churches in preparing meals at the Tedford Shelter in Brunswick and to support the Lisbon Area Christian Outreach food pantry, as well as renewing our involvement with the Brunswick Area Interfaith Council.
The Woman’s Society continues to meet monthly, mostly at the meetinghouse and on Zoom, and occasionally at a member’s home. We are a small caring community that seeks to support each other and any member of the meeting who might be in need of extra support. We have devotions and a program from Blueprints, a booklet published by the United Society of Friends Women International (USFWI). We have continued to hold plant sales, jam and jelly sales, and silent auctions, donating the proceeds to projects of the USFWI and to local organizations.
The primary activity of Peace and Social Concerns has been their leadership in the formation of Mawoluhkhotipon (Mou-look-ha-deeb-in), meaning We Work Together. Working with the Pejepscot Portage Mapping Project and representatives of the Brunswick Town Council, this organization states its mission as follows: “Mawoluhkhotipon is a community group of Wabanaki and their allies supporting projects that engage the Brunswick community in learning more about and reflecting upon the rich history and culture of the Wabanaki people of this region.” Members of Durham Friends Meeting are actively involved in the steering committee, the group working on signage and naming on public land, and the group working with the public schools to increase Wabanaki studies at all levels.
The Social Justice Book Project, an offshoot of Peace and Social Concerns, had the benefit of a grant from Obadiah Brown’s Benevolent Fund during the 2023-2024 school year. These funds allowed teachers to document how they used the Social Justice books given by the meeting. The project used the teachers’ work to create four guidebooks: Creating an Anti-Bias Classroom Community, Exploring the Black Experience in America, Exploring Wabanaki History and Culture, and a Guide to Building a Social Justice Book Project. These guidebooks are available online at https://www.durhamfriendsmeeting.org/?p=6895.
In addition to our ongoing financial support for the Puente de Amigos group, we sent one person to visit our sister meeting in Cuba in 2024, and supported the preparation for two members to be part of the 2025 delegation.
We continue the practice of using our charity account for financial support where we discern that such support is needed.
Although we had no increase in membership, we experienced new energy with attenders old and young—a spiritual elder and some parents and their new baby, who has delighted us with his own vocal ministry. Sadly, we lost five members to either death or transfer to other meetings in 2024.
We continue to recognize the need for ongoing healing in our community. We are aware that the lingering effects of hard problems and conflicts that arose during the three years of the pandemic require our care and attention. We are committed to working together with love and respect and to healing the wounds that remain. Just as our outreach confirms our sense of purpose, our time together always reminds us of the faithful love that continues to hold our small and sturdy community.
Approved, March 16, 2025
Agenda and Materials for March 16, 2025 Business Meeting
The Reports and Other Materials for the March 16, 2025 DFM Business Meeting are HERE.
Agenda for MM March 2025
1. Approve last month’s minutes
2. Ministry & Counsel- State of Society- Tess or Renee
3. Statistical report, Trustees report- Sarah
4. On the use of Rachel Carey Harper’s donation, Linda Muller and Sarah Sprogell recommend we donate $1000 to Safe Voices, a domestic violence organization working in Androscoggin, Oxford and Franklin Counties. They have 3 shelters, 2 for victims of domestic abuse and 1 for victims of sex trafficking and exploitation. Currently Safe Voices is the only provider for support services and shelter for these needs within their 3-county area. Last year they served over 2500 individuals within their 3-county area.
Rachel requests info on website, details will be posted on our website
5. Get banner as part of 250th celebration? Approve up to $200 from general fund for purchase?
6. Peace & Social Concerns announcements- Ingrid
7. Library – request to increase budgeted amount to $300- Dot
8. Makers Café update- Ellen & friends
(no report from Finance Comm.)
Maker Session and Café, April 17, 2025
Make a Terrarium with Kim Bolshaw
Live Music with The Peterson String Band
5:30-6:30 Learn How to Make a Terrarium with Kim
- Advance sign up required. Email Craig@Freshley.com to reserve your spot.
- There might be a materials charge; details provided when you write to sign up or inquire.
6:30-8:30 Maker Cafe with The Peterson String Band
- Free and open to the public. No sign up required.
- Bring a project to work on. Some knitting, stitching, writing, reading, drawing, coloring, carving, or whatever you want. And if you don’t bring a project that’s okay too.
March 2025 Durham Friends Newsletter
Woman’s Society Minutes, February 17, 2025
Present: Dorothy Curtis, President, Nancy Marstaller, Treasurer, Susan Gilbert, Secretary, Dorothy Hinshaw, Martha Sheldon, Kim Bolshaw.
Cards: For Friends.
Program and Devotions: We took turns reading the Blueprints article “Seeking a New Church Family”, by Lisa Lickel. Scripture Deuteronomy 31:6 “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” Hymn: “In Christ Alone.” Having downsized their lives upon retirement, Lisa and her husband moved to a quiet, rural location and looked for a new spiritual community. They found true welcome in the small local Quaker Meeting and began practicing Quaker worship and values.
Minutes: Susan read the 1.20.2025 minutes.
Treasurer’s Report: Nancy sent $380. to Tedford. We have $100.58 in our account. We discussed organizations we usually give to, SASSAM, New Beginnings, and Wayfinder. We will begin by sending $50. to SASSAM this month.
Tedford Meal: Dorothy Curtis’s Team C will bring the March 3rd meal. Durham Friends provide dinner for Tedford House on the first Monday of each month. Contributions of prepared food or money for the Team to buy food for Tedford are always welcome.
Other Business: Martha knitted some beautiful hats to be sold at the Meeting House, with proceeds to benefit Woman’s Society causes. We will send this money to New Beginnings. Nancy would like to hold the April meeting at her home in Harpswell.
Nancy showed a photo of Velasco Friends with Mimi Marstaller, Kristina Evans, and Maggie Fiori in attendance.
Dorothy ended the meeting with a quote from Abraham Lincoln:
“I cannot conceive how a man could look up into the heavens and say there is no God.”
Respectfully Submitted, Susan Gilbert
2024 Durham Friends Woman’s Society Treasurer’s Annual Report

Woman’s Society Meeting Minutes January 20, 2025
Durham Friends Meeting House
Present: Dorothy Curtis, President, Nancy Marstaller, Treasurer, Susan Gilbert, Secretary, Kim Bolshaw.
Cards: For Friends
Program and Devotions: We took turns reading the Blueprints article by Jill Jay, “God Speaks, Do I Listen? Philippians 4; 6-7 “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. A single mother of 3, Jill had a deep commitment to help young children with learning. Through many challenges, she continued her own education, and learned ways to make a great difference in children’s education. Looking back, she observed her own growth in learning to listen and trust what God had to tell her.
Minutes: Susan read the 12.16.2024 minutes.
Treasurer’s Report: Nancy said we have $535.58 in our account. $430. was raised from the silent auction, and will be sent to Tedford Housing.
Tedford Meal: Nancy’s team B provided ham, mac and cheese, milk, fruit and dessert. The February 3rd meal, brought by Sarah Sprogell’s Team C, will include both meat and vegetarian chili, cole slaw and corn chips. Durham Friends provide a meal for Tedford House on the first Monday of each month. Contributions of prepared food or money for the Team to buy food for Tedford are always welcome.
Other Business: There will be a meeting of the Northeast Regional USFWI on February 22 at 9 AM. A Zoom link will be provided by Marion Baker. There will be three speakers. The theme is how to help younger people in their ministry. The organization needs a treasurer.
Dorothy ended the meeting with a quote from Elvis Presley: “Values are like fingerprints, nobody’s are the same but you leave ‘em all over everything you do.”
Respectfully Submitted, Susan Gilbert
Maker Session and Cafe, Thursday, March 20, 5:30 to 8:30 pm
ABOUT the Maker Cafe at Durham Friends Meeting
Thursday, March 20, 2025: Make a Hand Broom with Ezra Smith (please pre-register)
5:30-6:30 Learn How to Make a Hand Broom with Ezra Smith
- Advance sign up required. Space is limited to 12, then we start a waiting list. Email Craig@Freshley.com to reserve your spot.
- All supplies provided. $10-$20 donation is collected on site.
- Ezra is a woodworking teacher at Maine Coast Waldorf School.
6:30-8:30 Maker Cafe with Live Music by Fanning the Breeze
- Free and open to the public. No sign up required.
- Bring a project to work on. Some knitting, stitching, writing, reading, drawing, coloring, carving, or whatever you want. And if you don’t bring a project that’s okay too.
- Fanning the Breeze is Michael Fenderson and Bobbi Goodwin. They are two teachers who love sing-alongs and anything that pulls community together for good work and fun! They were recently spotted at the annual Thompson’s Ice cutting day in South Bristol.

5:30-6:30 Make a Hand Broom with Ezra Smith
All supplies provided (donation collected on site).
Advance sign up required. Email Craig@Freshley.com to reserve your spot.
6:30-8:30 Maker Cafe
Live Music Fanning the Breeze
Hot drinks, snacks, and light supper available. All ages, genders, and beliefs welcome. No Charge for thr Maker Cafe, donations welcome
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Please bring a project of your own to work on. Some knitting? Mending? Painting? Sculpting? Crafting? Carving? And if you don’t bring a project, that’s okay too.
Please don’t bring your phone or other screen-based devices. This is an offline place where we try to connect with
Durham Friends Meeting Minutes, February 16, 2024
Durham Monthly Meeting of Friends met for the conduct of business on Sunday, February 16, 2025, with 15 people in attendance by Zoom.
1. Meeting Opening:
Clerk opened the meeting with a prayer by Howard Thurman.
Open unto me — light for my darkness
Open unto me — courage for my fear.
Open unto me — hope for my despair.
Open unto me — joy for my sorrow.
Open unto me — strength for my weakness.
Open unto me — wisdom for my confusion.
Open unto me — forgiveness for my sins.
Open unto me — tenderness for my toughness.
Open unto me — love for my hates.
Open unto me — Thy Self for my self.
Lord, Lord, open unto me! Amen.
2. Approval of Minutes of January 2025 – Ellen Bennett
Meeting approved the January minutes.
3. Ministry and Counsel — Renee Cote
After positive responses to retreat, the M&C proposes holding another retreat in September. This will be discussed again at a future meeting.
Brown Lethem is asking to transfer his Meeting membership to Claremont.
It was proposed that April’s monthly meeting for business be moved from the 20th, which is Easter, to the 27th.
Meeting approved moving the date of meeting for business.
4. $2000 Gift allocation — Nancy Marstaller
The Meeting received a $2,000 gift from Rachel Kerry. She expressed a desire that the money support people who are affected by the ways in which our government is no longer funding organizations, e.g., immigrants and refugees, LGBTQ+, Women’s shelters, etc. The money may be given to more than one organization.The suggestion was made that a portion of the funds go to domestic violence survivors. Several people spoke in support of giving to MEIRS today, the need being immediate. Clerk proposed giving $1,000 to MEIRS today, and return next month to discuss allocation of the remainder.
Meeting approved this proposal.
5. Trustees Report — Sarah Sprogell
Please see attached report. Gratitude was expressed for the ongoing work of Trustees.
6. Peace and Social Concerns — Ingrid Chalufour
Please see attached report. Note that while the mission of the committee is unchanged, the focus of the committee has shifted some of its attention to participating in the Portage Mapping Project in Brunswick.
The fourth Sunday book group that started last month is continuing and is a benefit to the meeting. Please notes that this is an activity that could be overseen by any group or committee.
The Social Justice Book project may be affected by the decrease in funding from the US Department of Education.
7. Finance Annual Report — Doug Bennett
Please see attached report. There are four points to keep in mind regarding Meeting finances:
- We are very good at budgeting. We spend what we say we’re going to.
- We make other expenditures, as well as receive income that are “off budget” e.g., spend money from the capital account, charity account, from the Sister City account, etc. We should try to come up with a framework for these expenses.
- Weekly contributions counted towards our operating revenue are down significantly. 73% of income came from weekly contributions and automatic deposits in 2018. That is down to 48% this year, a decline of 26%. Making up for this, not quite half of our income is coming from our investments.
- The total financial value of our Meeting is about $950,000.
- Cemeteries, which are budgeted and managed separately, are also in good financial shape.
Suggestion was made that the Meeting articulate to all the importance of weekly contributions. Start passing the plate again!
8. Makers Cafe update — Ellen Bennett. Craig Freshley
Good session last month with Nancy Marstaller, and excited about this upcoming session with Emily Bell-Hoerth. We welcome ideas! It’s all about building community. And we are all grateful.
9. Other business
An observation: Recently we’ve had visitors to the Meeting who are interested in finding out more about Durham Friends. Things are “bubbling” around us.
For discussion at the next meeting for business, Meeting member Joyce Gibson offered the following:
1. She now has time to be more engaged in the meeting, 2. is missing adult Christian education, 3. and is interested in documenting who we are as a Meeting and our Quaker history. She is asking M&C to think about how we might approach furthering our education about who we are as Quakers and would like others to work with.
Clerk ask that we close with prayers of gratitude and hope, and reread the Howard Thurman prayer.
Respectfully submitted, Ellen Bennett, Recording Clerk
Agenda and Materials for February 16, 2025 DFM Business Meeting
The Agenda and materials for the February 16, 2025 Durham Friends business meeting are HERE.
Agenda for February 16, 2025 Durham Friends Monthly Meeting
1. Decide if we want to continue to meet today or postpone until next week (considering if people have power and any are able to join by zoom) – Clerk, Nancy Marstaller
2. Approve January 19, 2025 business meeting minutes
3. Ministry & Counsel report- Tess Hartford or Renee Cote: action item, move monthly meeting in April to the 27th, as the 20th is Easter
4. Nancy Marstaller- $2000 has been gifted to the Meeting specifically to use for people in this area who are struggling or may struggle due to our government’s policy changes, especially for work with immigrants and refugees, LGBTQ people, or those who’ve suffered domestic and/or sexual abuse. Several people have suggested the Maine Immigrant & Refugee Services, as they have lost federal funding. We do not have to give all to one group. Looking for suggestions and possible action.
5. Trustees Annual report- Sarah Sprogell, no action item
6. Peace & Social Concerns annual report- Ingrid Chalufour, no action item
7. Finance Annual report- Doug Bennett, no action item
8. Makers Café update- Ellen Bennett
Maker Session and Cafe, Thursday, February 20, 5:30 to 9:00 pm
ABOUT the Maker Cafe at Durham Friends Meeting
Thursday, February 20, 2025:
**Mend Clothes with Emily Bell-Hoerth
**Live Music by Craig Freshley and Frederik Schuele
5:30-7:00 Learn How to Make a Shashiko Embroidered Patch with Emily Bell-Hoerth
All supplies provided ($7-$14 donation collected on site). Bring your clothes to mend! And sewing tools you may have. Mending helpers will be on site to assist with all mending projects.
Advance sign up required. Email Craig@Freshley.com to reserve your spot.
6:30-9:00 Maker Cafe
Live Music by Craig Freshley and Frederik Schuele
Hot drinks, snacks, and light supper available. All ages, genders, and beliefs welcome. No Charge for thr Maker Cafe, donations welcome
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Please bring a project of your own to work on. Some knitting? Mending? Painting? Sculpting? Crafting? Carving? And if you don’t bring a project, that’s okay too.
Please don’t bring your phone or other screen-based devices. This is an offline place where we try to connect with what we’re doing and who we’re with.
February 2025 Durham Friends Newsletter
USFWI Northeast Region Zoom Gathering, February 22, 9:30 to Noon
Celebrate the vital & varied ministries of younger Quaker women!
Winter Zoom Gathering of United Society of Friends Women International—Northeast Region
22nd of February, 2025, 9:30am to 12 noon Eastern Time
Join us for a panel of younger Quaker women with ministries,as we explore
“Lifting Up Younger Quaker Women as They Live Into Their Sense of Call”
A Panel Moderated by Emily Provance of NYYM, with:
• Briana Hallowell from New England YM,
• Nicole Bennett Fite from New York YM, and
• Sussie Ingosi Ndanyi from Nairobi YM.
They will share the ways they have felt led by the Spirit todo an amazing variety of ministries, how they experienced their call, how they were supported to follow their leading, and ways older Friends can help lift up younger Quaker women.
Schedule: (all times EST)
9:30am Zoom opens for informal sharing/greetings
9:40am Devotions led by Pastor Janice Ninan of NYYM and translated into Swahili by Pastor Joyce Machaha of Nairobi YM
10:00am Introductions led by Marian Baker-NEYM
10:05am Panel – moderated by Emily Provance-NYYM
11:05am Small breakout groups sharing what arose during the panel
11:40am Singing in multiple languages led by Congolese Women
11:50am Announcements and closing prayer
12noon End of event
For ?’s Marian Baker
Durham Friends Retreat, Saturday February 8, 9a.m.
Please join us for a Meeting-wide retreat, open to all, on Saturday, February 8th beginning at 9 a.m. and ending no later than 3 p.m.
With worship, small group discussion and artistic expression, we will examine how to prioritize the work and good functioning of the Meeting given our current numbers, and reaffirm our commitment to one another as a Meeting and as Friends. And have fun in the process!!
Lunch will be provided.
It is a great opportunity to listen and learn together and to connect with our beloved community. If you can only come for part of the day, just come!! We welcome you!
Please let us know if you will attend by emailing durham@neym.org. Everyone is needed!

Falmouth Quarterly Meeting Report, January 25, 2025
Report from Quarter, 1-25-25 Gathering
On January 25, 2025, Friends from Brunswick, Durham and Portland and one visitor gathered in person at Portland Friends Meeting and on zoom.
Those present shared news of and celebrated our community as meetings and as the community Friends in Southern Maine. We gathered with bagels, coffee and tea, and had lunch together.
The bulk of the morning was an exploration of what is required of us in these times. The facilitators noted that three themes informed the planning of the morning activity. These were i.) that all of us are impacted by what is happening in our country, ii.) that we need each other – that we are stronger together, and iii.) that in considering what is required of us, the language from Micah 6:8 “[What is required is] to do justice, love mercy and walk humbly with God” is more relevant than language of “callings” or “leadings”.
There were moments of discomfort as we named our economic class which is one variable which impacts how we are affected, and moments of celebration as we recognized all the ways we are already doing service. We concluded with an exercise of finding our path by gathering into four groups drawn from an article by Daniel Hunter which had been shared in advance. The groups were “Protecting People”, “Defending Civic Institutions”, “Disrupt and Disobey.”, and “Building Alternatives”.
The full article can be read here: link
Before Lunch Andy Granell shared that in his work for a book about the history of Quakers in Maine he had been reading the collected archives of Falmouth Quarter. There is an almost complete record of the quarter since it’s inception in the 1700’s.
After lunch we regathered to participate in a facilitated Visioning Session to provide our input on the future planning of NEYM Annual Sessions. The invitation was to engage in a conversation about how our Yearly Meeting’s practice of corporate discernment, our relationships with other Quakers, and our use of limited resources can most meaningfully contribute to the spiritual thriving of Friends across New England.”
Using materials provided by the NEYM Sessions Visioning Group and facilitated by Leslie Manning of Durham, a former clerk of the Sessions Committee, and Marian Dalton, Brunswick, the current Yearly Meeting treasurer, those present shared their experiences of sessions, and their hopes and desires going forward. Notes were taken and will be shared with the quarter separately. The notes will also be sent to the NEYM staff to incorporate into their work.
A theme that was present throughout the day was that these times are unprecedented and challenging and will require a deeply faithful response individually and corporately.
Fritz Weiss, Wendy Schlotterbeck, Mimi Marstaller and Leslie Manning
Durham Friends Meeting Minutes, January 19, 2025
Durham Monthly Meeting of Friends met for the conduct of business on Sunday, January 19, 2025, with eleven people in attendance at the Meetinghouse and three by Zoom.
1. Meeting Opening:
Clerk Nancy Marstaller opened the meeting with a reading by Thomas Kelly.
And the third step in holy obedience, or cousel, is this: If you slip and stumble
and forget God for an hour, and assert your old proud self, and rely upon your own
clever wisdom, don’t spend too much time in anguised regrets and self-accusations,
but begin again, just where you are.
Yet a fourth consideration in holy obedience is this: Don’t grit your teeth
and clench your fists and say, “I will! I will!” Relax. Take hands off. Submit
yourself to God. Learn to live in the passive voice — a hard saying for modern
man — and let life be willed through you. For “I will” spells not obedience.
2. Approval of Minutes of December 2024 – Ellen Bennett
Meeting approved the December minutes.
3. Rotation of Clerks
Clerk reviewed the rotation of Clerks through 2025.
Nancy Marstaller: January, February, March
Sarah Sprogell: April, May, June
Tess Hartford/Renee Cote: July, August, September
Ingrid Chalufour: October, November, December
4. Nominating Report — Wendy Schlotterbeck
Regarding term limits, for this year, people will be asked if they would like to continue their committee work through 2025. Going forward, three-year terms will resume with people being asked at the end of each term if they would be willing to continue. This is an issue that will be talked about at the retreat to be held February 8th.
Additional retreat topics will include the number of standing committees, Meeting priorities, and how we can best continue our work and meet our needs without overtaxing people.
The full list of position and committee responsibilities within the Meeting was read. Please see attached.
Meeting approved the list of Meeting members, committee assignments, and responsibilities for 2025.
Meeting approved the addition of Martha Hinshaw-Sheldon as member of the nominating committee.
Note: If anyone has suggestions about the upcoming retreat, please contact Renee, Tess or Leslie. Further information about the retreat will be added to the Meeting website.
5. Clerks Group Meeting Care Coordinator Recommendation.
As approved at the December Meeting for Business, the clerks’ group met and agreed to bring forward the recommendation that the position of Meeting Care Coordinator continue through 2025.
Meeting approved the clerks recommendation, with gratitude.
6. Ministry and Counsel — Tess Hartford
The position of Meeting Care Coordinator (MCC) was reviewed.
The MCC Oversight Committee consists of representatives from M&C, the Communication Committee, and Peace and Social Concerns: Renee Cote, Doug Bennett, and Ingrid Chalufour.
The MCC Care and Accountability Committee consists of Linda Muller, Martha Hinshaw Sheldon, and Joyce Gibson.
Meeting approved a process reviewing and approving the MCC position at the December meeting — first to have M&C review and recommend the continuation of the position itself, and second to have the Oversight Committee recommend an individual to take on the MCC responsibilities.
Meeting approved the proposal for M&C make its recommendation no later than November.
Meeting approved the proposal for the Oversight Committee to make its recommendation no later than November.
Meeting approved Leslie Manning continue as MCC for 2025
The ability of Meeting attendees to hear what is being said was discussed. The recommendation was made to start with a podium microphone to see if it is adequate to address the issue of being heard, both in the meeting-room as well as on Zoom. It was also noted that speakers need to be reminded to speak within the circle outlined on the floor, not down or into a book, and to project. It was agreed to test a podium mike at the 1/27 meeting, which while unprogrammed, may give us a sense of the usefulness of a microphone.
7. Makers Group Report — Doug Bennett
Mission of Makers Group was discussed, reinforcing its goal of outreach to the wider community, providing a screen-free place to interact and enjoy broadening our community of friends.
8. Peace and Social Concerns — Ingrid Chalufour
Ingrid read the report.Please see report.
9. Trustees — Sarah Sprogell
Please see report. Clerks recommended giving prior approval to Trustees to give the piano to another person if so asked.
Meeting approved this recommendation
Sarah Sprogell remains the contact for cemetery issues.
10. Finance Committee — Nancy Marstaller
There was no monthly report. The annual report for 2024 will be brought to the February Meeting.
Respectfully submitted, Ellen Bennett, Recording Clerk
Woman’s Society Meeting Minutes, December 16, 2024
Friends gathered at Dorothy Curtis’ Home for the Annual December Meeting and Christmas Party.
Present: Dorothy Curtis, President, Nancy Marstaller, Kim Bolshaw, Linda Muller, Wendy Schlotterbeck, Krisna Evans, Theresa Oleksiw. On Zoom: Susan Gilbert, Secretary.
Cards: Kim will send cards to Friends.
Program and Devotions: Dorothy read a children’s book to us, “Why Christmas Trees Aren’t Perfect” by Richard H. Schneider. Set in the Carpathian Mountains, the author gave human traits to evergreen trees. In beautiful perfection, each tree desired to be cut and placed in the castle for the Queen. One little tree sacrificed its’ beauty and stretched branches to hide a rabbit from wild dogs, gave a wren cover in a storm, and was food for a starving fawn. In this process, the tree’s form became irregular. The Queen, at first critical, acknowledged that living for others made one beautiful in the eyes of God, and chose the little pine for her Christmas tree.
Minutes: Susan read the 11.18.’24 minutes written by Nancy Marstaller.
Treasurer’s Report: Nancy paid $60. in dues to the Northeast America region of USFWI. Our account has $180.58. The $80. proceeds from our silent auction will be given to Tedford Housing.
Tedford Meal: Team A, lead by Kim Bolshaw, brought rotisseried chicken, carrots with ranch dressing and ice cream. January’s dinner will be made by Team B, led by Nancy Marstaller. Durham Friends provide a meal on the first Monday of each month. Contributions of food or money to buy food for the meal are always welcome.
Other Business: Linda Muller reported that the mitten tree yielded 4 hats, 30 pairs of mittens, I scarf, 1 pair of gloves and 1 pair of socks. This was delivered on 12.21for the 12.22 annual Wabanaki solstice gathering as gifts for their youth group. Nancy would like to host another meeting at her home, in March or April. We discussed how the WS could contribute to the Maker’s Night.
Dorothy ended the meeting with a reading from Phillipians 44:
Rejoice in the Lord always, and again I say, rejoice.
After the meeting, names were drawn for our gift exchange, and cookies and tea were enjoyed amid conversation and laughter.
Respectfully Submitted, Susan Gilbert
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Agenda and Materials for January 19, 2025 Business Meeting
The agenda and materials for the January 19, 2025 Durham Friends Business Meeting are HERE.
Jan. 19, 2025 MM Agenda
Approve last month’s minutes (December 15, 2024)
Approve rotation of clerks
Nominating report
Retreat update
Clerks group recommendation re continuing MCC position this year
Ministry and Counsel
Makers Café group report
Peace and social concerns
Trustees
Finance
Request for Contributions of Medicines and Other Health Products for Cuban Friends
Mimi Marstaller and Kristna Evans will soon be traveling to Cuba as part of a larger NEYM group to visit Cuban Friends including members of our sister Meeting there.
They will be taking some medicines and other health products with them because these are difficult/impossible to purchase in Cuba. Below is a list of the items they have been asked to bring with them. If you would like to contribute such items, please bring them to the Meetinghouse by February 1.
Thank you.
Acetaminophen, adult
Acetaminophen, children
Paracetamol
Ibuprofen
Aleve (naproxen sodium)
Vitamins for women
Vitamins for men
Vitamins for children
Allergy relief (loratadine)
Omega 3
Vitamin C tablets
Nystatin vaginal tablets
Antidiarrheal (Imodium)
Antacids for heartburn
Triple antibiotic creams
Anti-itch cream (cortisone)
Clotrimazole antifungal cream
Zinc oxide antifungal cream
Muscle relaxant tablets
Muscle relaxing creams
Menthol cream
Mouthwash tablets
Toothbrushes
Anti-dandruff product
Ace bandages
Joint compression support
Blood pressure sleeve
Reading glasses
Amoxicillin
Asthma inhalers
