Agenda and Materials for Durham Friends Business Meeting, October 20, 2024

The agenda and materials for the September 2024 Durham Friends Business Meeting can be found here.

Agenda for Durham Friends Monthly Meeting for Business, October 20, 2024

                                              Acting Clerk, Tess Hartford

  1. Opening Worship
  1. Approval of September minutes with any changes, corrections or additions: Minutes, September 15, 2024
  1. Committee Reports

 a) Ministry and Council- co-clerk Renee Cote

 b) Trustees – Sarah Sprogell

 c) Peace and Social Concerns –   Ingrid Chalifour – no formal report, but many things in progress

d) Finance- no formal report, but a few action items

 e) Request for support for the ad hoc committee created for Outreach Activities

  1. Other business
  2. Closing Worship

Durham Friends Meeting Minutes, September 15, 2024

DRAFT, September 15, 2024

Ellen Bennett — Recording Clerk

Durham Monthly Meeting of Friends met for the conduct of business on Sunday, September 15, 2024,

with 6 people in attendance at the Meetinghouse and 2 via Zoom.

1.     Meeting Opening

Tess Hartford, serving as Clerk of the meeting, opened the meeting with thanks for another beautiful day for gathering followed by a moment of silence.Followed by a reading:

Quoted from the “Wisdom of Yogananda, volume 7”

     Give to God not only the good that you do, but also the bad. I do not mean that you should deliberately do things that are wrong. But when you cannot help yourself because of too-strong habits, feel that God is acting through you. Make HIM responsible. He likes that!

     It is He after all, who has dreamed your existence. You have merely hypnotized yourself with the thought of your weaknesses. If you make the Lord responsible for your weaknesses, it will help you break the false hold they have on your imagination. You’ll find it easier, then, to recognize in yourself the perfect image of God.

     As long as you are making the effort, God will never let you down!

2.      Approval of Minutes of July 2024 — Ellen Bennett

               Meeting approved the minutes.

3.     Ministry and Counsel — Tess Hartford and Renee Cote

Meeting Care Coordinator Support Committee will discuss publishing an MCC report for a wider audience, quarterly, via the newsletter

A Meeting representative to LACO was discussed, stepping in for the current representative who will be stepping off after the October meeting. Kim Bolshaw requested information so that she might attend the October meeting. 

A listening session is scheduled for September 22nd, at the rise of meeting, pertaining to technology during meeting for worship.

4      Peace and Social Concerns — Ingrid Chalufour

The committee report was read aloud. In addition, the committee hopes to get social justice book/Wabanaki reading materials into every classroom at the Kate Furbish Elementary School in Brunswick.

Connecting with the Durham elementary school was discussed. A meeting member has contacts at the Durham elementary school and offered to facilitate a connection. It was noted that it is important to strengthen our ties to Durham and Lisbon. The Meeting’s 250th anniversary celebration is one avenue to do this, and representatives from the town of Durham have been receptive to initial inquiries about collaboration around this milestone. It was noted that many students from Durham go on to Freeport HS.

The question arose as how DFM came to occupy/own the land the Meetinghouse sits on. Historical deeds for the meetinghouse property are available that may provide some answers to this question. It is a something to highlight for the anniversary celebration

5.     Finance Committee — Nancy Marstaller

Looking at the financial report, the largest concern is that weekly contributions are down significantly. The question was raised: Is second quarter income from these contributions typically low? It was suggested that the newsletter include a note to encourage continued weekly giving. The mentions should also highlight the fact that automatic monthly donation are an easy way to support the Meeting, and forms to initiate this are available via Sarah. It was suggested that a “one click” option, via technology, be explored.

There is $7,000+ in charity account. The Meeting agreed to propose ongoing support through Friends United Meeting for the Turkana and Samburu Friends Missions in the amount of $100/month for one year, for a total of $1200. This proposal will be be revisited for approval at the October meeting for business.

The Meeting expressed its deep appreciation to Nancy Marstaller for overseeing the work on the budget. Finding a Treasurer that has the financial background and skill set to pick up this work is important.

6      Trustees Report — Kim Bolshaw

Report was read aloud.

Doug Bennett gave an update on the settlement of the Eileen Babcock estate. The financing for a lawyer, should it be needed, has been approved.

7.    Other Business

Announcement: MCC stipend is being used to support Friends’ initiatives. Some funding is going to support Anna Fritz, accomplished musician from Multnomah Meeting.Anna is on tour to provide performances for prison inmates. Anna will be in Maine in October, performing a contemporary version of the Iliad. Two community performances will be held in the area, one at the Friends School of Portland and the other at the UU Church in Rockland.

8.     Closing Worship

Clerk expressed gratitude to those in attendance for service to the Meeting, followed by closing silent worship.

Respectfully submitted, Ellen Bennett, Recording Clerk

Attachments: https://www.durhamfriendsmeeting.org/?p=7184

“Intentions and Identity,” by Martha Sheldon

Message given at Durham Friends Meeting, September 22, 2024

“Sharing a message is a little like streaking.  It takes some forethought about the direction you are going to run, it is exciting, and it is definitely revealing.”  Ed Hinshaw in a keynote address at NEYM sessions, 1979.

Do not be dismayed by the brokenness of the world.  All things break and all things can be mended.  Not with time, as they say, but with intention.  So go.  Love intentionally, extravagantly, unconditionally.  The broken world waits in darkness for the light that is you.  L. R. Knost.

Sharing a message here and other places has often been stressful. Especially when I am not prepared which has happened some.  My thinking that I can leave the message to the Spirit to lead me works sometimes but not always.  My intention is to be open to the Spirit leading me.  Thoughts that influence the outcome of that intention sometimes get in the way.   Thoughts of doubt, of arrogance, of ….

 I have enjoyed the three year break from doing care of worship and sharing messages.  The meeting I attend in Northern Ireland is a strict unprogrammed meeting.   I love it.  I also love the semi-programmed nature of Durham.  I even also love the spirit and visceral experience in Catholic, high church worships.

Every time a community has discussions that may involve changes in process and functionality a shift happens.  A community is redefined.  A community is refined. 

Pulling from my dad’s quote I ask – What are your forethoughts? what direction will this meeting run?   Where are you going?  Where do you want to go?  What are your intentions?  What do your intentions and actions reveal about the meeting?  Who do you say you are? 

In the Bible, Jesus asks his disciples, “Who do you say I am?” in Matthew 16:13–16, Mark 8:27–29, and Luke 9:18–20. After receiving various answers, including John the Baptist, Elijah, and one of the prophets, Jesus asks Peter, “Who do you say that I am?” Peter replies, “You are the Messiah, the Son of the living God”. 

Some say that this question is a turning point in the gospel records, and that everything that Jesus does after this is in direct relation to the answer given. 

Who do you say I am?  Who do you say we are?  Identity.  Leads to intentions.  Intentions leads to actions and a public expression of identity.  JC’s identity.  Son of God or Prince of peace, or man suffering a lot of tribulations in his three years of public ministry. 

Who are we?  Our choices of words, our actions, our decisions define us.  Our Intentions. 

Intentions are influenced by biases, assumptions, forethoughts.  Our thoughts and reasons leading to and influencing  our intentions.   Some help us be present to the leadings of God among us and some distract us from God’s truth with us in our times of discernment.  Actions that define who we are.

Andrew and Chris live across the street from each other.  They both thought they made an effort to meet the other.  But did not. In looking at others how are we influenced by negative and positive thoughts?   For both the intention was to be friendly.  Assumptions or some forethoughts got in the way.   Andrew.  The people living here already should take the initiative to come to my door and knock.  Vs anyone take the initiative. Chris.  The person who says little is a snob and unfriendly.  VS The person may be an introvert.

To not take the Ramallah Friends School job.  Forethoughts.  There is much danger and risk involved.   I need to be safe.  True or not true?  A third way?  Doing work for RFS from the States. Supporting organizations who support RFS.

To keep children in worship to a minimum to decrease distractions.  Forethoughts.  Children are noisy and distract us from our worship.  True or not true? Part true? Third way.  Bring the children in for part of the Meeting.

To welcome all no matter how they access the meeting.  Forethoughts. That is our call no matter how hard it is to maintain the system.    Third way?  TBD

To not use zoom to decrease distractions in worship.  Third way? TBD

To be a vibrant, spirit filled meeting for worship. 

Intentions. Leadings.  To go, to speak, to act.  To purify a leading an intention may we be aware of possible biases, assumptions, thoughts that blind us to the leading of Spirit.  May we be open to the forethoughts that led to the intention.  May we be open to the leading of the spirit that may lead to a third way of living out our intentions. 

The orange.  One orange and two kids want it.  A conflict.  Until we learn what they want it for.  Learn their intentions.  I want the rind. I want the juice. When deciding on what to do with a decision are we aware of the needs, wants and desires of the other?  The intentions of the other. Are we aware that there is often a third, or more, option to most decisions.

“The Bible as a Big Story,” by Doug Bennett

Message given at Durham Friends Meeting, October 13, 2024

You all know the story of Adam and Eve.  They live in the Garden of Eden.  The deal is, they get to live in this paradise, but they are not, definitely not, to eat the fruit of the tree of knowledge.  God told Adam he would die if he ate that fruit.  But Adam and Eve disobeyed.  They ate the fruit of the tree of knowledge.  And – surprise! – God didn’t put them to death.  Instead, he expelled them from the Garden of Eden.  He visited other consequences on them, too, but he did not kill them.  We might say he gave them a new deal.  Pretty surprising. 

You all know the story of Noah in the Bible.  God is so fed up with humankind that He sends a flood to wash the world clean.  Everyone and everything is killed except for Noah, his family, and two of each of kind of animal.  When it is over, God is horrified by what He (or She) has done.  God promises – surprise! – never, ever to do this again.  Whatever deal God had with humans before the flood, God now has a different deal  It’s  another new  deal.  

The Bible is full of stories: Adam and Eve, the Flood, Joseph and the Coat of Many Colors, Moses in the basket and Moses and the Ten Commandments, Daniel in the Lion’s Den, Ruth and Boaz, David and Goliath, David and Bathsheba, Joshua at the Gates of Jericho, Jonah and the Whale, the Manna from Heaven, the Loaves and the Fishes, Lazarus Raised from the Dead, the Crucifixion and the Empty Tomb: stories, lots and lots of stories.

Some of the stories are tragic, some comic, some just plain weird  Some of them purport to tell history, like the parting of the Red Sea or the Babylonian captivity of the Israelites.  Some, especially in the New Testament, are timeless parables, like the Good Samaritan or the Prodigal Son. 

All the stories seem to have something to do with our relationship to God: what God expects of us, and what happens to people who don’t live up to God’s expectations.

Many of the stories are about people who have stopped paying attention to God and who are brought up sharp by God.  God, apparently, intervenes to express God’s displeasure in some dramatic ways. 

Some are stories about God helping to rescue people in difficult circumstances.  Some are stories about people who thought they were doing what God asked only to find that God, apparently, is asking them to do something completely different. 

You can read these stories one at a time and that’s what most of us do most of the time.  But you can also try to fit them into one big story.  It’s the one big story that’s on my mind this morning.  The one big story: we don’t talk about that as often as we do the many little stories.

I want to pause here to say that I do not ask you to believe that the Bible is the inerrant word of God.  I do not ask you to believe that every word of it is the literal truth.  I don’t believe that.  But I do think the Bible is an extraordinary account (or really a collection of accounts) of people trying to seek the truth and to be faithful to God to the best of their understanding.  So, what’s the big story that runs through all the stories? 

When you try to see the stories as fitting into one big story, the striking things is how often the story changes abruptly.  We seem to be headed in one direction and then, whoops, we’re headed in another quite different direction. 

Adam and Eve, Noah: these aren’t the only times we see an abrupt shift in the big story, a change in the basic deal. 

— Following the Flood, we follow the stories of Abraham and subsequent patriarchs  — Isaac, Jacob, Joseph.  The Israelites, and the Israelites alone, become God’s Chosen People.  We follow them through their wanderings and their captivity in Egypt.  It seems like God has abandoned his people.  And then we get their amazing escape, the Exodus, the parting of the Red Sea. 

— The story changes again, pretty dramatically, with Moses and the Ten Commandments.  Once again, God’s Chosen People haven’t been very faithful, haven’t been paying attention.  They are lost in the wilderness.   Again, God tries something new.  He gives them a kind of cheat sheet in the form of two rock tablets.  Simple.  Clear.  Thou Shalt!  Thou Shalt Not!  It’s another new deal.  Get it?

Got It!  The Bible story continues with that Mosaic Law the framework for quite a while.  In this portion of the story, sometimes people remember, sometimes they abide by the rules, but more often they don’t.  Still, that’s the deal.  Obey the law.

Or: that’s the deal until it isn’t.  We get a dramatically new deal with the coming of Jesus, another abrupt turn in the story.  Jesus says “I come not to abolish the law, but to fulfill it.”  And then we’re surprised, even shocked, when he’s crucified.  Now, no more God’s Chosen People.  Now the deal is for everyone.  An epoch of law gives way to an epoch of loving God and loving your neighbor.  It’s a more demanding deal but probably a better one.

It’s a zig-zag story.  It just isn’t the case that the Bible presents us with God’s expectations as never-changing.  So what’s going on here with all these new deals?

Some theologians, especially some Bible literalist evangelicals who are penecostals or charismatics (not my people!) have a fancy way of talking about these abrupt shifts in the story about what God expects of us.  They call each of the new deals a “dispensation.”  Some of these theologians list as many as seven dispensations, seven different deals between God and human beings.  But however you count, when you look at the big story in the Bible, it’s hard not to see some very abrupt shifts — zig-zags — each one a new deal.

Many people who talk this way, about “dispensations” want us to believe we are in the next-to-last of these dispensations.  They want us to believe that there is one more to come and they know exactly what that deal will look like.  I’m far from persuaded they know what they are talking about.

When I look at the Bible as a story with some very abrupt changes of direction, here’s what catches my attention..

One is that because the deal keeps changing, it is a little risky to go backwards to some moment in the Bible and say, “that’s what God expects of us because that’s what God expected of Adam and Eve.”  Or “because that’s what God expected of Abraham.” Or “because that’s what God expected of Moses.”  The rules in Leviticus may have been appropriate then, but now we have a whole new deal.  God’s expectations keep changing.  At least in the Bible telling, God keeps changing her mind. 

Another thing that fascinates me about seeing the Bible’s big zig-zag story is that it shows us God is acting in history.  Bible isn’t a story of God setting things up one way and letting the whole thing run just the way She expected.  God seems to be surprised at what human beings do – or disappointed might often be the better word –, and so deals with this by changing the deal.  There simply isn’t one deal for all time. 

Some of us are parents, and maybe this behavior sounds familiar.  A child of ours strays from our expectations.  We try one thing, then we try another, and another.  Our approach is not fixed.  I don’t myself know whether God is ever surprised.  I don’t pretend to understand God, and I don’t think any other human truly does.   I’m just saying that this is how the Bible presents God:  as surprised, and therefore as trying something new, and then something new again.  

A third thing I find fascinating in all this is that no human being sees these abrupt changes coming.  No one accurately foresees what God is about to do.  Adam and Eve didn’t, Noah didn’t, Isaac didn’t Joseph didn’t, Moses didn’t. 

Now you might be thinking that the coming of Jesus at least was foretold   There are prophecies in Isaiah aren’t there, that told us to expect the Messiah.  Sure, I guess.  That’s the way some of the Gospels tell the story.  But for me, that’s not very convincing.  In truth, Jesus was a big surprise to everybody:

· He certainly was a surprise to Mary and Joseph,

· a surprise to the Disciples,

· a surprise to the Pharisees and Sadducees,

· a surprise to Herod and Pilate,

· a surprise to Paul.

· I’d say, a surprise to everyone. 

And if Jesus was a surprise, then we don’t know what’s going to happen nextWe have to keep listening to God.  God is still talking to us, and that’s something Quakers understand unusually well. 

God has been acting in history the Bible tells us.  For all we know, God is still acting in history.  And maybe God has another surprise for us. 

One of most important things that has drawn me to Quaker worship is that Quakers work from the assumption that God has more to say to us.  We are confident that we can hear God, now, in the present, if we will still our hearts and listen.  That’s why we gather for worship in the way we do. 

So stay tuned, I tell myself.  That’s an essential part of the big story.   

Also posted on River View Friend

Passing of Jan Hoffman

From Mt. Toby Meeting, on October 9, regarding their member Jan Hoffman:

Friends:

Over the last week, Jan’s condition has continued to worsen. Yesterday, Ken and Jennie (Jan & Ken’s daughter) decided to place Jan in palliative care. Today her condition continued to decline and she was placed in hospice. Ken & Jennie have decided to have Jan remain at Baystate during this last phase of her life. She is resting comfortably with Ken at her side. Please hold Jan, Ken, and their family in the Light. 

When the time comes Jan will be buried at Mt. Toby in a green burial. 

Peace
Cynthia Jacelon

Jan passed on October 10, 2024.

Here’s a link to an essay Jan Hoffman wrote about Clearness Committees.

Woman’s Society Minutes, September 16, 2024

Durham Friends Woman’s Society Meeting Minutes, September 16, 2024

The meeting was held at Nancy Marstaller’s home.

Present: Dorothy Curtis, President, Nancy Marstaller, Treasurer.  On Zoom: Susan Gilbert, Secretary, Dorothy Hinshaw, Martha Sheldon, Leslie Manning, and Qat Langelier.

Cards: Nancy will send cards this month, to Friends.

Program and Devotions: We took turns reading from Blueprints “A Holy Joy” by Katherine Murray. Scripture: John 15: 9 – 11. Hymn: “Joys Are Flowing Like a River”. At a time of great stress in Katherine’s young adult life, she envisioned “Joy – if not now, when?” . This calmed her, bringing wonder, curiosity, and humor.  Her discovery of joy continued to enhance Katherine’s spiritual development throughout her life. 

Minutes: Susan read the 6.17.’24 minutes. 

Treasurer’s Report: As of our meeting, we had received $410 in donations for jam, earmarked for LACO. We have a balance of $490.96, with $410 for LACO, leaving $80.96 available. We need to pay dues ($5 per member) and for Blueprints. A separate donation for Dorothy’s relish earned $80, to put toward buying new tablecloths. We discussed donating to Getry Agizah’s program to support education for African youth. Nancy will request an additional contribution from the  Charity Fund. Money gained from a silent auction in November could support Tedford.

Prayer’s: For Friends.

Tedford Meal: Team D prepared hot dogs,  potato salad and ice cream on September 2. Nancy Marstaller’s Team E will bring the October 7 meal. Volunteer contributions of food or donations are welcome. 

Other Business: Durham Friends will host a fundraising dinner for LACO on October 5. Shiloh Chapel and UCC Church of Durham are to share preparations. The Woman’s Society annual potluck supper was held August 19th, combined with a birthday party for Ed Hinshaw. We received a thank you note from the Hinshaws.

Respectfully Submitted, Susan Gilbert

Makers Sessions Planning Dinner, October 4, 5pm

Maker Sessions — A Planning Meeting, October 4, 5pm

Craig, Leslie, Ellen, Doug, Kim, and Ezra have met a couple of times to talk about “Maker Sessions” — a way build community within and beyond Durham Friends Meeting.

Please join us to share ideas, hopes and aspirations at 5 p.m. on October 4 at the Meetinghouse.

A pot-luck “soup-er supper” will be served.

Details about ideas generated up to this point can be found here: https://tinyurl.com/55fea32z And you can always ask questions or send comments to craig@Freshley.com. 

World Quaker Day, October 6, 2024

World Quaker Day 2024: October 6 — from Friends World Committee for Consultation

In August 2024, around 500 Quakers from 53 countries met for the World Plenary Meeting in South Africa and online to tend to FWCC business, surrounded by worship and fellowship.

This World Quaker Day, Sunday 6 October 2024, Friends everywhere are invited to find out and share what happened at their local Friends church or meeting:

The epistle and a weaving document with a prayer that brings together the different plenary conversations are all available in the conference languages, KiSwahili, Spanish and English.

“God has no hands but ours, no feet but ours, no lips but ours, so we keep imagining a better world. I am because you are. I am because we are. I see you. We belong to each other. We are still here. We are one.”
—from the World Plenary epistle

“God of love and grace, we are a beautiful and broken people, living in a beautiful and broken world… Grant us the strength to seek each other’s forgiveness, and the love and  courage to hold both pain and possibility in our hearts.” —from the weaving document prayer

The Young Adult Friends epistle, relating the experience of 46 18-35 year-olds who gathered four days before the World Plenary and who formed a new World Executive Committee of Young Adult Friends, is also available in the conference languages.

The epistle will be read at a semi-programmed online meeting for worship  hosted by the Europe and Middle East Section, and an event in Uganda organised by the Africa Section. Both are open to all.   

Friends may also want to take part by singing from the World Quaker Songbook. To learn the tunes, listen to Quaker and musician, Amy Duckett Wagner sing the songs on our YouTube channel.

Finally, Friends who wish to engage more deeply with the themes discussed at the World Plenary can watch the videos of speakers’ prepared ministry also on YouTube.

NEYM Children and Family Ministries Fall Newsletter 2024



Local Youth Ministries Supporting Each Other (LYMSE)
Next session: September 23, 7:00 to 8:00 pm
 CLICK HERE TO REGISTER FOR THE NEXT LYMSE SESSION
Fall Retreats in an Election Year:
Rebuking the Wind and Waves
Junior High Yearly Meeting (JHYM)
Fall Retreat for 6-8th graders
October 4-6
Portland Friends Meeting
Portland, ME


Junior Yearly Meeting (JYM)
Fall Retreat for 2nd-6th graders

November 8-10
Woolman Hill Retreat Center

Deerfield, MA

to register for events, go to the Youth Ministries Retreats page on the NEYM Website
Rebuking the Wind and Waves
When I realized that I had scheduled a JYM retreat on the weekend after the election, I gulped. Would we be able to tune out the world just two days after learning the results? Would the staff be ready to answer questions the kids might be asking – questions that adults might be still asking themselves? Did I need to plan multiple contingency schedules to respond to different scenarios, results, and reactions?  And what about JHYM – should I be planning a retreat that addressed the rhetoric and controversies that would be undoubtedly swirling around us by October? 

I conceded that I didn’t have a crystal ball, and realized that I had to plan something that would ‘work’ regardless of the outcome, making space for any outcome and any emotions we may be feeling. Something steadfast.  Something hopeful. And it occurred to me that this ‘something,’ this theme, this message, should be the same – unchanging – whether it was a month before the election or two days after.  Because our values won’t have changed.  God* won’t have changed. Our faith – whether emboldened or shaken – is always relevant. 

As I meditated on the concept of this no-matter-what faith, I remembered the story of Jesus calming the storm. He was on a boat with his disciples when the storm started.  In response to the disciples’ fear, Jesus uttered the famous line, “O ye of little faith.” Jesus had not been afraid.  In fact, his mood and behavior hadn’t changed since the calm sea had rocked him to sleep hours earlier!  It was only because they woke him up in a panic that he felt the need to do anything at all.  And they say he “rebuked the wind and waves,” calming the sea, along the with the fears of the crew. 

Wind and waves always exist in our lives.  Sometimes they are political and societal.  They can also be emotional, spiritual, relational, medical, or financial. But we can have hope no matter what.  We can have faith no matter what. And this election season is a great time for us all to be reminded of that concept, which we can carry into the rest of our lives.  Wherever your child is on the politically savvy spectrum, whatever else they might be struggling with in their life – and even if they are blissfully ignorant of any hardship in the world right now – this theme can speak to them and provide comfort in storms of the present or future. 

We will explore the aforementioned scripture passage in that open-ended, metaphorical, individualized way that Quakers do.  We will play team-building games that are ocean and/or ship themed. We will talk about how to be grounded in our lives.  At the retreat in Portland, we will experience waves on a ferry ride.  At Woolman Hill we will visit the preserved home of war tax resisters who rebuked the winds of injustice by living simply. 

Please join us by registering today!

In Peace,
Kara Price
Children and Family Ministries Coordinator 
New England Yearly Meeting

*Sometimes I use the word God to refer to that divine light that exists within and outside of all of us. Sometimes I use other words.  The volunteer staff use a variety of words too. Retreats are an opportunity for all of us to ‘listen in tongues’ and learn from and about each other’s spiritual journeys in a mutual respectful way. Similarly, scripture is one of many ways that we can access the divine and explore concepts of faith at this and other retreats.THANKS FOR A WONDERFUL SESSIONS!
CHILD CARE STAFF
Rainer Humphries (Coordinator)
Carol Baker (Assistant Coordinator)
Brooke Burkett
Jennifer Hogue
Jerry Carson
Mary Lee Morrison
Pamela Drouin
Paula Rosvall
Peter Colby
JYM STAFF
Kenzie Burpee (Coordinator)
Leah Kelley (4-6th Grade Leader)
Joli Reynolds (K-3rd Grade Leader)
Annie Bingham
Craig Jensen
Emily Smith
Isaac Bingham
Luke Coletta
Lizzie Szanton
Martha Schwope
Mary Chenille
Rebecca Edwards
Sophie Jones
Tyler Green
JHYM STAFF
Emily Edwards (Coordinator) 
Merritt Bussiere-Nichols (Asst. Coord.)
Buddy Baker-Smith (Asst. Coord.)
Abigail Adams
Amy Greene
Ari Schifman
Brennon Schifman
Chloe Grubbs-Saleem
Chris Fitze
Dave Baxter

Listening Session, September 22, after Meeting

Ministrfy and Counsel announces:

This Sunday, September 22, we will be having a Meeting-wide listening session to continue our ongoing conversation regarding

the use of Zoom technology in the Meetinghouse during our Sunday worship.

We expect to allot1 hour for the discussion, which we will hold after fellowship and the rise of Meeting. Approximately, from 12:00-1:00 pm.

Please bring your thoughts, comments and questions so that we may discern our way forward with this important aspect of our community life!  

Respectfully,Tess Hartford, co-clerk of M&C

Agenda and Materials for Durham Friends Business Meeting, September 15, 2024

The agenda and materials for the September 2024 Durham Friends Business Meeting can be found here.

Agenda

 Agenda for Durham Friends Business Meeting September 15, 2024  

Clerk, Tess Hartford

1) Meeting Opening

2) Approval of Minutes of July 21, 2024

3)  Committee Reports

                  M&C

                  PS&C

                  Finance

                  Trustees

4) Other business

5) Closing Worship

Friends Camp Newsletter, September 2024

https://files.constantcontact.com/a7d3c7c8001/493c5cab-8a5d-40e0-b67a-5eef33389ab9.jpgDear Friends Camp Community,
Another summer at Friends Camp is complete! We are still reflecting on all the fun and remarkable moments from the last 3 months. This summer saw lots of picturesque days on China Lake, many new friendships made, delicious camp meals, opportunities for growth, and nearly endless laughter. There were 435 campers, and each one of them brought something unique to our community. Though some things about camp remain the same from year to year, the campers and staff present during each unique session are what truly make it special.
As always, a huge THANK YOU to everyone who helps make camp possible. We are lucky to have a wonderful network of support coming from families, volunteers, Friends, donors, and more. Thank you especially to everyone who has donated to our campership fund — your contributions continue to provide the opportunity for us to bring as many kids to camp as possible. We hope you enjoy this newsletter!
Warmly,Anna HopkinsCamp Director(207) 877-4302director@friendscamp.org2025 Session DatesSee below for the session dates for summer 2025. Registration for a single session per camper will open on Saturday, November 2nd at noon. We anticipate spots being available for some campers who would like to attend multiple sessions, and there will be the opportunity to register for a second session from any remaining spaces on Saturday, November 16th. Information about tuition rates will be finalized in October; we expect a modest increase in tuition.Common Ground FairFriends Camp is available for cabin and tenting space on Thursday, Friday, and Saturday nights during the Common Ground Fair, Sept 19-21. Space is filling up quickly on Saturday evening, but there is still plenty of space on Thursday and Friday. Learn more about details and rates on our website, and click here to register for your stay.2024 Family FeedbackThank you to all the campers and families who filled out evaluations about their time at camp this summer!
Your feedback is valued because it helps inform our understanding of this summer at camp and what to keep or improve on for future summers. Most notable from our 2024 surveys so far is that 100% of respondents made a friend at camp!
2024 Family SurveyCamp Committee Interest FormAre you interested in playing a larger role in the Friends Camp community? Friends Camp is always looking for people who have valuable skills to lend to our committee or sub-committees, soon or in the future.
The Friends Camp Committee is part of the governing structure for Friends Camp with specific duties and responsibilities delegated to it by New England Yearly Meeting. The sub-committees include Finance, Health & Safety, Development, Personnel, Buildings & Grounds, and Nominating.
The Friends Camp Committee is made up of 10- 15 members, including both Friends and non-Friends who care deeply about Friends Camp. Please fill out the form below if you are interested in becoming a member of the committee or a sub-committee.Fill out the interest form hereCamp Activities for Back to SchoolAt our end of session fire circle, many campers often talk about wanting to bring the camp spirit home with them. Here are a few activities that we do at camp that you can share with friends, family, peers, or coworkers that can help it feel like Friends Camp is with you year-round!Young Friends October RetreatThe Young Friends fall retreat is happening October 18 – 20, 2024 at the Portland Friends Meeting. The theme for this retreat is the costumes we wear. Read more below and click the link to register.
Each year on the last day of 10th month (October), people across the country don costumes and assume new identities in celebration of Halloween. Though early Friends did not observe this tradition, many Friends today do. But what about the costumes that we try on, both intentionally and unintentionally, during other times of the year? How do the costumes that we wear affirm and how do they obscure our identities? How do the early Friends customs of plain dress and “clothing ourselves in righteousness” resonate with our spiritual practices and traditions today?
Join Young Friends for a weekend of silliness, deep conversation, and reflection at Portland Friends Meeting. You can register for the retreat here.Friends Camp BrochuresDo you know of a local place where some Friends Camp brochures might shine? We have informational brochures that can be placed around New England to spread the word about camp to new families. Libraries, community centers, cafés, Meetinghouses, and churches are all great spots for these brochures to live. (Or another place near you that you think would be good!) Fill out this form if you have a local spot where you could post some fliers!      

Make a Gift to Friends Camp

“What Does Unity Look Like?” by Constance Kincaid Brown

Message for Durham Friends Meeting based on Psalm 133, September 8, 2024

Psalm 133

How very good and pleasant it is when kindred live together in unity!

It is like the precious oil on the head,

running down upon the beard,

on the beard of Aaron,

running down over the collar of his robes.

It is like the dew of Hermon,

which fall on the mountains of Zion.

For there the Lord ordained his blessing, life forevermore.

       —The New Oxford Annotated Bible Fifth Edition, NRSV

            Good morning!  Hallelujah!  I am so grateful to be here with you this morning, and so surprised.  I am surprised that Spirit asked that I bring a message to you because public vocal testimony is not my strongest gift.  As Friend Sue Reilly often says, the conversation with the Divine often includes the incredulous question “You want me to do what?!” So, I am here before you in faithfulness – trusting that all will be well.[1]  Please extend both patience and grace to me as I practice being faithful to this leading to be among you.  What I believe I am asked to do today is to help us celebrate the joy, the labor, and the messiness of Quaker unity which like all great symphonies has plenty of dissonance. Today I hold out to you that we need to celebrate that dissonance – that messiness, that uncomfortable feeling – as part of the in-breaking of the Holy Spirit in our time.  We need to figure out how to do this without becoming so focused on the dissonance, or the messenger, that we forget to take in as much of the entire opus as possible. We also need to allow the dissonances and the silences in order to appreciate and fully enter the joy of the musical experience.

              I rediscovered Psalm 133, the Psalm we read this morning, after a concordance search to see what the Scriptures had to say about unity.  I was asked to help present a program on the “Spiritual Literacy: Reading the Sacred in Everyday Life” and my assigned theme was unity. Honestly, the New Testament verses weren’t very helpful to me that day. They focused on unity as a way to protect and build a new community in the midst of first century Christian persecution. The authors of the text we were using as the base of this program, Frederic and Mary Ann Brussat,[2] would probably would have found the New Testament readings acceptable because they defined unity as “living in harmony with other people.[3] They continued their description of unity saying:

It means working for a common cause with those around the globe who know that when one person gains, all gain, and when one fails, all fail. We are crafting unity when we build communities.” They continue:

“The spiritual practice of hospitality helps us learn to respect differences and celebrate diversity in Creation. Unity is about affirming commonalities.  This can be as simple as acknowledging how you are like another person. It can lead to actions demonstrating your solidarity with others. Without unity, there is little hope for compassion, justice, or peace.[4]

I could agree – all of that is true, but for me this definition wasn’t complete enough.  I had much more that I wanted to express about the process of getting to unity.  As a Quaker, I have found that unity goes far beyond the Brussats’ description. Their description left out the messiness, and sometimes hurtfulness, in getting to unity.  It seemed to pass too quickly over the acknowledgment of and celebration of differences as well as commonalities, and it left out the mysticism of personal unity with the Holy Spirit. That moment when one’s head, heart and gut align, and one just knows that their will is aligned with the will of the Divine.  That moment when one can stop struggling and striving, at least for a short time.   I delighted in this Old Testament image of messy oil and damp dew. In its poetry, the psalm seemed to capture both the messiness of unity and the mystical union that was beyond caring about any possible mess. This image of unity, with all its messiness, painted exactly the vision of what I wanted to express about Quaker unity to this non-Quaker group. As I became aware of the Holy Spirit guiding my search of the Scriptures for an adept Biblical metaphor, I experienced a tiny bit of the Everyday Sacred.

            When this group and I eventually read Psalm 133 together, and I described how chaotic unity could look in my Quaker world, I wondered if I was making any sense to these non-Quaker folks.  I spoke of Quakers protesting and getting arrested for any number of causes while other Quakers sit and hold them in waiting, expectant worship or stand in silence to film and witness their protest.  I spoke of those Quakers raising funds for the bail and defense of those arrested.  I spoke of the sacrifice of time, comfort and money on each person’s part. I spoke of Bolivian Quakers creating water filters in their country.  I spoke of worldwide gatherings of Quakers and different worship practices with some worshipping by singing and shouting praises to God and Jesus while others sit in silent, expectant worship listening for the still small voice within and some who do both. I spoke of those using very different language to speak of the Divine. Those that use the words God, Christ Jesus and Holy Spirit and those that prefer to speak of the Light and the Light within.  I spoke of the energy needed to lovingly listen through another’s language – a process that can be painful and rewarding at the same time.  I spoke of the longing to hear one’s own language spoken by another.  I spoke of intervisitation both regionally and internationally with Friends going, and being received, in a Spirit of Love and Friendship. I spoke of some of these travelers bearing needed medical or other supplies or a message that needs to be heard.  I spoke of those carrying a message hearing another message in response. I spoke of other Quakers sponsoring refugees from war torn, poverty ridden, or intolerant places to come to other safer places for a better chance at reaching their divine potential; I spoke of the fear and needs of those coming and those receiving them.  I spoke of Quaker Women from Kenya and the United States working together to provide something as simple as reusable sanitary pads, and the means to make more, so that poor Kenyan women could continue to go to school or work regularly and reach their potential in the place that they live.  I spoke of those teaching at the Friends Schools in Portland, ME, Providence, RI and in the West Bank City of Ramallah.  I spoke of painful arguing among ourselves over how all of us will be welcomed to our Quaker table.  I spoke of some putting their bodies in harm’s way while others stayed home and maintain a base of operation as Margaret Fell did at Swarthmore Hall centuries ago.  I spoke of those that gave of their capital so that other could answer these calls to witness to the Love of the Spirit in the World. We also spoke of the individual unity with the Divine that is possible. 

            I paused and asked the group if what I was describing made any sense to them. What I didn’t know was that I was speaking with some weighty and skilled musicians.   To show their understanding, one of them gave me back the beautiful metaphor of dissonance in a symphony with which I opened this message.[5]   The rest of the group joined in the development of that metaphor.  Hallelujah, my shoulders dropped three inches, and I sighed a breath of relief as I watched this group run with this discussion of how chaotic unity could look and how messy and fulfilling it could simultaneously be.  They described their understanding that Unity was not about sameness and uniformity, but an active Spirit working to make the “City of the Divine”[6] a reality for all in this moment right now.  They spoke of how hard one musical piece might be to perform while another is easy. They spoke of a unity not just about building community and restoring “streets to dwell live in”[7] by working toward a common goal, but a unity of our will transformed to match that of the Divine in its many manifestations both individually and collectively.

            Soon after this Spiritually-covered experience with these non-Quaker friends, I took a class on Quaker Beliefs at Earlham School of Religion with Stephen Angell.  Kenyan Quaker Paster Noah Kellum was also taking that class.  In the class he summarized well this symphony of messy Quaker unity when he shared:

The concept of unity in diversity is a cornerstone of Quaker belief and practice. Despite the diverse interpretations and practices that have emerged over the centuries, Quakers maintain a sense of unity rooted in shared values and spiritual experiences. This unity is not about uniformity in thought or action but a deeper spiritual connection and mutual respect that transcends differences. – Noah Kellum, May 2024

I would modify Noah’s summary only slightly to say “a sense of unity rooted in shared values and in both shared and diverse spiritual experiences.”

            More recently, at our Yearly Meeting Sessions, Friend LVM Shelton expanded the metaphor of the symphony for me when she noted that the silences in the piece are often as important as the dissonance.  She noted how the silent rest can mark endings, new beginnings, and changes in the direction of the movement, changes in the direction of our lives.[8]  

            I hope today that sharing this story of my still evolving, metaphor for Unity brings you both joy and hope for the work before us as 21st century post-modern Quakers. I hope we continue to be alive to and listen for new in-breaking of the Spirit of Love, Light, Toil and maybe even a little Chaos and Pain   We may hear that still small voice anywhere – in the melody, the harmonies, the dissonance, or the silent rests.  I pray that we might recognize and greet this Spirit both among us and among those that would be co-creators with us. I pray that the oil we receive is warm and free flowing and acknowledge that often I fail to perceive my oil this way.  Sometimes it feels cold and sticky.  I seek to feel my oil as warm and free flowing every day: however, I was recently reminded by Tammy Forner, who is here with me today as Elder, that “cold, sticky oil also serves a purpose,” one being a base for healing salves.  

             Now, I invite you to close your eyes and feel your oil and dew in this moment and know your condition whatever it may be.  Is it blessed warm oil pouring over your head and dripping down your neck and over your collar?   Is it encounter in a blessed, silent pause or in a cacophony of sound?  Maybe today it feels more like a cold, sludge that you are going to need help removing. Is it getting in your eyes and dripping from your nose making your way forward seem unclear possibly filling your heart with fear? Or maybe your oil feels like gentle, anointing massage oil, working its way into your pores, relaxing and energizing at the same time.  Preparing and opening you with love for whatever comes next in your call to live a life aligned with the Holy Spirit.  Maybe it’s like a good hand lotion, soaking in and moisturizing your soul – hardly noticed once applied.[9]  Is it so unnoticed that you forget to return to the Source and apply more before your soul has begun to dry out and long for more moisture?

            And speaking of moisture, what about that dew that gives needed moisture to plants?  While sometimes dew is a blessed relief from relenting heat and drought, at other times it makes your feet wet and cold and has dirt and grass clippings sticking to your shoes.  That dew can make it impossible to sit down in the grass or on a lawn chair without soiling your britches.  Don’t we sometimes grumble over the moisture and soiled britches and forget to be grateful for them both?   

            So what does unity or being in the process of getting to unity feel like for you in this moment?  Does it feel like a refreshing blessing or costly, dirty struggle?  Is it oily or dewy?  Does it raise hot fear in you that needs the moist dew to calm it? Are you exhausted and in need of oil to relax and be rejuvenated?  Are you able to feel any joy in the knowledge that unity is both a process and moments in time?[10]  It’s probably clear that for me, Unity is not a destination to which we arrive together once and for all.   How is your process of getting to unity both with the Divine and with the communities surrounding you fairing today? 

Bibliography

Abbot, Margery Post. To Be Broken and Tender: a Quaker theology for today. Palo Alto, California: Friends Bulletin Corporation, 2010.

Brussat, Frederic, and Mary Ann Brussat. Spiritual Rx. New York: Hyperion, 2000.


[1] Julian of Norwich reference

[2] (Brussat and Brussat 2000)

[3] Ibid

[4] Ibid

[5] Thank you to Mary Anne Totten and the residents of the Havenwood Heritage Heights first “Spiritual Literacy: Reading the Sacred in Everyday Life” group for this wonderful metaphor of dissonance in a symphony.

[6] (Abbot 2010)

[7] See Isaiah 58:12 RSV

[8] Thanks to Mary Anne Totten for reminding me that a musical term for a silent pause in the music is a “rest.”

[9] Thank you to Mary Wholley, from the Hadley MA UCC church for adding the metaphor of the love of the Spirit being like hand cream to my repertoire.

[10] Thanks to Brian Drayton for a conversation in which I realized that Unity is a both/and situation.  It is something that happens in a moment and a continuous process






Singing for Shepherds, Worship via DFM, September 15, 2024


Here is some background to September 15 Worship presentation regarding Singing for Shepherds — Leslie Manning

Sunday, September 15, 2024
9 a.m–6 p.m. Eastern // 6 a.m.–3 p.m. Pacific

You’re invited to a joyful, hopeful drop-in Zoom event. Participate as a whole meeting, as a Sunday school group, as a family, or as an individual Friend. You can come anytime and leave anytime. Appropriate for all ages!
 
During this day-long gathering, we’ll focus on two missions among pastoralist people in Kenya: Samburu Friends Mission and Turkana Friends Mission. We’ll hear stories about these missions, watch videos, and look at photographs. We’ll sing hymns together, pray for the missions and the people, and have a little fun with trivia. Depending on when you come, you might hear a Scripture-based message, join a prayer, see photographs of the missions, watch videos about the missions, participate in a trivia game, or sing a hymn. The activities will switch often. If you come for a whole hour, you might encounter as many as nine different elements.

We’ll also set a goal for $1000/month in new contributions to these missions. Why monthly commitments rather than one-time donations? Because these two missions bear remarkable fruits. They create church communities, run schools, provide health care, give scholarships, and deliver emergency feeding interventions, and yet it’s perpetually difficult to raise the necessary monthly funds to keep them going. We pray for the opportunity to change that as a global community. Every commitment will help, no matter how small.
 
All are welcome to participate in the event, and the hope is to have a Spirit-filled, brimming-with-love celebration of stories of faithfulness. If your Meeting or church has Zoom capability, you can join all together during your social hour or religious education time or even for a half-hour period as part of your business meeting agenda. Or join in as an individual, couple, or family. Please come.
 
Register here to receive a Zoom link:  tinyurl.com/singingforshepherds. Registration is free. You’ll receive the link to participate right away, but if you lose it, don’t worry. It’ll come again a week before the event, and the day before,  just to make sure everyone has it.

Still have questions? We have a question-and-answer page here.

Epistle, New England Yearly Meeting, August 2024

To Friends Everywhere, 

Grace and peace to you, in the love that flows from the Holy One who longs to help us know and live our unity with our human kindred and with all Creation! New England Yearly Meeting of the Religious Society of Friends gathered for its 364th annual meeting at Castleton, Vermont, and by video conference, from August 2nd through 7th, 2024. 

We acknowledge with humility and gratitude that we met on Ndakinna (n-DAH-kee-NAH), homeland of the Abenaki peoples. It was a joy to hear from Jorge Luis Peña, presiding clerk of Cuban Yearly Meeting and to have the presence of Cuban Friends by video conference. 

As we came together, we were acutely aware that our world is in turmoil. Armed conflicts in Israel/Palestine, Ukraine, Sudan, and other places are inflicting fear and suffering on millions. Oppressive regimes burden millions more. As climate change accelerates, we live with grief because of the wounds to the natural world that we love. As our days together unfolded, the sometimes stormy weather in Castleton reflected these impacts of climate change, which have resulted in recent disastrous flooding here, especially in the “Northeast Kingdom” of Vermont where we have beloved Friends. 

We acknowledge our participation in many of the world’s crises, such as climate change, political polarization, and the continued effects of white supremacy. There has been turmoil within our yearly meeting as well, as differences have arisen on many points, for example during our discernment about the creation of a new meeting. We have felt the need to strengthen our capacity for conflict response. 

Yet we affirm the joy and consolation of our community in the Spirit, within New England and beyond. We are glad to see our Friends new and old, and as we have centered together in worship, we are glad also to welcome the evidence of God’s work within and among us. The One who speaks, Creator-Sets-Free, is our steadfast companion, whose guidance we listen for, and whose love we strive to embody, however incompletely. When we accept that we are loved, we are strengthened to address our conflicts and our complicity in the ills of our society. 

Our Bible Half Hour speaker, Genna Ulrich, of Portland Friends Meeting, reminded us how important it is to accept one another fully, even one who at first does not seem to belong, like John the Baptizer clothed in unshorn camel-hide and eating locusts and honey. In being able to do this, we reflect in our measure the radical way that God accepts and loves each of us. Our experience of this love allows us to better hear the Good News and change our purpose to better align with the divine ordering, the Gospel Order.

Our plenary speaker, Lloyd Lee Wilson, of Friendship Friends Meeting, North Carolina YM(C), reminded us of the many, sometimes wordless, ways that the divine speaks to us. He described his experience of the “spirituality of subtraction,” a practice by which we find ourselves gradually freed from distracting habits and unexamined assumptions. This makes it easier to hear the messages we are given by the One who speaks, God-With-Us, even if we are led in ways we do not at first understand. 

We also were reminded that faithfulness to the leadings we are given, even when we see no great effects, is humble participation in Christ’s ministry of reconciliation. In our time together, sharing reports of our experiences of the Spirit’s gifts has given us courage and led us to see the many ways in which we need to grow in the love and power of the divine life, if we are to respond, in our measure, to the challenges before us, within our community as well as in the world. 

We continue our efforts to understand ways in which we enact the patterns of oppression that express the values of the culture in which we are embedded, a culture which places differential values on humans, the children of God, according to race or gender expression, class, education, or age. We long to be perfect in love, as Jesus calls us to be, and to respond humbly to others, but we remain beginners, apprentices in the school of the spirit that is Quakerism, struggling to apply the lessons of love, even with those near to us, where trust and forgiveness ought to be in richest supply. 

The work of repairing relationships with those we have harmed is even more challenging and requires greater humility. For example, this year we heard from Friends who presented a report on the complicity of New England Yearly Meeting in the great harms inflicted by the so-called Indian Boarding Schools. The report found that New England Friends were deeply, directly, and intimately involved in the creation and material sustenance of these assimilating boarding schools and the policies that drove and justified them. We encouraged the reporting Friends to continue their work and explore what next steps we may take as way opens. 

We have come to recognize that many structures and practices in our meetings at every level must be renewed or transformed, if they are to help us listen to the Spirit and act in faithfulness. We hope to listen more to young and old, newcomers and old-timers, to tend their seeds of spirit and encourage the use of their gifts. Such changes in practice and habit are unsettling, and can bring conflict. Experimental living in community requires patience, forbearance, and the healing flashes of divine humor as we try and fail, improvise and revise. 

We can know that we are walking with the Guide by the growing beauty and freedom of the way we are led, the fearlessness with which we love and act, the growing scope of our gratitude. Not all at once will we come to maturity in that Spirit; not all at once will we acknowledge where we have fallen short, or be able truly to forgive or accept our need for forgiveness. Genna Ulrich reminded us of Jesus’ teaching that only God is good, and challenged us to avoid the easy assumption that because we’re Quakers, we are “good people” — rather than examining our actual behaviors and effects in the world.

But we are reminded this week that the blessings we have — among them our children, our friends, the abundant Creation, and the resources of the Quaker way — are bread for the journey, deriving from the divine Seed whom we cherish so dearly. Knowing this, the call and the need for radical transformation are invitations to meaning, and to joy. We recall with hope God’s prophetic assertion: I am about to do a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? (Isaiah 43:19 NRSV). Alleluia! 

Yours In Faith and Love, New England Yearly Meeting of the Religious Society of Friends , Rebecca Leuchak, Presiding Clerk

Vassalboro Quarterly Meeting, September 6-7, 2024 — Invitation

Durham Friends folks are invited to Vassalboro Quarterly Meeting’s Fall gathering, Friday and Saturday, Seotember 6&7. The Friday evening session will be via Zoom. The Saturday session will only be in-person at Friends Camp (no Zoom). The full announcement and schedule is below. (Vassalboro is a neighboring Quarterly Meeting; Durham is part of Falmouth Quarterly Meeting.) Note an RSVP is requested if you plan to attend either session.

Friday evening will focus on the spiritual state of member meetings of Vassalboro Quarter. The Saturday program will focus on Friends relations with Native Americans.

Fall Gathering 2024, Sept 6th, 6:30 pm-8pm on Zoom and Sept 7th, 8:30 am- 3pm at Friends Camp, China Maine

“Few are guilty………All are responsible”         Rabbi Abram Joshua Heschel

“A sower went out to sow his seed. And as he sowed, some fell by the wayside; and it was trampled down, and the birds of the air devoured it. Some fell on rock; and as soon as it sprang up, it withered away because it lacked moisture. And some fell among thorns, and the thorns sprang up with it and choked it. But others fell on good soil, sprang up, and yielded [a]a crop a hundredfold.” When He had said these things He cried, “He who has ears to hear, let him hear!” Luke 8: 5-8

Greetings , Friends,

Many “seeds” were sown during Yearly Meeting sessions this August. We were asked to have ears to hear so that we may be the “good soil” and yield.

We were also told of some of our Quaker history and involvement in the Indian Boarding  Schools in the 1800-1900’s.    

Through the deep and personally-grounded messages, we, as a body, discerned the way forward on the heavy issues facing us.

So, for this Fall Gathering, we wanted to hear the voices from Friends in Maine (all of you!) on what is lifting you up? How are you led, and how do you prepare the soil? How do you nourish the seeds of good within and around you?  

On Friday evening, we will be hearing highlights from our monthly meeting’s spiritual life, “state of society,” and reflecting on how those “seeds,” from other monthly meetings, find soil in us to start to grow towards the Light.

On Saturday morning, we will be hearing from two Friends. First, Shirley Hager will share how she came to her most recent leading to foster creation of a program of support for first time Wabanaki university students. Then we will hear from Janet Hough and how following her current deep dive into the Friends Indigenous Boarding school’s is changing her. We will have worship following each offering and a chance to reflect and share.

On Saturday afternoon, there will be a choice to have discussion and open sharing about either: 
1) diving deeper into what is rising up for us when we hear of historic & present indigenous oppression
or
2) what is rising up in our response to other injustices

Please save the date and spread the word of Fall Gathering , on the weekend after Labor Day,  Fri. Sept 6 and Sat.Sept.7th.

Friday, Sept 6th on Zoom from 6:30-8 pm; a link will be sent

Saturday, Sept 7th in-person at Friends Camp (no Zoom) under the tent or in the Aviary, if the weather requires

See next page for more information about hospitality & Saturday’s schedule

Saturday schedule

8:30 am : Fellowship with refreshments and finger foods

9-10 am :   Intro and worship sharing on the Parable of the seed and the soil.

10:15-11 am :   Shirley Hager: “The Evolution of a Leading: Way Keeps Opening,” followed by worship sharing

11:00 am:   Janet Hough will share about her journey exploring NEYM’s involvement in Quaker Indigenous Boarding Schools, followed by worship sharing;

12:00 pm     Lunch (soups from Vassalboro MM),   veggies, fruit, salads, breads from other attenders

1: 15pm-2:30pm  Break into group of choice for sharing

2:30- 3pm   Sharing reflections from the day

For those who would like to stay with Vassalboro Friends on Friday or Saturday evenings, hospitality is offered at the contact below

Please bring a veggie, fruit, salad or bread to offer for lunch.  A choice of soups is provided by Vassalboro MM Friends.

A link for Friday eve will be sent the week prior to all on this email list. If you didn’t receive this email directly from Janet, please ask to be added to the list if you wish to receive further correspondence and the link directly.  

FMI or hospitality questions…………Holly Weidner     weidnerholly@gmail.com or 649-1305  

RSVP is appreciated for Friday and Saturday attendance but not required. 

Feel free to invite others who you feel may be interested in joining us for this day of sharing and listening.

“What Do We Say to God?” by Fritz Weiss

Message given at Durham Friends Meeting, August 11, 2024

What do we say to God?

A friend recommended a book of poems, Bucolics by Maurice Manning.  I trust their recommendations so I purchased it. I didn’t appreciate the poems until I started reading them out loud. These poems are one side of a conversation between the poet and Creation or God.  Reading them out loud made me pay attention. This is the poet talking to God or creation – what he calls “Boss” – without including God’s response. 

I’m going to read a few poems and some sections of poems in this message – I will read each poem twice.

O boss of ashes boss of dust
you bother with what floats above
the chimney what settles to the ground

you wake the motes from sleep
you make them curtsy in a ray of sun
they hold their tiny breath as if
they’re waiting for the little name
of the dance that’s coming next then they
will take their places Boss if I
were smaller I would join them O
I’d cut a rug or two I’d slap
my hand against my shoe if that’s
the kind of fuss you’re raising Boss
you know I never know for sure
I only know you bother me
from time to time you’ve caught my breath

a time or two you’ve stirred me up
before which makes me want to tell
you Boss I wouldn’t mind it if
you bothered me a little more

What leaps out is the clarity that the poet knows that Boss is present in each moment, each small event is significant, and that the poet feels invited to observe, comment and feels bold enough to make suggestions to Boss. This is an intimate, reciprocal relationship. The speaker is curious about Boss,  and sees themselves as a collaborator with Boss.  And Boss knows the poet fully.  By sharing their half of the conversation, we are invited into this wonderful relationship.  The poet is engaged in a ceaseless conversation and is sharing what they have learned about God from their experience.  

Am I your helper Boss or am

I not do I bring in the Hay

For me or you or only for

The horse I help the horse he helps

Me too why sometimes Boss he hooks

His head across my shoulder just

To rest it there he’ll heave a sigh

As if he’s tuckered he always makes

me laugh he knows I know he wants

an apple Boss his heavy head

on me it helps it helps so much

it helps to hear him sigh a sigh

he doesn’t really mean he means

another thing is that the way

you mean to mean another Boss

another thing beyond the thing

you want from me you see the horse

gives me a weary sigh when he’s

not sleepy Boss he doesn’t want

to hear sweet dreams from me he wants

to hear you want an apple hoss

I mean we help each other Boss

—————-

Fragments:

 … O everything gets carried Boss, / even if it never moves / I wonder if you ever notice/ but sometimes Boss I carry you.

How big is your hand Boss hold it up / to show me if you can I need / to know you know I need to know/ so many things …

I guess you’ve got a lot / of hands though I’m just one / of many Boss  I’ll turn / the earth I’ll shock the corn / O Boss whatever else / you need I’ll pitch it in …

In reading these poems, I found myself paying attention to what I say to God – beyond the intentional forms of praise and gratitude and listening. ..  I recognized that when I am asked how spirit is with me,  I’m more apt to share what I felt or heard from God then to share my side of the conversation.   Talking with God is prayer. 

In The Sermon on The Mount, Jesus is giving direct and clear guidance to his followers – to preach, to share all things in common, to heal.  But he has to teach his followers how to pray – they know how to do all the other things, but they did not know how to pray.  The prayer he talk, as it comes to us after many translations is a prayer that includes permission to make demands on God “Give us our Daily Bread”…

When I pray each morning I start singing “Praise God from whom all blessings flow..”  The way I talk to God reveals how I see God, what I know from my experience. Do I see God as playful, inviting, distant, funny, known or a mystery? Do I see God as a Savior, a Father, a constant companion? As separate from me or as something I am a part of? The other day in my morning prayers, after singing “Praise God” and noticing all that I had to be grateful for since the day before, I realized that the meadow where I go each morning was so full of bees and other pollinators that I could hear it hum.  It was this that I talked to God about through the rest of the day – not the gratitude or the praise or the petitions.  

The query that I bring is what do you say to God? Are you bold enough to make suggestions? Are you paying the close attention that creation warrants? Are you paying attention to the dance of the dust motes.  What do you say to God and how does that inform you of what you know of God?

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Here is a poem I did not read that I find particularly delightful and close to some of my conversations with God.

I  like the weaving bees I like

The purple clover blossoms the way

The pasture runs away I like

In winter sinking lambs in straw

How I like bearing buckets full

of water waking up the sun

I like making up a little song

O looking at the sky I close

One eye I hold my hand in the air

I let the red hawk tip my fingers

Every day I pretend I am

A tree in your pasture Boss a tree …

Durham Friends Meeting Minutes, July 21, 2024 DRAFT

Durham Monthly Meeting of Friends met for the conduct of business on Sunday, July 21, 2024, with 10 people in attendance at the Meetinghouse and one attending by Zoom. Tess Hartford clerked the meeting.

  1. Approval for Meeting Clerk 

Meeting approved Tess Hartford as Clerk of July Monthly Meeting for the conduct of business. 

2. Meeting Opening

To continue Meeting for Worship, Clerk read from the book “Christian Meditation” by James Finley. Harper Collins, 2004.:  

“Saint Paul writes in his Letter to the Philippians, ‘In your minds you must be the same as Christ Jesus’ (Phil. 2:5). We become the same as Christ Jesus in our minds through a lifelong process of conversion in which Christ’s mind and our mind become one mind, one way of seeing and being in the world. The faithful practice of meditation is a way of learning to follow the spirit’s prompting in being led along this self-transforming path into the mind of Christ. Let us then explore the ways in which we enter Christ’s mind in meditation. Such an inquiry will take us into the innermost recesses of Christian faith. These inner recesses consist of neither beliefs nor institutional structures, but rather a self-transforming journey into the vibrant center of reality itself As our inquiry unfolds, a portrait of Christ will emerge in which we can recognize our own true face as one destined by God to be one with God forever.” pp. 175

3. Approval of Minutes of June 16 2024 — Ellen Bennett

Meeting approved the minutes of the June meeting for business. 

4. Ministry and Counsel — Renee Cote

Renee summarized the meeting for worship schedule for message-givers and Zoom availability for the next several weeks. 

Discussion ensued about a memorial service for Lyn Clark. Considered were a special meeting, a meeting for remembrance in October for all who have passed, and honoring Lyn as part of a regular unprogrammed meeting for worship. It was agreed to note particularly what Barbara Simon had written and read to us about Lyn. The unprogrammed Meeting scheduled for August 25 was lifted up as a possibility that included inviting Barbara Simon and asking person responsible for Care of Worship to read her statement at the start of meeting.

Meeting approved M&C continuing their discussion of this, as well as the handling of memorial meetings/services in general.

M&C was asked to talk to individuals about what they would like regarding their own memorial gathering/meeting. 

5. Trustees Report — Sarah Sprogell

Sarah read the Trustee Report aloud. 

Trustees are asking for approval to continue their work with respect to the bequest of an estate of a former member. Trustees are also asking for approval, should it be necessary, to use up to $10,000 to pay for legal representation in pursuit of this matter. Trustees will seek out all avenues to resolve the situation before turning to hiring an attorney. 

Meeting approved that Trustees continue to pursue the matter.

Meeting approved use funds up to $10,000, if necessary.

Clerk reaffirmed the Meeting’s trust in Trustees, and asked for prayers for their continuing efforts. 

In addition, a member expressed gratitude to Sarah Sprogell, which the Meeting shared, for her attention to the condition of our beloved Meetinghouse.

6. Other Business

For everyone’s information, Ellen described the formation of an ad hoc event-planning working group. The group was asked to remember logistics, specifically with respect to the meeting calendar!

Meeting agreed that any members of Durham Friends Meeting who attend business sessions at NEYM be considered representatives of the Meeting.

The next business meeting will be held September 16th. 

7. Closing Worship 

Respectfully submitted,  Ellen Bennett, Recording Clerk

Attachments

Agenda and Materials for Durham Friends Business Meeting, July 21, 2024

Materials for the July 21, 2024 Meeting for Worship for Business can be found HERE (to be posted by Friday evening).

AGENDA FOR THE CONDUCT OF BUSINESS FOR DURHAM FRIENDS MONTHLY MEETING

1) Approval needed for Tess Hartford to Clerk the Monthly Meeting for July through September

    Tess will offer an opening prayer/reading for Worship

    2) Approve June 16, 2024 Business Meeting Minutes. Any additions, questions or corrections?    

    3) Report from Ministry and Counsel

    4) Report from Trustees

    5) Finance committee and Peace and Social Concerns do not have reports this month

    6) Other business

    7) Close with waiting worship

    Woman’s Society Minutes, June 17, 2024

    Durham Friends Woman’s Society Meeting Minutes 6.17.’24

    We gathered at the Meeting House and Dorothy Hinshaw joined us on Zoom.

    Present: Dorothy Curtis, President, Susan Gilbert, Secretary, Kim Bolshaw, Dorothy Hinshaw.

    Cards: For Friends.

    Program and Devotions: Kim read for Blueprints “Giving Thanks for Love Unexpected” by Nellie Malloy. Scripture Ephesians 3:20, John 14:1, Isaiah 65:24a, Jeremiah 29.11. Song: More Love to Thee, and Make Me a Blessing. Nelly is a member of Cascade Quaker Meeting, a small meeting high in the northern Blue Mountains of Jamaica. Experiencing deep grief at the loss her husband and son to cancer, Nellie found comfort in God’s love. When faced by a possible cancer diagnosis herself, panic and fear were soothed as she studied her Bible and asked her meeting and family for prayers. Further tests did not reveal cancer. Through her life’s challenges, Nellie’s love and gratitude for God has deepened.

    Minutes: Susan read the 6.20.’24 minutes, written by Nancy Marstaller.

    Treasurer’s Report: The Woman’s Society account gained $942. from the plant sale, plus $45. in donations. Balance $1012.96.

    Prayer’s: For Friends.

    Tedford Meal: Prepared by Kim’s Team A, the meal was Mac and cheese, with or without ham, bananas, clementines and apples, little carrots and salad dressing, with ice cream for dessert. The July 1st meal will be brought by Team B. Volunteer contributions of food or donations are welcome. 

    Other Business: We discussed having another silent auction this year, to be planned at our next meeting in September. We will not meet in July, and on August 19th we will have our annual Woman’s Society dinner, all Friends and friends welcome.

    Dorothy closed the meeting with a reading of  Thomas à Kempis:

    “Have confidence in God’s mercy, for when you think He is far from you, He is…near.”

    Respectfully Submitted, Susan Gilbert

    Meet Mary Rowlandson, July 19, 2024, 7pm

    Meet Mary Rowlandson, presented by Quaker storyteller Katie Green

    Friday, July 19 at 7 PM, Durham Friends Meeting

    Based on her own account, Mary speaks of her capture by Native people during Metacom’s Rebellion, aka King Phillip’s War, in 1670’s Massachusetts. 

    This challenging narrative will be followed by discussion on issues that remain important today- racism, theocracy and right relationship with Indigenous neighbors.

    It will also be made available by Zoom; please email durham@neym.org for details.